Most hurtful comments

When I was like, 10, maybe? somebody was walking behind me whilst I was walking home and a few of her friends joined her. Suddenly, one of them goes "who's your new friend, amber?" referring to me as the ""friend"" and she goes 'i don't know, but i do know who ate all the pies'. I went home and cried but got over it quickly.

Two years later, I saw that b walking down the street with a freaking huge baby bump and wearing school uniform meaning she was only about 14/15 years old. It's like, I can lose this weight but you'll always have a baby now. Since then things haven't affected me as much.

a guy once broke up with me by saying i had "more rolls than a hovis factory"

Some people are just *kitten*. You should feel good about yourself and what you do is your business, no one elses. Just being here tells me that you are proud enough of yourself to want to attempt a change. We all will have setbacks at times. A true warrior will accept setbacks and go forward. Remember "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger".

I've had some random insults thrown at me from guys, too. A couple of times, it was from a moving vehicle so there is no chance of actual interaction with the *kitten*. But when someone has the brass to address me and they remain within earshot, they typically find out too late that they are in way over their heads.

Jerk guy surrounded by male friends: "Hey fat girl!"
Me over my shoulder as I keep walking: "And you're here dateless, imagine my surprise."
Jerk guy's friends: *point at him and laugh like a pack of deranged hyenas*

Keep your head held high, and know that some people are douche canoes, but there are plenty of good people out there... and what they say to you says way more about them than it ever could about you.

Yes, I had guys that dated me even call me fat after we break up or stop talking. It's like then why were you dating me? You certainly weren't complaining at that time! lol I had a guy call me fatty and then a few months later call me. Obviously I can hold a grudge and just ignored him.

Some of these make me sick to think that people can be so cruel.....

I was always rail thin... like size 4-6.... after my baby and at my heaviest i was in a size 14 and 201 lbs.

I went out with my girlfriends one night and saw my "crush" from highschool.... and he said "Wow... hope YOU still dont have a crush on me.... it was more flattering when you were in HS." ****ing *kitten*.....

but it was nice when i saw him 1 year later... 40 lbs lighter... and looking BETTER than i did in HS.... and he tried talking to me..... Choke on a d&%* *kitten*! LOL

Someone oinked at me once as I sat in a drive thru. Then he chuckled and went inside.

So I threw my car into a space and RACED after him inside.

And I stood there in the lobby and I berated him. That if he wanted to trade me the cancer, the steroid shots, AND the risky pregnancy in exchange for his own smug sense of satisfaction at oinking at me, then be my guest.

Everyone stared. He slunk SO LOW. He was humiliated.

I said, 'Yeah, F**k you.' And walked out.



Note: The story I told him was a lie. I've never been ill.
But people should learn to shut their damn mouths on business NOT their own.

Someone oinked at me once as I sat in a drive thru. Then he chuckled and went inside.

So I threw my car into a space and RACED after him inside.

And I stood there in the lobby and I berated him. That if he wanted to trade me the cancer, the steroid shots, AND the risky pregnancy in exchange for his own smug sense of satisfaction at oinking at me, then be my guest.

Everyone stared. He slunk SO LOW. He was humiliated.

I said, 'Yeah, F**k you.' And walked out.




Note: The story I told him was a lie. I've never been ill.
But people should learn to shut their damn mouths on business NOT their own.

You are my new hero - - -and the best part is that you made it all up. I HEART YOU!

I have to get this off my chest. I had a man "Oink" at me. He was a middle aged, well dressed man, who passed by me as I came out of the cupcake shop as I was picking up cupcakes for a birthday celebration in my office. He made 2 "oink" sounds as he passed by me and went on his merry way - probably feeling pretty good about himself that he was able to point out that I was fat. Thank you stranger, for making me feel bad about myself. Also, on another occasion, I was in Mexico with my family. Anyone who knows me knows that I can't pass by a stray animal without helping. So I bring ziplock bags with me and put some food from the buffets in it and after dinner I go to feed the local strays. I filled up a bag at dinner and took it to feed this tiny little beautiful white cat that was living under the sidewalk in a little hole. Later that night, a guy at the bar says to me "Did you get enough to eat at dinner?" I was confused for a moment then realized him and his wife were next to us and he probably saw me stuffing meat into my purse. "Yes, thank you, why do you ask" he kindly let me know that the buffets were open til midnight and if the 3 plates i had (soup, dinner and dessert, thanks for counting!) weren't enough, then I had a problem. He also walked away, quite proud of himself. I have never told anyone this, and I hate the fact that I am even dignifying their ignorance, but it hurt. Anyone else want to vent and let go of comments that have hurt them?

I wish this would have happened to me. I am never afraid to put someone in their place.

I have had a few made at me. I was always active in high school and even part way into my college. I hit some rough times and turned to food. Moved in with my guy- ate more. Gained 60 pounds pretty fast. I hit my 20 pound marker and had just recently re-activated my facebook. I posted that I lost 20 pounds and somebody who I talk to all the time and was so close with since we were about 5 commented telling me that I shouldn't be happy about that it was my own fault I gained the weight and I shouldn't brag about loosing weight. I de-activated my account because I didn't want everybody knowing. When I moved they don't see me unless it's a quick skype which is just my head.

The second one that really hurt was a week ago. I was starting to feel good about myself and my family (who never gives compliments) told me how good I was looking and my stomach was getting so much flatter. We then went out and somebody asked me how far along I was. I was in total shock. My boyfriend and brother both went off on the guy for being an *kitten* even after he was told I was not pregnant. He continued to make comments. If it wasn't for my family and my wonderful boyfriend I don't know how I would have handled it.

Yes, I had guys that dated me even call me fat after we break up or stop talking. It's like then why were you dating me? You certainly weren't complaining at that time! lol I had a guy call me fatty and then a few months later call me. Obviously I can hold a grudge and just ignored him.

I have had this experience in the course of a day! Walking down the street, a bunch of guys whistling at me. I ignored them, which bothered them. So what did they do? STart calling me fat. I was like "um, just a matter of minutes ago you were hitting on me."

That's what they do when they want to make a woman feel bad.

I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I don't ever recall getting picked on in school (other than being picked last in gym class) but the worse I got it from was from my family.

You know when you drive over a bridge or something and the sign says, "Weight Limit 7 tons", my dad used to stop the car and tell me to get out because he couldnt drive over the bridge with me in the car. I can laugh about it now, HEHE. Not really, it still kind of stings, some 20 years later. He has apologized and apologized. People just don't get how negative comments can stay with you

Wow! I can't imagine. I also don't think I would have been as dignified as you were either. Keep your head held high, know what kind of person you are and what you are doing for yourself. Don't give them the time of day. They aren't worth it.

OMG; I just remembered what a cruel a*hole my father was. My mother was obese, and he would sit and play a song on a record over and over again "I don't want her, you can have her, she's too fat for me." He'd have my mother sobbing "please stop" and say to her "what's wrong with you? I like this song."

ok. I'll share a few of mine.

When I was 174 lbs my best friend's daugters constantly asked me if i was pregnant. No matter how many times i said no, they asked me regularly for a year. I finally yelled at them about it becuase being nice wasn't working.

Then I start working out. One day, about 162 lbs, I had ran a couple of miles and stopped into a friend's kid's clothing store to say hi. Some guy customer was there and said something like "it's a great time of year to be pregnant, isn't it?" and pointed at me. I was all sweaty from a run... i couldn't believe it. I informed him I wasn't pregnant.

About 155 lbs, I was walking in a park with my bicycle. Some lady I never saw stops me and says "can i ask you a question?" Me, thinking it's directions or time or something, say "sure"...she says "when are you due? I'm pregnant and I would love to make friends with people who are pregnant!" ....I wasn't pregnant. I informed her I wasn't pregnant.

At 145 lbs, Me feeling all confident that I had lost 30 lbs, was hanging out at my house with my sweetie, wearing pj's and ordering delivery food. Delivery boy points at my belly and asks me when I am due. I tell him there is no baby in there. I cry.

That was the last time someone asked me if I was pregnant. So i guess as long as I never go over 140 lbs I can rest assured no one will assume I was pregnant.

For the record, when I WAS 9 months pregnant, I only weighed 165 lbs max. So i weighed more when i was obese than i did when I was 9 months pregnant.