How does your intelligence compare with your SO's?

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  • horseplaypen
    horseplaypen Posts: 442 Member
    Basically, we're two sides to one coin.

    Ditto for me and my boyfriend - we actually scored as complete opposites on our Myers-Briggs tests. :) I think we're of equal intelligence, we have similar education backgrounds although he has two bachelors degrees to my one... but I'm going to one-up him with a PhD. :) But like many others have said, we both have different strengths... he's better at thinking on his feet, finding solutions to things, and thinking big-picture. I think more slowly but remember things longer, and I'm better at writing and the nitty gritty details.
  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
    About the same overall, but we each have our strengths and weaknesses. I couldn't marry a dumb chick, I'd hang myself. Or her.
  • Queen_Adrock
    Queen_Adrock Posts: 130 Member
    I test slightly higher on IQ, but he's more well-read than I am. Holy hell, does that boy read! There's not a day that goes by where he isn't engrossed in the news, a book, magazines...though we're both librarians, so it's to be expected. He remembers facts and figures and can spit them out on cue, whereas I'm better at figuring out how things work and fixing them. We both have our strengths and weaknesses and compliment each other. :smile:
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    We both dumb as hell.

    This made me laugh like hell. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • carriempls
    carriempls Posts: 326 Member
    We’re pretty equally matched. We were both identified “gifted” as young children, went through all those tests and programs in school and such, etc.

    He’s more into physics and possibilities, more of a dreamer though he’s currently studying economics. And math. And we’re old (late 30’s); he’s doing it cause he enjoys it.

    We're both pretty nerdy without really being nerds.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    my wife and I are both smart. I've never broken it down to who is smarter in which areas, so I don't know who is smarter overall. We both have our areas of expertise. I like talking to her.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    My hubby and I both have very high IQs and both have very logical, and mathematical minds, so we are very compatible in that sense. I have a few IQ points on him, but he is more educated than I am. He excels greatly in a few areas, whereas I am more well rounded. We balance each other out and compliment each other. It has been working great for 15 years now.

    However, our combined genes did produce an Asperger son with a genius IQ off the charts, and lots of social and emotional issues that go with that. Early childhood was quite the challenge, but he is getting better every year, and we have become experts on raising an Aspie!

    I personally feel that comparable IQ levels is very important for successful relationships. But I have seen others that aren't and they still manage to work well.
  • crimznrose
    crimznrose Posts: 282 Member
    I was honor roll and he was shop and building trades. Nuff said.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    My SO was smarter academically, but socially clueless. I'm ok academically, but much more socially adept and good at reading people.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    I was honor roll and he was shop and building trades. Nuff said.

    Haha. Love this!
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
    He is so mechanical.. I could never come close to how smart he is with machines and pipes and engines.

    I have more book smarts Then my hubby just because I love to read and learn things in print.

    My kiddo has natural street smarts. She could move about in the world without any thought very young. I guess it comes from having a sight impaired Mother. She would always know how to find the subway and which one to get on. Before she could even read well.

    Being with them I have gotten a real respect as to how we are each a perfect piece to the puzzle and together we make one smart cookie.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I was honor roll and he was shop and building trades. Nuff said.

    Shop and building trades doesn't mean someone is stupid. They're often very smart people. Maybe your fella was dumb, but that's quite a generalization.
  • jilleebean777
    jilleebean777 Posts: 219 Member
    I'm more academic, he's more practical.....we fit together just nicely.....

    ^^^This!!
  • edge_dragoncaller
    edge_dragoncaller Posts: 826 Member
    We are fairly equal. Our debate skills on the other hand...

    Well let's just say that I don't win an argument.

    Ever.
  • Pelly57
    Pelly57 Posts: 169 Member
    Where one lacks, the other makes up. He has his strengths as do I. But looking back at how we scored on standardized tests and school work... I WIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :bigsmile:

    This!
  • ElleEmmeKay
    ElleEmmeKay Posts: 62
    Oh My Word! He is waaaaaaaay smarter... In all areas. But he makes me think I'm a genius.... I think I'm an Amy Farafoller type (big band theory) and he is all around a Mr. Smarty pants. He's actually currently applying for his Ph.d in Neuroscience.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    I can write a good paper and he does the math. Together we are Harvard material. Apart we barely make community college.
  • jrsey86
    jrsey86 Posts: 186 Member
    I can't see the forest through the trees; he can't see the trees for the forest. I'm good with tedious, steady, detailed paperwork; he thrives in challenging, high-stress, hands-on environments. I'm a paper-pusher with a B.A. in English Lit, he's an ex-Army medic training for nursing. We find that our strengths and weaknesses blend quite nicely into each other.

    In short, our intelligences are mutally beneficial. :heart: Love that man. :smooched:
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Hmmm.....I feel like this is a really touchy subject.
  • Softrbreeze
    Softrbreeze Posts: 156 Member
    My husband scores slightly higher on the standardized IQ test but he has little practical sense. He spent 8 yrs in college and never graduated, just hopped from major to major, ended up working as a postal carrier when his parents got tired of paying for his college. He can't seem to stay on top of the bills either despite having a fairly decent household income. Me, I had to work harder in school, but I know how to exercise some common sense. That may come from not having everything handed to me though- no parents to pay my way or bail me out when I screw up.
  • klacount77
    klacount77 Posts: 270 Member
    This could get me in trouble ... according to tests ... I am smarter. But when it comes to common sense and street skills ... I'm definitely the wide eyed n00b on the block compared to Alex.

    But, smart wit and humor intelligence ... we are pretty equally matched.
  • grawrrrr
    grawrrrr Posts: 336
    My husband is incredibly smart, logical and concise. He's mathematically inclined.

    I'm smart in a different way...but I tend to get irrational and impulsive rather than calm and collected like him. I'm also grammar/language arts/book oriented.

    We work together. :)
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    I think I'm getting dumber but I think that's because I spend too much time here. I should be studying...
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    I work in IT and he was a film major. Let's just say I'm the one who does the "figuring stuff out" around the house.
  • grawrrrr
    grawrrrr Posts: 336
    I can write a good paper and he does the math. Together we are Harvard material. Apart we barely make community college.

    THIS!
  • ahviendha
    ahviendha Posts: 1,291 Member
    mine's an engineer. i'm in humanities. so ya.

    but i had to teach him how to cook an egg, and had to explain the chemistry which occurs during cooking, and baking.

    we work well together.
  • Busymomshantell
    Busymomshantell Posts: 126 Member
    I think we are both quite intelligent - both learn quickly - each excel in dfferent areas. And we compliment each other nicely :) Hence the reason we celebrate 20 years of marriage this New Year's Eve!
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    My husband has a PhD in physics, so he certainly knows more about physics and math than most people, including me (but I learn a lot from him and I love science). But, when it comes to our regular daily conversations we are both very interested, have a lot to contribute, learn from one another, enjoy and get excited about the things we talk about, explore and share. I'm a dancer and some people don't see how that relates to him as a physicist. But, he is also a sculptor and a painter (it's all part of being a physicist and needing to design, create, build, be mechanical). I also studied science in college (Biology) and have always loved math. My husband says I help him figure things out in a different way than anyone else because of my dance talent, I understand "structure" in a very unique and embodied way and that perspective helps him when he runs some of his physics quandaries by me. He respects me and my intelligence. And his intelligence is what I most love about him. He never sees me as less than him, but that we both have different strengths/weaknesses and different types of education and different types of intelligence to contribute to our relationship and in all the other areas of our lives. He also says I understand science a whole lot better than most people he encounters (that are not also scientists). I also excel at memory. I have an excellent autobiographical memory, so I remember conversations and experiences we have had word for word and can play them back to him like a tape recorder and with my dance/acting skills I can get all the mannerisms of all the people down exactly. He says I am much more entertaining than watching tv. And I help him remember things.
  • gabriellejayde
    gabriellejayde Posts: 607 Member
    academically, I excelled- I skipped a grade, graduated high school at 16, college at 20, and I have a very high IQ. But that was all 20 years ago.
    I read a lot now, and do a lot of technical work, but my husband is a nuclear engineer and incredibly good about fixing things. He amazes me a lot with his memory, knowledge of trivia, and sense of direction, where I'm probably better at creative problem solving and reasoning.
    it's pretty equal.
  • MariaMariaM
    MariaMariaM Posts: 1,322 Member
    We are equally intelligent on most things but depending on the subject he might know more than me and vice versa

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