Why are you single?

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  • shoneybabes
    shoneybabes Posts: 199 Member
    because the relationship hit the end of the road.

    Staying single for a while because the thought of getting back on the horse weirds me out. :noway:

    I stayed single for a year and a half and enjoyed it. Yes I loved being in a relationship but being single is also good for the soul. It is where you learn who you really are as a person.
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    I am picky when it comes to women.

    I am old school!!!


    Finding a women that can cook, drink, and has a sense of humor is becoming hard to find.
  • Siekobilly
    Siekobilly Posts: 401 Member
    I spend the majority of my time working, focusing on my career. I'm concerned I'd put my work before someone else, so I just avoid the situation altogether.
  • ellenasl210
    ellenasl210 Posts: 95 Member
    I don't want a relationship going into college... High school relationships hardly ever last in college. Plus, I just wanna have fun next year;)
  • OllyReeves
    OllyReeves Posts: 579 Member
    Because I've not met anyone worth not being single for for a while, and I'm just not prepared to settle.

    I'm 33, and always pictured myself having kids much younger than this, but there is still plenty of time.

    I've been single about two years, and am definitely ready to settle down, but not until she comes along......
  • OnionGirl7
    OnionGirl7 Posts: 33
    Because I'm to afraid of getting into another bad situation again.

    18 years of mental abuse followed by 18 months of mental and financial abuse. I won't do it again, chances are next one will be Physically abusive and I now know I'm worth more than that.

    Besides I have a defense wall so high no one can get through, just in case they do I've dug a moat filled with bloody thirsty dribbling dragons and then for extra protection, I've added 100lbs of blubber as a cushion.:cry:
  • LadyPakal
    LadyPakal Posts: 256 Member
    I've been single since my divorce. Not even been on a date and I find it hard to meet new people. Being an introvert and feeling fat and ugly makes life a little difficult sometimes. I am working on the feeling fat and ugly part - the introvert bit is harder.
  • VarnerChic
    VarnerChic Posts: 35 Member
    Wow, wasn't expecting to read such honest answers when I opened this thread. I'm like many of you; single mom, going to school, working full-time, etc................

    The bottom line? Too busy and probably too picky. That said, it is such a good idea to get to know who you are and what makes you tick before dating. Really bummed to read that so many people don't love themselves or have put themselves in an emotional box. Labels are confining and the one thing I've learned to appreciate about being single is the ability to work on my issues and CHANGE how I feel and what I think and how I act.

    The desire to be in a fulfilling relationship (I believe) is God given and not something to be ashamed of wanting. But, there are worse things than being single......

    “Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained”-C.S. Lewis

    Until I find someone that I respect, admire, and truly wish them well whether we are together or not, I'll probably stay single.
  • RosscoBoscko
    RosscoBoscko Posts: 632 Member
    Because my ex split up with me. Nearly been a year and struggling to get over her still, mainly cos I see her every week and am trying to build a strong friendship with her.

    She doesn't have the same problem though, its just me who needs to move on, easier said than done but want her to be happy so have to accept she will find that with someone else, and I honestly hope she does. But aside from that I have no confidence or self esteem, so see no reason for anyone to be interested.

    also have close friends who are women that I spend a lot of time with, so that if people see us out they probably think that we are together.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    Because frankly, I don't care.

    I see no real point dating someone just to say that I have someone... to me thats stupid.

    I'd much rather rock the single life, doing what I want, when I want, instead of having to worry about another person and their feelings/plans/etc.
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    dont know , must be something wrong with me :/
  • xSakura
    xSakura Posts: 288 Member
    Because the guy who supposedly loved me and was with for 2 years, left me, because he didn't wanna put up with my ''health problems'' ... And then got back with his psycho ex 2 weeks later. :mad:
  • Cyndi1
    Cyndi1 Posts: 484 Member
    Because I choose to be. I would love to find someone, but I've always believed that it is better to be alone than to settle. The right person will come along one day---that goes for everyone :)


    Amen girl!!!! exactly where I am.
  • Cyndi1
    Cyndi1 Posts: 484 Member
    cause I was already married once, I don't just want anyone. I want someone who is right for me- my equal. I love mature men, I am struggling to find that. Sorry guys not beig rude, I just like a man who knows what a good woman is and can deliver to her.
  • Easywider
    Easywider Posts: 434 Member
    Because I was in a long term relationship that ended less than ideally...So it's taken me awhile regroup intrapersonally and emotionally. A year and a half later...I think I've established/refined enough about myself to make a solid partner. Now the challenge is finding a single woman who's mature, moraled, and self-sufficient.
  • thatjulesgirl
    thatjulesgirl Posts: 200 Member
    Because I'm fat. Basically.

    When it finally dawned on me that I was my ex's 'dirty little (ha!) secret' and that the reason I'd never been introduced to friends or family (after two years) was because even though he thought I was "totally beautiful" he would "cop a lot of *kitten* for dating" me.... I realised that being fat and dating is pretty much impossible. He was a 6'6", buff, football player and he was ashamed to be seen with me.

    Buff guys want skinny girls.... and even big guys want skinny girls. And they get them, to! Not to mention guys my age (early twenties) seem to spend most of their time getting wasted and being *kitten*. So I suppose I'm not losing out on much anyway.

    Eventually, I decided I liked being single. No drama, no risk, no effort, no pain. Though I do miss the back massages and the occasional romp... :ohwell:
  • ooshlet
    ooshlet Posts: 18 Member
    because i like it. though if you tell people that when they ask you they assume you are lying!
  • groomchick
    groomchick Posts: 610 Member
    Because I wont sacrifice my dreams to live someone elses... theirs suck! ( and guys are selfish liars)
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Because I wont sacrifice my dreams to live someone elses... theirs suck! ( and guys are selfish liars)

    That could be it. Or maybe we "won't sacrifice our dreams to live someone esles" either.
  • d3mon4ngel
    d3mon4ngel Posts: 242 Member
    Because I'm just not the relationship type apparently. I get so far along, then either they turn out to be a **** who cheats on me, or I get bored and realise that they aren't "the one". :ohwell:

    I'm now choosing to stay single and live for myself, though I still sometimes allow my heart to get stamped on occasionally :cry: don't think I'll ever really learn...
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    Because I wont sacrifice my dreams to live someone elses... theirs suck! ( and guys are selfish liars)
    And no woman ever has been a selfish liar.
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    Pretty simple for me. No confidence around girls. I've always been the funny fat guy or "the friend."

    This!

    Now I'm the funny slightly overweight guy or "the friend" lol
  • madelonism
    madelonism Posts: 292 Member
    I am single because the handsome attorney hasn't declared that we are "going steady" yet XD
  • suzii32
    suzii32 Posts: 26
    Just so you know there is nothing sexier than a funny guy-no matter what size you are!!!
  • RosscoBoscko
    RosscoBoscko Posts: 632 Member
    Just so you know there is nothing sexier than a funny guy-no matter what size you are!!!

    Sorry, but having been told i'm the funny guy many times, I don't believe this is true or have never been given any reason to believe this!
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    Just so you know there is nothing sexier than a funny guy-no matter what size you are!!!

    go on , encourage us!
  • raiderrodney
    raiderrodney Posts: 617 Member
    It's just tough to find someone you're really into these days. And after being cheated on by my x-wife it makes me even more picky :(

    But I'm used to it at this point. I'll find someone one day ;)
  • falcon367
    falcon367 Posts: 116
    Women I find attractive don't see me as the same (I'm picky), I refuse to settle and at my age, meeting someone in the same stage of life (empty nester) with the same common interests is exceedingly difficult. I'm destined to be alone and ok with that.
  • HeidibooJB
    HeidibooJB Posts: 62 Member
    His character flaw, not your issue at all. You are beautiful. If you want to lose weight, do it for you, and nobody else. We will never be happy trying to please others.....you might as well try to catch the wind. I spent my entire youth being overweight and not liking myself much. It wasn't until I hit my late 30's (41now) that I started to realize that I am an amazing person who owes it to herself to get the most out of this one body that I have been blessed with.....just as it is, flaws and all.
    Because I'm fat. Basically.

    When it finally dawned on me that I was my ex's 'dirty little (ha!) secret' and that the reason I'd never been introduced to friends or family (after two years) was because even though he thought I was "totally beautiful" he would "cop a lot of *kitten* for dating" me.... I realised that being fat and dating is pretty much impossible. He was a 6'6", buff, football player and he was ashamed to be seen with me.

    Buff guys want skinny girls.... and even big guys want skinny girls. And they get them, to! Not to mention guys my age (early twenties) seem to spend most of their time getting wasted and being *kitten*. So I suppose I'm not losing out on much anyway.

    Eventually, I decided I liked being single. No drama, no risk, no effort, no pain. Though I do miss the back massages and the occasional romp... :ohwell:
  • rachjenn
    rachjenn Posts: 87
    When I was single..
    Having lads as best mates. Wouldn't get approached if out and would like to think this was why!

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