Please tell me my mom is wrong!

just wanted to say that my mom started out like that too, until i got into a size 10 (um i was 10 last time that read on a label!) that's when she started to realize that HER mom had been wrong! she is now down almost 100 lbs and using me as her motivation! sometimes i think the 'weird/hurtful/stupid' things our moms say is more tradition and their own self image issues than any actual truth or meaningful hurt. show her that she's right in one way, get into an 8 then smile and say 'yep you were right, our bodies do change!' and just keep up the great work!!

She's probably wrong...but might be a little right. I'm actually smaller now than I was in college but had I not been overweight in high school/college, I probably would not be able to be smaller than that. My hips are definitely wider than they were in college so no matter how thin I get, I'll be limited by my hips.

Not that this is a scientific and reputable source, but this is what I'm talking about: http://www.myhealthnewsdaily.com/1333-hip-bones-widen-with-age.html

But for your purposes, I think her remark was pretty rude and discouraging. I hope you have plenty of supportive people in your life to make up for such comments!

She's very WRONG!

I'm actually smaller than I was in high school/college and in much better shape.
I found some college jeans cleaning this weekend and they fit me great and they were skin-tight back then.

Don't let her discourage you. This whole thing takes time but it's so worth it. I feel better now than when I played college softball nearly 10 years ago. I have large frame so I am kinda limited on dropping too many more sizes but I'm fine with that.

Just remember getting healthy it what it's all about.

You got this!! One day at a time. :happy:

Your mother is clearly wrong--yes, your body does change in your teens (and sometimes early 20s), but it's not going to magically morph so that what was once a reasonable, healthy weight, is suddenly an unhealthy weight (holding height constant). If 165 (or 190) was in your healthy weight range in college, it is more than likely still in your health weight range, and therefore not a completely unrealistic goal.

As for mothers, I find it is best just to tune mine out. I'm roughly 155 right now. When I was 155 five years ago my mother told me that I was too thin (I had been obese my whole adult life, this was the first time she had seen me at a somewhat normal weight). Five years later I am much more physically fit, and my mother has told me that I need to lose weight. I don't know what her issue is, or your mother's issue is, but clearly, they're not reflecting reality.

she's wrong. i'm wearing one of my smallest pants from high school right now. I gained about 50 lbs between high school and about a year ago (gained, lost, gained more, lost more, gained even more. now losing it for good). I'm back down to what i weighed in high school.

You CAN do it!

Of course your mother is wrong... I'm guessing as a medical student you know that though. There are a lot of people here who are getting more fit than they've ever been - not just whatever they weighed in college or high school.

Yes your body changes as you age as newcs pointed out, but that's always happened. No matter how much you lose, you'll never have the exact same body as you had when you were 18, but that doesn't mean your fitness level and your health won't be better than it was back then.

Keep your chin up and don't let ignorance get you down.

Honestly I dont think it is a Mom thing I think our society as a whole has gotten used to as you get older you gain weight and thats they way it is or you get married you gain or you have kids you gain and there is nothing you can do about it. This used to be my thinking to justify my poor diet and physical shape (nice way of calling myself fat and lazy). Now I am at my weight and fitness level, (probably better becouse I eat way better foods and no longer smoke or drink) than I was at when I was 20 and in the Military. So yes you can be the same size and you can even be better than at least that is what I am striving for and I believe I am allready there.

Good luck

I guess your mom just wanted to comfort you this way... she doesnt want you to feel bad about extra weight so she came up with this "reason".

Yesterday my mom called to ask me what size I wear because she was shopping for Christmas. I said "a 12 or 14 but i plan on being a 12 by Christmas." Her response..."Well i'm an 8 just in case you're wondering" This coming from a woman who was over weight her entire adult life until she got gastric bypass surgery. It really annoyed me when she said that, but i just shrug it off. Luckily for me, I live about 1500 miles away from my mom, so I can just hang up the phone and forget about it.

I'm sorry other people have to deal with it too.

When I first started, I would bring up an old picture I tell my friends that I wanted to weigh what I did in that pic, which is when I was 17. Some said, "You're never gonna look like that again." Now I'm 25 and I weigh the same as I did in that picture. It can be done.

They say that about people that have had kids... Well I was always a 10, MAYBE a 8 in Highschool/College.
I had my daughter in 2008, gained some weight but in 2010-2011 I got down to a solid 6 some 4's and 2s.
I gained back bc of medications I'm on... but I plan on being that way once again...

So don't give up!

when i was 19 in college i was 180 lbs and ripped....then at 25 and many years removed i was an appauling 265 lbs.......now i weigh 185 and am in better shape and more defined then i was ever before in life

Just because she is your mom, she isn't always right!!! This case she is not.

You can be anything or any size you aspire to be

Oh yeah, Mum-isms is right. My mum used to take great delight in pulling out all the clothes she was wearing at the approximate age I was at the time, and getting me to "try them on". If I didn't go along I was a spoil-sport and stuck up, and when I did go along with it they would all laugh at me because I was too fat to fit them. Truth be told, my mother was built like a beanpole in HS, and I had larger hips and thighs and a small waist.

It hurt at the time, but then I realised that while this was going on, my mother weighed over 400lbs in her early 30s, so while she was making fun of me for being larger than her in highschool, she was only doing it to make herself feel better.

Through years of depression and eating my emotions and two bed-rest pregnancies, I gained weight, and now weigh about 300lbs (which is why I'm here!) and she takes great delight in telling me that she wasn't this big at that age, though I know she was, and that I can't lose the weight "It's in the genetics, all the women in our family are fat, You just need to learn to live with it"

Every time she says it I assure her that half my genetics didn't come from her, and the women in that family are trim and fit, which is how I plan to be, hopefully by the end of next year.

Your Mom is both right and wrong, she loves you, means well in saying you wont get back to a highschool or college size, not because she doesnt believe you have the ability to do whatever you put your mind to, of course your mom supports you and wants you to be happy and healthy, she is after all your mom, all moms want that for their babies, even their grown up ones.

I think what she means is simply, that its OKAY if you dont ever get back to that size you have in your mind for yourself, your perfect and just as good in every way at any age, any size, just the way you are and to be healthy but dont fall victim to obsessing
over a size that doesnt really matter nor does it define who you are, since she is already knows that you are an
incredible, beautiful, strong, courageous, smart, amazing young woman, who she is I am sure extremely proud of and loves with all her heart.

As for getting to a size 10/12, it is a healthy goal and I think you can do it.

As for those old jeans, not sure by the time you reach your goal, you might simply want to reward yourself with a new pair of jeans, or maybe the ones you love and are lending to your sister, they might be completely out of style by next season.Or
just too worn to bothered holding onto them any longer, maybe letting go could be good over all, then you have a reason to go shopping with mom, and let her see the smile on your face as you find a new size 10/12 and silently say in your head, I told ya so lol.

Good Luck but take it easy on good ole' Mom okay.