Why are you single?
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Because nothing has ever worked out for me. Its always the wrong person and the wrong time. i HATE it when people always say its whats on the inside that counts, This is true, but there is also attraction! You don't look across a room and say that's a beautiful brain! or boy those insides are hot! But once you find out that the outer doesn't match the inner! its over~ I want Chemistry, Love passion, friendship! We all have Issues, but if your not willing to work on yourself how do you expect to ever improve. You're no good to yourself or others! beauty is only skin deep! but ugly is to the bone!0
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Remember! You get what you give! If you don't have anything to give, to another then keep it moving! Its not fair to suck the life out of someone. Everyone need to be validated! we all want to be heard! XOXOX0
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Cause I am not the perfect guy! Lol0
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I figure it must be my weight. I get props on my laid back personality and am told I have a beautiful face. Who knew a size 16 was too big for love?
I definitely still put myself out there, but I guess it's just not my time....0 -
Because broken hearts are painful. One time was enough for me.0
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I am single because I won't settle...I have yet to find someone who allows me to be myself all the time.
Why is it so hard to find a guy that can handle me?
I am a gal who LOVES football and baseball, and likes to watch as many games a possible with a drink or 2, enjoys a night out with the girls, knows how to cook a gourmet meal, pays my own bills, has my own place, a good job, and knows what I want in life...
The last guy I was with actually told me I was TOO good...I looke at him like he had 3 heads...lol. We went to football games, comedy clubs, trivia night with his friends, whatever....
When he came home from work, he would have dinner made for him, I put on his favorite baseball team, had him watching the game while I cleaned up and did laundry... we would have a little sexy adult time and then I would go home...his friends (the girls and guys) thought he was nuts for breaking up with me. His ex-wife even liked me. His children adored me. I am still friends with his friends and they all try to set me up with people..they say "if Jeff wasn't smart enough to keep you..then someone else will be.".
Since him I have had nothing but BAD dates....some of you have heard about them. I could write a sitcom based on them, some of them seem so hard to believe...:laugh:
Anyway, being single isn't bad. I like who I am, have a good life, and I have no shortage of dates..if that right guy happens to come around, then it is meant to be, if not...you won't see me crying at home on a Saturday night because I am alone....you will find me with my friends..out enjoying this wonderful life...:drinker:
I can answer why it didn't work: You gave him WAY TOO MUCH. Men, although they won't admit it, like to chase. You gave it to him too easy. He didn't have to work for ANYTHING.0 -
Because who needs a boyfriend when you can have cats.
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To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.0
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That just mean they don't like us lol.To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
If they find the fitness model millionaire they will marry him, divorce and take half
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To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
I can't answer for the other women, but for me settling is turning a blind eye to red flags, forgiving someone who lies and cheats, or putting in 110% when your partner doesn't even come close.
I've done all those things, which in my mind is 'settling' because I have alot of love to give and really hoped and thought I could love enough for the both of us.
Thankfully now I'm older and wiser but when I say I won't settle, it absolutely has nothing to do with looks, rather integrity and commitment to the relationship.0 -
Last serious relationshp came to an abrupt halt when we couldnt settle for living in her home country (England) or mine (US). I then quickly went into another relationship with a smoking hot, though completely bat**** crazy girl! After the last two, I figured I have wasted enough time. I am now focused on me and getting back into physical and emotional shape. I am not actively seeking a relationship at all, but I am not opposed to one if something interesting comes along. I am 35 in a few weeks, its time to do things right this time.0
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I'm not currently single, however, before I met my current boyfriend, I was 'dating' for 3 1/2 years. It took me a year and a half to get over my ex fiancé because he had messed with my head. From the age of 14, I hadn't been single for more then 6 months and that was a long time. Girls in highschool and college would make bets on how long I would be single for. I had boyfriends like crazy and was a 'slut'... the only virgin in my group of friends, but still a 'slut'.
I dated a terrible person at the age of 18 who was abusive, physically and mentally. I had lost my virginity to him which was why I stayed with him, young and stupid, I know. We were together for a year and a half with a lot of on and offs. After he beat the hell out of me one day and almost killed me, I phoned the police and eventually put him in jail, I was almost 20.
I then met a guy who I just wanted a fling with because I wanted an escape and just to rebel. We ended up having a disfunctional relationship, I was really messed up and thought he was going to hit me when we argued and he would yell at me and call me 'white trash'. He cheated on me all the time and I didn't know about it until after 2 1/2 years. We were broken up and his best friend told me. His dad passed and stupid me went running to his rescue while I was getting to know a great guy. We ended up back together for another 2 years of drama. He adopted Hailey, my dog, and I now have her and she's 7 1/2 because he didn't take care of her. He wanted the couch instead.
I then was a shooter girl at a strip club and met the door man, security guy, pursued me to no end! He was after me like white on rice. He was 3 years younger than I was, he was 21 I was 24 and was absolutely crazy for me. I pushed him away, which, of course, made him want me even more, and we ended up together. He bought me a $500.00 watch for our ONE MONTH anniversary, no red flags went off (dumb) and he proposed after 4 months, I accepted after a lot of struggle between head and heart. He ended up ending things with me after a year, I was completely devestated and he kept me on a string. He decided - yes he decided - we could date again and he ended things with me again and I was a loonie toon. Absolutely psycho and I won't denie that women do go insane because I know I was at this point. I ignored him and he would contact me after I moved almost 2 hours away for school. His step father had passed and I went to see his mom 2 months later and he was at home, I thought he was working. We watched a movie together, fooled around, I refused to sleep with him. I then found out the girl he was 'friends' with while he and I were together was his girlfriend. He cheated on her with me and denied it. That's what made me finally get over him.
I dated, I wasn't ready for anything serious and hurt a lot of guys. I was the girl that was pretty care free and just wanted to have 'fun'. I had 3 partners over the years I would use just for sex and tell them to leave in the morning and would only contact when I wanted my fix. I honestly thought all guys were the same because they just wanted me for sex. I then decided enough was enough and started to take myself more seriously. I took every guy I met with a grain of salt and gave them a really hard time about dating me. Some pursued me to no end and spent so much money on me it was disgusting. Others, would give up. I decided to give myself when I met a good one and they would always tell me "You're way too good for me!" and things would end - I stopped the chase and they got bored. Others, I wouldn't give more then a first date, some a month and I would just end it because I knew it wasn't going to progress. The young ones LOVE ME! I dated so many younger guys (up to 9 years younger) and I dated older guys as well but they just wanted sex, that I wouldn't give them.
Finally, I met my current boyfriend. Honestly, I wasn't an easy catch and he tells me this ALL THE TIME! He said "If I had done the same thing to you when we met, you would have told me to get lost a long time ago!" and he's right. We started being monogomous right off the bat, but he chased me for a good 2 months. I was crazy for him the night that I met him, but didn't let him know. Now we've been together for just over a year and a half and I want to settle down with him, he tells me I'm in a hurry and I'm pushing him. So the drama continues...0 -
To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
Never settle for anything less than what you deserve... that was my quote when I "a gem yet to be discovered" - not single.
When I said that, I meant I wanted to be with someone that had most of my wants and all of my needs. Someone that was 'perfect' for me, not someone I was going to 'put up with'. When women say they won't settle, that just means they don't want a bullsh*t relationship like they had in the past and they need to possibly sort out some emotional issues they still have. I know that's how I felt.0 -
To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
I can't answer for the other women, but for me settling is turning a blind eye to red flags, forgiving someone who lies and cheats, or putting in 110% when your partner doesn't even come close.
I've done all those things, which in my mind is 'settling' because I have alot of love to give and really hoped and thought I could love enough for the both of us.
Thankfully now I'm older and wiser but when I say I won't settle, it absolutely has nothing to do with looks, rather integrity and commitment to the relationship.
Amen, its not about money, its not about ripped abs- its about someone who can build the relationship together- not afraid of an independent , confident woman. Cant settle- need the one who will challenge my mind, body and soul....0 -
I'm single because as others have said, I'm not the perfect guy... My standards aren't sky high, I'm just looking for a chick that weights less than me, doesn't have any kids, and is Independent..
I am very independent, have a life, a good job, a car, and a generally nice and respectable guy.. I don't have Ryan Gosling looks and thats what girls are holding out for in their 20's.. that or some guy that treats em like crap, doesn't have a job, and is abusive, but hey they look good.. Oh and I don't do drama, this isnt Jersey Shore.. I don't need to fight 10 guys cause you said so.0 -
To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
A misanthropic, agoraphobic conspiracy theorist with a 'vague' attitude towards commitment, a rapier sharp wit (or ability to tell truly terrible 'Dad' jokes - awesome) and brilliant massage technique. Definitely don't give a crap about what they look like (unless they look like a serial killer / creeper)... :huh: :flowerforyou:0 -
Because I like bad boys! xD0
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I'm a ****!
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Because it's hard for me to find the right guy but the other thing is that how can a guy fall in love with someone with special
Needs ? I had a boyfriend but all he wanted was to have sex and i want to finsh school and also I want a great Christian guy I
Go to church every week . I've been single all my life and I'm in my 20s . I'm ready to meet someone special .0 -
Because my wife died 18 months ago. That's also the reason why I ended up on here which has helped me to make changes, I am starting to think I'm ready to make changes with regards to being single.0
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I don't have time to open up this pandora's box..0
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To all the women who don't want to "settle," what exactly are you looking for? Haven't met the millionaire fitness model yet or something? Stop being so picky. Find someone you like spending time with who's not an a**hole. It's not rocket science. Decent guys are out there. We're not all perfect. Deal with it.
Not perfect is fine. I don't need handsome or rich. I need not an *kitten*, not saddled with a ****ton of baggage from his divorce he's still bitter about, not an alcoholic, not cheater and a liar, not misogynist. I need all those things plus someone who is intellectually and politically compatible with me who shares my interests. You get to be my age and that pool of single guys is pretty limited. And no, I won't settle for less than that.0 -
Iv always been single never had a GF but i will find 1 day got to keep up hope0
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Wow there are some terribly heart breaking stories in here. That wasn't my intention when I posted the topic. That being said, my reasons are silly.
I know I'm super young but it is crazy to be the only one left from my group of friends who isn't married, has kids, or a professional job out of college (I graduate in a few weeks). I spend a lot of Friday and Saturday nights home alone haha. It's pretty sad.0 -
Not perfect is fine. I don't need handsome or rich. I need not an *kitten*, not saddled with a ****ton of baggage from his divorce he's still bitter about, not an alcoholic, not cheater and a liar, not misogynist. I need all those things plus someone who is intellectually and politically compatible with me who shares my interests. You get to be my age and that pool of single guys is pretty limited. And no, I won't settle for less than that.
Well if you applied that to my ex and me: i'm not handsome or rich, i'm not an *kitten*****, do have a bit of mental baggage, but that's about myself not anyone else, and my ex knew about that before we got together, I like a drink but not an alcoholic, would never cheat or lie to the person I am with, definitely not misogynistic. I am allegedly intelligent and I don't state my political views unless someone asks about them, I was happy to accept she already had 3 kids and wouldn't want more, and we have a lot of similar interests and friends. but she still decided couldn't "carry a relationship" with me, but seems fine to try with others. so there's obviously something else that I don't have that women are looking for.0 -
Wow there are some terribly heart breaking stories in here. That wasn't my intention when I posted the topic. That being said, my reasons are silly.
I know I'm super young but it is crazy to be the only one left from my group of friends who isn't married, has kids, or a professional job out of college (I graduate in a few weeks). I spend a lot of Friday and Saturday nights home alone haha. It's pretty sad.
Sweetie...step outsdie your box once in a while. Go out alone..I have done it many a time..and sometimes you meet some interesting and fun people...other times...you are glad you are alone...lol...
It is also a good thing to do when building up (or building back) your self-confidence....just go to grab a coffee at Starbucks alone or even a movie...after you do it the first time...it gets easier and you start to feel more comfortable in your skin...and after that meeting someone should be easy...then after meting a few of the wrongs "someones"...you will meet that right one.
It is a process...you are young...go live life...try something new every week that you haven't done before..no matter how big or small...I it a simple thing (though not always easy)...you will feel a difference within yourself..I promise.0 -
Relationships are too much work. First sign of drama and I run. I'm much better at entertaining myself
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Well if you applied that to my ex and me: i'm not handsome or rich, i'm not an *kitten*****, do have a bit of mental baggage, but that's about myself not anyone else, and my ex knew about that before we got together, I like a drink but not an alcoholic, would never cheat or lie to the person I am with, definitely not misogynistic. I am allegedly intelligent and I don't state my political views unless someone asks about them, I was happy to accept she already had 3 kids and wouldn't want more, and we have a lot of similar interests and friends. but she still decided couldn't "carry a relationship" with me, but seems fine to try with others. so there's obviously something else that I don't have that women are looking for.
No, there's something you don't have that *THAT* woman was looking for. I don't know. Maybe she had expectations that she never voiced and when you failed to read her mind, then you simply failed. Which is her problem not yours.
Again relationships are work, sometimes it's just too hard to juggle that. Which is more why I'm single. My comment here was about resenting being told that "not settling" means I'm waiting for a handsome millionaire.0 -
I've been single my entire life. Between school, being introvert and shy, and not having the self-confidence, I never was able to develop a relationship with a man on any level. I went on my first date at age 24 years old, but I am not willing to settle until I get the man I want to be with.0
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Willyc for some people it's hard and for other people they are shy but that's ok I was shy once then I broke that box now I'm a out going kind of person0
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