Most hurtful comments

While getting ready for a family function I was standing in my clothset complaining that I had nothing to wear because I put on so much weight when my husband yelled from the bedroom "ya, I would never let myself go like that". My response was not nice and he tried his hardest to back track but the damage was done.
That man really needs to get his filter checked.

I remember when I joined the gym once and these 2 guys walking by commented, "here come the New Years resolutions". They act like they are superior because they have fit bodies.

Wish I could have been there! I would have told them off! Especially since I used to be so big, and now those guys who would normally be talking crap, are now checking me out! Lolol.

Oh my! I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sure they were bullies in high school too. Sounds like they're just continuing their hateful behavior into adulthood. They're not happy with their own lives so they need someone to pick on. I know it's hard, but try to ignore lowlife bullies.
I ran into an former coworker of mine, that I had worked with five years earlier (and 20 pounds lighter). This former coworker was a big guy (I'm sure he would be classified as obese). After we said "Hi" and he introduced me to his wife, he asked when I was due. I was truly confused because no one had ever asked me that before, so I naively asked him what he was talking about, to which he said, "You're pregnant, aren't you?" Talk about crushing the ego! I was so mad, I said "No! Are you?" His wife, just shook her head at him and told him he was so stupid." to which he responded "I know I'm gonna get it when I get out to car." LOL! I know he wasn't trying to be rude, but I was still crushed.
Keep your chin up, girl. Losing weight isn't easy, but I know you can do it. I just joined MFP yesterday, so I'm looking forward to shedding excess weight by summer.

I'm sorry Ignorance is everywhere. Don't let others bring you down.

The worst is when it comes from family. Little comments, but comments --"Are you sure you want that cupcake?" or "Fatty" or whatever. Even though they are "joking" and "don't really mean it." I get it, we all need to be able to laugh at ourselves a little, but sometimes, it goes to far. And it's so frustrating when the people closest to you don't get it. GRRRR

Christmas shopping at toys r us and the young cashier asked me when I was due.... Made me so mad!

"Lisa Michelly with the pot belly" here. People just don't realize how badly words hurt. Sooo sorry you and all the people here have had that kind of experience. Mean people suck.

Christmas shopping at toys r us and the young cashier asked me when I was due.... Made me so mad!

Uggghhh!!!! YES!!! I HATED THAT CRAP!!! I always used to have people ask me if I was pregnant! I wanted to smack them!!!!

Projection, darling. Only people who have some sort of insecurity need to make others feel bad. But then again, no one can make you feel bad without your consent.

Not always true (even, probably, rarely true). People enjoy exerting power over others for its own sake, insecurity not required.

Quest for power is due to insecurity. I barely have control or power over myself... If I want control/power outside of that I'm creating an illusion and if I believe I have control outside of myself, then I'm delusional... Let others act how they will and do the best you can for you and them and find what real power can do in this world to heal its woes.

People in this country have lost all sense of propriety. We live in a society of entitlement. Like saying something "because it's the Truth, and I can say whatever I want...".Calling something the Truth doesn't necessarily make it so. Being vicious for the "fun of it" is sick! We are faster to wound people than we are to aide them or praise them. Small egos really.

Being overweight myself for many times in my life, I have been called names as well. Somehow we remember those scars more than others. I think I learned to have a scathing wit based on some of my experiences.

Even occasionally on this website, (although it's not so much name calling, as it is "I am am right, and you aren't").

As Thumper's mother (in the Disney movie Bambi) told him, "if you can't say nuthin' good, don't say nuthin' at all!"

he kindly let me know that the buffets were open til midnight

That's the kind of moment I'd like to make a sarcastic comment like, "Well, somebody knows that latenight schedule well..."

I'd rather be overweight than a pos.

I wish there was a "like" button for this comment.

When I hit puberty, my family became quite mean about my weight. They would make a noise as I crossed the living room "boom bapppa booom bappa boom" to mean that I made huge elephant steps. I mentioned it to my Mom years later, and she hardly even remembered it, She recalls that she was concerned about my weight because she also put on quite a bit when she hit puberty, and because her mother was also overweight at the time. As kids, we made jokes about our grandmother being like a manatee or a whale. I feel awful about it, and ashamed that we weren't taught to be kinder.

I know what you mean. My Mom was always being mean about how big I was growing up, too. One time, her and my cousin were doing dishes, and I was cleaning off the table. She turned to me and asked me to go get something for her. When I came back, I told her I couldn't find it, and she said, "yeah, the only thing you can find is food!" That one really hurt, obviously since I still remember her exact words almost 30 years later. She had always been pretty thin when I was growing up...now the tables have turned, and I hate to admit it, but it kind of feels good!

It's sad and pathetic that people feel they have the right to shame and belittle others. Do people not stop to think at all anymore? It's not okay to discriminate in any situation but no one would get away with making racist or sexist comments these days. Body size however is fair game evidently! It's pathetic. How would he feel if it was his wife, his son, his daughter, mother or father that was spoken to in this manner? Honestly! I feel sorry for him. Body sizes can go up or down but ignorant *kitten* will never change.

It is truly sad that people are so mean. Stuff like this used to make me wanna cut a *****. LOL. Still does.

However, I try to have compassion for people like this. Bullies are usually sad, angry and abused people. They learned to be awful as a response to being mistreated by someone. Seriously. Imagine how broken you would have to be to speak so unkindly to another person.

So, when I am hurt by someone, I pray for them. Its something I learned in recovery. Having compassion for people who are so small minded and mean spirited can be very healing.

So next time some douschbag feels the need to share some of their misery with you, try praying that they are blessed.

If that doesn’t work….

CUT A *****.