ALL GUYS CHEAT!

"All guys will cheat if given the chance"

This is what a guy who I was seeing just told me. Earlier this week he told me that he doesn't want to get too far into things because he doesn't want to hurt me because I am a "nice girl". He confessed that he usually ends up cheating or doing "something wrong" in a relationship.

Normally, I wouldn't be defending guys on this sort of thing because I have been cheated on multiple times and have gone through many "f**k you all, men" phases. But I think this is a bunch of bs. Only pathetic, *kitten* cheat on their girlfriends/fiances/wives.

I don't know. What do you guys/girls think? Is there such a thing as monogamy, loyalty, honesty, trust in a relationship anymore? Or has everything gone to *kitten*? I still think there are good people out there that are loyal and not every guy would cheat given the chance. Piss me off! GRRR.

Sorry for all the cursing...
:)
Okay, and I'm done.
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  • Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but in guy speak this means he's already cheated...
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    I've been in several long term relationships and have never cheated. Perhaps you should look more closely at the men you choose to date. You might be following a pattern that leads you to unfaithful guys.
  • For some reason you made me laugh! In a good way. :D

    I've never really dated anyone, but I'd like to believe that if a guy loves you, he won't cheat. If your guy even warns you about it himself, it just shows that he isn't even trying to change (or doesn't want to). You deserve better.

    So yeah, I think (hope?) that it's bs, too.
  • Live life, date, have fun, you don't have to have a boyfriend
  • childermass
    childermass Posts: 115 Member
    Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser

    Last time I checked, the world population was 7 billion. Where are you hiding the other 2 billion? And how can we get advertising to them?
  • childermass
    childermass Posts: 115 Member
    Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser

    Last time I checked, the world population was 7 billion. Where are you hiding the other 2 billion? And how can we get advertising to them?

    damn, I miscalculated the Chinese. Give it a couple years and I'll be on the money ;)

    6,973,738,433. from the infoweb as of ...now. ha
  • jamie610811
    jamie610811 Posts: 1,735 Member
    Never cheated on a woman I have been with, but my ex wife cheated on me ,gave her a second chance and 6 months later she does it again.... so women can cheat just like men.
    Try and find a good one if possible . good luck
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser

    Last time I checked, the world population was 7 billion. Where are you hiding the other 2 billion? And how can we get advertising to them?

    damn, I miscalculated the Chinese. Give it a couple years and I'll be on the money ;)

    No, I think you accidentally spilled the beans the first time. Do you have a really large basement or an interdimensional door or something?
  • Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser

    Last time I checked, the world population was 7 billion. Where are you hiding the other 2 billion? And how can we get advertising to them?

    Congrats SeaRunner26. You are King of the Internet.
  • childermass
    childermass Posts: 115 Member
    No, I think you accidentally spilled the beans the first time. Do you have a really large basement or an interdimensional door or something?
    damn. Now I must kill you...and the other 2 billion people in my basement...
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    Given there are 9 billion people in the world, chances are some are **** and some are good.
    I've been with both, then I married the one who was really close to me in a lot of ways.
    You can find someone who has the same ideas as you - there are 9 billion people in the world...
    **** this guy off, what a tosser

    Last time I checked, the world population was 7 billion. Where are you hiding the other 2 billion? And how can we get advertising to them?

    Congrats SeaRunner26. You are King of the Internet.

    King? Really? Do I get a crown or something? And I want a castle too.
  • SeaRunner26
    SeaRunner26 Posts: 5,143 Member
    No, I think you accidentally spilled the beans the first time. Do you have a really large basement or an interdimensional door or something?
    damn. Now I must kill you...and the other 2 billion people in my basement...

    Hmmm. That's going to require a lot of concrete.
  • Empots88
    Empots88 Posts: 38 Member
    Get rid of this guy!! No I don't believe all men cheat, some have more self control and respect! If I were you and he said that to me i'd be out that door in no time. That's appalling.
  • childermass
    childermass Posts: 115 Member
    Wonder if I'll get banned for threatening mass genocide now.

    By the way TOTALLY HIJACKED THIS THREAD, sorry.

    original point is - don't waste your time on seeing someone who says they will cheat then be all heartbroken when they do.
    (plus there are ALOT of other people in the world)
  • Mads1997
    Mads1997 Posts: 1,494 Member
    I know plenty of guys that would never cheat.
  • Sujit8383
    Sujit8383 Posts: 726 Member
    Indian system believes in monogamy mostly............n we r 1.21 BILLION............though more than 10% cheats.......still 100 crore are honest and believes in life long relationships............
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    "All guys will cheat if given the chance"

    This is what a guy who I was seeing just told me. Earlier this week he told me that he doesn't want to get too far into things because he doesn't want to hurt me because I am a "nice girl". He confessed that he usually ends up cheating or doing "something wrong" in a relationship.

    Normally, I wouldn't be defending guys on this sort of thing because I have been cheated on multiple times and have gone through many "f**k you all, men" phases. But I think this is a bunch of bs. Only pathetic, *kitten* cheat on their girlfriends/fiances/wives.

    I don't know. What do you guys/girls think? Is there such a thing as monogamy, loyalty, honesty, trust in a relationship anymore? Or has everything gone to *kitten*? I still think there are good people out there that are loyal and not every guy would cheat given the chance. Piss me off! GRRR.

    Sorry for all the cursing...
    :)
    Okay, and I'm done.

    yeah, he's cheated on you, run, run away now!!!

    Not all men cheat. I would bet my life on the fact that my husband has never cheated on me.
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    I have been married for 32 years and I don;t cheat. He is an idot and you shold get as far away from him as you can. I raised my 17 year old son the "right" way and he too does not cheat.

    That is like saying all girls will end of looking likt their mother. Another Stoopid saying, and yes i spell it the way for a reason!.

    I hate people that generalize, they do that to justify their own dumb agenda's.
  • No worries guys! I don't keep around the pathetic losers and I'm not looking for relationship advice!!! Wasn't even serious! Hadn't even kissed the kid yet! Just wanted to know what others had to think about "all men being cheaters" as I believe it's not true even given these and previous circumstances.

    But his excuses for why he has done it in the past that he's giving me are so stupid and it makes me wanna smash a frying pan over his head. ie. he used the "It just happens" line. LOL what? What a joke...

    However, I do give him credit for not wanting to hurt me and letting me know about this


    Edit to add
  • Ph4lanx
    Ph4lanx Posts: 213 Member
    Well I can only offer my own experience on the matter, as I'm no professional or psychologist on the matter.

    I'm 31, and have had a total of 4 (count 'em!) relationships. The last three all ended amicably, and were down to differences that became apparent over time. None of them lasted less than a year, and none of them were due to cheating from either side.

    I think the whole thing of "guys will cheat if given the chance" is a misnomer. It depends completely on the character of the person. I've seen just as many women cheat as guys who are friends of mine (or rather, were. I don't tend to want people like that around me).

    Personally, I find the idea of cheating on someone to be disgusting. If you don't get on with them, why stay in the relationship? And if you DO get on with them and STILL feel the need to cheat, then you need your head checked, because you've got what any decent guy would want: A stable and happy relationship. Don't **** it up because you don't know what you want.

    I'm in a relationship now, and honestly, I don't even look at other women the same way. Maybe my upbringing (traditional italian family-oriented) has something to do with it, but I get mad at people who cheat on others. There's no need, and almost always there is an underlying problem in the person DOING the cheating, not the person being cheated on.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    "All guys cheat" is something that guys who cheat say, just like people who say "everyone cheats on tests" or "everyone lies on their tax return".

    It must be comforting to imagine that the rest of the world shares your ethics.

    People who want more freedom in a relationship should discuss those expectations. It's weird that someone would say up front "hi I intend to be dishonest in my fidelity" and then try to diminish the outrage by saying "but everyone else is dishonest about their fidelity too!"
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    I've got to give the guy credit for admitting that he'll likely cheat. At least he knows his m.o. and is willing to admit it. Basically he's using the cliche as a means of telling you that he's not ready to settle down. However, it would have been better if he'd just said that he's not ready for a monogamous relationship right now.

    No, all men do not cheat. There are some fantastic loyal guys out there. You just need to take your time, have fun and be open to what comes along.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    However, I do give him credit for not wanting to hurt me and letting me know about this

    Meh, he's probably sounding you out to see if you'll stick around meaning you will tacitly accept cheating if it takes place. That way he can keep you in reserve and actively pursue other women as well. He's doing it for his own benefit not yours.

    If we wanted to be honest he could have just said "I want to sleep with you and other women as well. You down?"
  • LondonEliza
    LondonEliza Posts: 456 Member

    However, I do give him credit for not wanting to hurt me and letting me know about this

    Oh bless your innocence. That is not why he told you. He told you because if the two of you get involved, he can smugly think 'well I did warn her' as he puts his arm around another women.

    Now that you know what an unfaithful dog he is, any lack of objection on your part will be seen as permission to do whatever the he11 he likes with whoever.

    Stay well away from any man like this before you start accepting their behavior as normal. There are plenty of good, strong, intelligent, bs-free men out there. Hold out for one of those.
  • Aha well I gave him some advice that consisted of this:

    A. Don't have a girlfriend. Like ever.
    B. Don't take girls out on dates.
    C. Don't make girls think they are special.

    In between C & D texts he replies "But i like girls"

    D. Just *kitten* random dirty wh*res that you find on pof. I hope that goes well for you! Okay and goodbye!


    *dusts off hands* Mission accomplished
    NEXT PLEASE!
    :flowerforyou:
  • i think your wrong. i think a lot of girls just choose the wrong person
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    "All guys will cheat if given the chance"

    This is what a guy who I was seeing just told me. Earlier this week he told me that he doesn't want to get too far into things because he doesn't want to hurt me because I am a "nice girl". He confessed that he usually ends up cheating or doing "something wrong" in a relationship.

    Normally, I wouldn't be defending guys on this sort of thing because I have been cheated on multiple times and have gone through many "f**k you all, men" phases. But I think this is a bunch of bs. Only pathetic, *kitten* cheat on their girlfriends/fiances/wives.

    I don't know. What do you guys/girls think? Is there such a thing as monogamy, loyalty, honesty, trust in a relationship anymore? Or has everything gone to *kitten*? I still think there are good people out there that are loyal and not every guy would cheat given the chance. Piss me off! GRRR.

    Sorry for all the cursing...
    :)
    Okay, and I'm done.

    Sounds like a cop out to me. And kind of insulting to men I have to say, like somehow they are just animals who can't control their impulses.

    As for this particular guy, yeah he probably will. He's already decided that he "can't help it." If I were you I'd move on, quickly.
  • i think your wrong. i think a lot of girls just choose the wrong person

    I think you should read more than just the title...
  • I'm not a man and I find this post insulting.

    There are millions of men in this world, not only the ones you choose to date.

    My man is amazing and i know for a fact he HATES cheating as he's been cheated on himself and i know he'd never cheat on me. If I was cheated on by someone, I would not accuse all men of being cheats..