Diet + Love: Has this ever happened to anyone?

Unless your partner genuinely had an intimate relationship with cheese, i'm pretty sure you're making something out of nothing and anyone who would tell you differently is just trying to get a reaction out of you for comedic purposes because the whole idea that she may leave you like she left cheese is so completely bizarre and ridiculous.

The Just Break Up Thing is kind of a joke in the forums. It was before my time, but it's carried on. I don't think it's meant to be a serious response.

As per your girlfriend.....I am the kind of person who can get CRAZY WRAPPED UP INTO NEW THINGS OMG THIS IS EVERYTHING I AM AND EVER WILL BE ZOMG 11!!!1!!. That can be everything from a video game to a school class to a new health habit. My initial instincts are to slam-charge into everything headfirst, rehaul everything, and completely ignore any and all signs of burnout until I've dropped myself completely on the floor.

It's not healthy, to say the least. And it drives my loved ones insane. But as I learn more about how to do thing healthy (both physical and mental), they are also learning to trust me to work through those first instincts, even if they do initially present themselves.

It may not be that she would just change and leave you by the wayside. She may just be very, very excited and the kind of person who moves that into EVERYTHING. Talk with her about it - hopefully you will find that or something similar is the case.

^ This to a tee.

The break up thing is a joke, because most people come on here with really pety things such as "My boyfriend bought a cd and lied to me". What you're saying is not really pety, and I think it happens to a lot of people from one end or another!

What she said is right though. I'm on the end of I charge in head first, start of strong then get burnt out.

What I can say is simply that it may be a resolution, but I gurantee she misses those things too!! I mean, these are things that brought you two closer, not things that were just there. When she starts to slow down, let her have things she wants and then comfort her and say "ya know, this is fine in moderation. We don't need to drink a whole bottle of wine a night. (not saying you did just using a drastic example)" Let her know that healthy doesn't mean over board

But for now, just support her, let her do what she wants and be there. She can't ditch you if you support her choices. On the other hand, you can have what you want yourself. But to support her, I'd advise not doing it around her, or keeping it where she can see it. I know if I swear off junk food and my boyfriend brings home a reeses... I'm done for. I either eat it, or get upset that he did that. In the whole "all or nothing phase" you tend to forget other people are not on that page. :P

Best of luck! Feel free to add me if you want.

But my partner recently started her own "resolutioner" diet, and she has sworn off like ten things. She's not eating cheese or drinking alcohol anymore. She's completely cut off all kinds of "bad" foods, which I think are totally fine to eat in moderation.

Her choice. Not the best way to do it, hey, but her choice.

This is kind of making me nervous, to be honest. I mean, if she can just reject the things she used to love like that, what will she do to me? She says she loves me, but I have to admit that seeing her reject all the things we loved together (WIIIIINE ) makes me wonder if she will just shove me away, too.

This is a huge leap that is frankly silly. Food is not people. We don't fall in love and have sex with cheese.

Anyway, has anyone ever had to deal with rejection from a dieting partner? Should I talk to her about my feelings or will this just go away on its own?

You should probably worry about more your own paranoia before it kills the relationship.

I have threesomes with my Happy Clover cocoa swiss roll cakes and Magnolia langka and cashew ice cream. When I check the fridge and freezer, they are always there waiting. Even when I have headaches, I cannot reject the scandalous invitations of my lovers.

Try the questionable musical choice CD order test. See how she responds.

If you keep doubting and mistrusting her like this and comparing her ability to stop eating cheese with her ability to have a healthy relationship with you, she might realize she can do better and dump you. I recommend to stop being crazy, and focus on being healthy in body and mind, and you'll have a healthy relationship.

This is a little crazy. Cutting out things she loved from her diet is so much easier than cutting out things she loves emotionally. I mean, you're not equivalent to a bottle of wine are you?

I wouldn't worry unless she actually gives you reason to believe she genuinely would break up with you or something. Otherwise, you're just over-analyzing.

But if you're really concerned, talk to her and let her know. People avoid this all the time, but it inevitably comes down to getting your opinion out there in the end, every time. Sooner > later!

I think you have to talk to her about how you feel. You should always be able to express yourself to the ones you love.