Marriage values in our society....

Marriage is what you make it.. I have chosen with my wife to uphold traditional vows. I don't really care what anyone else thinks or does in their marriages. I look for people that are happy in their relationships.

My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me. I don' t know what I'd do if she had an affair. I just need to do my part in making her the happiest woman on earth - which usually starts with taking out the trash.

I feel so BLESSED that I have a husband who has the same marriage values as mine but also dumbfounded and a little (i should say ALOT) disgusted at the things I have seen at the gym and also with the news I heard today. Shame on some people for not putting the importance of their marriage above any "lust" or attraction you may of felt.

For what it's worth, a lot of these people who are "having affairs" may have felt just like you at one point, or may have told their spouses the same thing your husband is telling you now. You never know what might happen. For some people, it takes an affair happening to finally end a bad relationship, or the affair may save the marriage. So you can come down now... The high horse needs a rest.

I have yet to have a man on here seek my attention out who is getting regular ***** from his wife.

Of course they gonna say that their wives are not putting up..Do you expect them to come out and say that they're pigs??

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Another Judgey McJudgerton thread....BINGO!

Yep. There are no "marriage values", honey. There are YOUR marriage values, which mean nothing to me.

Which is where the confusion comes in. Because there is no universal definition of marriage (within our society), people come in each expecting different things.

It's such a mess. No wonder divorce is so common.

Perhaps if marriage values WERE universal, people would go in knowing what to expect and what is EXPECTED of them. And divorce would be less common.

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The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

Don't post on the forums if you can't take criticism and open discussion. Not everyone agrees with your religious beliefs, and I certainly don't agree that you have somehow found the "truth" to morals and values as your claim that the "world's population is lacking morals and values" seems to imply if not openly state.

Congratulations on finding out the truth about me... way to go.

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Oh, and why is marriage "sacred"? It is only a contract really, and contracts are broken or dissolved all the time. Of course, I'm an atheist and don't place the same importance on the word "marriage" many religious people might.

Of course, in a thread which has nothing to do with religion, the atheist has to let everyone know what his beliefs are.

Yup.

"How do you know if a person is an atheist?"

"Oh, don't worry--they'll TELL ya!"

I don't think that's very fair. Being outside of a norm (read: Christianity, majority religion of much of the western world) and noting that you are isn't always an attempt to derail a discussion. It's valuable to bring in the perspective when the OP has said words "blessed" and "sacred," two words with religious connotation, thus specifically linking religion and marriage... when obviously, that could be a whole other debate about that can of worms. Which, I would also say to the OP of this little thread chain... marriage does not equal religion. I'm not sure how being an atheist means you wouldn't view marriage the same way; that's more of a personal feeling towards marriage, I'd say, not necessarily an informed belief because of being an atheist.

Wait! So you're telling me that if my boss invites me out for lunch, we're having an affair? Get real! People can be friends.

agreed.

i have this strange feeling this thread is about to get shut down...

i have this strange feeling this thread is about to get shut down...

hahahaha

Marriage is what you make it.. I have chosen with my wife to uphold traditional vows. I don't really care what anyone else thinks or does in their marriages. I look for people that are happy in their relationships.

My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me. I don' t know what I'd do if she had an affair. I just need to do my part in making her the happiest woman on earth - which usually starts with taking out the trash.

LOL... And it's amazing how such small things as taking out the trash add up and make us happy. And doing the laundry earns brownie points!!

thing is, we don't know the "rules" in anyone else's marriages and it is not our place to judge anyone else.

You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

exactly! the good old days when people stayed in miserable marriages long after they were over because they had no other option.

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You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

Dont forget those marriages that started because a family sold their daughters to the highest bidder - those are bound to have the utmost fidelity in them. :laugh:

Wait, so how did "golddiggers" come about?

Society, it's morals and values, have changed. It used to be that the child being raised by the single parent was in the minority. Now, my children, raised in a home with parents that were married before having children, and having all the same last name, those children are the minority. So, it's not surprising to me that so many people in this thread would jump to the defense of the cheaters, and berate those that think cheating is wrong by telling them to mind their own business. We must rationalize our behaviors anyway we can so that we can try having a clear conscience, and not feel that our own actions could possibly be morally wrong.

Only thing that has changed in our society is that these things are on Entertainment Tonight or Reality TV. All these things happened in Ye Olden Days, just no one talked about them.

In before the lock.