Most hurtful comments

he kindly let me know that the buffets were open til midnight

That's the kind of moment I'd like to make a sarcastic comment like, "Well, somebody knows that latenight schedule well..."

I'd rather be overweight than a pos.

I wish there was a "like" button for this comment.

When I hit puberty, my family became quite mean about my weight. They would make a noise as I crossed the living room "boom bapppa booom bappa boom" to mean that I made huge elephant steps. I mentioned it to my Mom years later, and she hardly even remembered it, She recalls that she was concerned about my weight because she also put on quite a bit when she hit puberty, and because her mother was also overweight at the time. As kids, we made jokes about our grandmother being like a manatee or a whale. I feel awful about it, and ashamed that we weren't taught to be kinder.

I know what you mean. My Mom was always being mean about how big I was growing up, too. One time, her and my cousin were doing dishes, and I was cleaning off the table. She turned to me and asked me to go get something for her. When I came back, I told her I couldn't find it, and she said, "yeah, the only thing you can find is food!" That one really hurt, obviously since I still remember her exact words almost 30 years later. She had always been pretty thin when I was growing up...now the tables have turned, and I hate to admit it, but it kind of feels good!

It's sad and pathetic that people feel they have the right to shame and belittle others. Do people not stop to think at all anymore? It's not okay to discriminate in any situation but no one would get away with making racist or sexist comments these days. Body size however is fair game evidently! It's pathetic. How would he feel if it was his wife, his son, his daughter, mother or father that was spoken to in this manner? Honestly! I feel sorry for him. Body sizes can go up or down but ignorant *kitten* will never change.

It is truly sad that people are so mean. Stuff like this used to make me wanna cut a *****. LOL. Still does.

However, I try to have compassion for people like this. Bullies are usually sad, angry and abused people. They learned to be awful as a response to being mistreated by someone. Seriously. Imagine how broken you would have to be to speak so unkindly to another person.

So, when I am hurt by someone, I pray for them. Its something I learned in recovery. Having compassion for people who are so small minded and mean spirited can be very healing.

So next time some douschbag feels the need to share some of their misery with you, try praying that they are blessed.

If that doesn’t work….

CUT A *****.

Aw. everyone's replies make me so sad! People can be so needlessly cruel, especially when there's so much other suffering in this world.

I still think about the time in middle school, a popular boy turned around and said to me "You're fat. You think you're skinny but your not -- really, you're fat." ... and turned back around ... for no reason. Kids can be so mean!

Actually the worst things ever have been from my older brother who pretty much tormented me my entire childhood about my weight. And comments from my mom ... both completely damaged my self-esteem.

I am lucky to not have any rude comments made to me as an adult, I think I would get really mean!!

People often open their mouths without thinking, or they justify their comments by telling themselves they are "helping" you. My own mother (who struggled with her weight) would show me pictures of her much younger and slimmer and tell me how being fat was making me unattractive. She nicknamed me "tubby" and used to roll her eyes at the sizes I'd need for school clothes.

More appalling than any of that are people who feel they can ask you personal questions or make comments without concern for your feelings. A few months after adopting our children, a family member remarked that she was going to be the first to have two children in the family. I noted that I already had two children, to which it was implied that they didn't really count.

Just be lucky that you don't have to know those people. They must be an awful to live with. And the person who watched you eat at the smorgesbord--that was none of his business! Don't waste another minute thinking about those evil, hateful people. Also, that is so sweet that you save food for the homeless animals.

I don't know what has happened to the people in society these days. I find people forget that words are far more hurtful than any action - a physical cut will heal, but an emotional one will never! Yesterday I went to the doctor to get my 4 months old his immunization and happened to weigh myself. I found out in the last 2 weeks I had lost 3lbs so I went and told that to my boyfriend. He responded "way to go, fatty". My boyfriend has never been overweight in his life, and I find sometimes people forget that when you say stuff like to someone that it hurts, even though we may smile and chuckle to mask it. Keep going!!

This one was said out of anger (not even directed at me) a future in law referred to me as fatty along with a few other choice words. I had finally had enough of her and her attitude. I replied "I may be fat but remember this, I can lose the weight....you'll still be an ugly person inside." It was the best feeling ever to have finally stood up for myself.

The only thing you can do is to keep your chin up, most of the people making horrible comments are really insecure themselves, bringing down others makes them feel better about themselves.