Most hurtful comments

Illegitimi non carborundum! Scrape these people off your shoe. Not east to do sometimes. But if you think about it anyone who could say such a thing hasn't got the capacity for feeling anything like compaction or love. They probably should be pitied just before you smack them up on the side of there heads! Butch

Doctors! When my appendix ruptured (I was 19 years old, maybe 225 or 230), the doctor pushed on my stomach to see if he could detect any inflammation. "Too fat," he said. "You're too fat for me to diagnose." When the appendix finally RUPTURED, all he said was, "Well, we'll have to cut through a lot of fat to get to it. You'll always have a dimple."

Some bedside manner.

I am always amazed that a person well say "you're fat" to someone. Like they somehow don't know, and this is the crucial missing piece of the puzzle.

Weight can be changed. Obnoxious is forever.

words are most harmful. It still taking me time to get over my ex.. his words nearly killed me.. I had a smile on my face all the time.. my son in school was teased cause he was so quiet and smart.. but they hurt him deeply. he still hates coming home but does to visit me once in while.. READ James 1 in the bible.. the tongue is a rutter that leads to destruction or for good.(my own words) putting one down doesn't help the other person, does it.. That breaks my heart.
I "slammed" a friend once. thankfully she called me on it! I never did it again.. she says things to me all the time.. not nice.. we dont talk much anymore!

When I was in 6th or 7th grade I had a lot of lady issues that came with a lot of back and abdominal pain. I was in PE one day, running, and my back was extra sore. I walked to the center of the field and asked the coach if I could go see the nurse because I needed some pain medicine. Of course, I was one of the last ones finishing up laps and so a lot the kids were sitting in the middle of the field around her. She loudly announced that if I weren't so overweight I'd be able to keep up with everyone and that she wasn't going to give me a note so if I got caught in the hallway on my way to the nurse's station I'd have to deal with the consequences.

Funny thing is, I stretched and thinned out a little by 8th grade. By then, I was about 5'9'' and she was CONSTANTLY begging for me to join the basketball team. Do you think I had ANY inclination to join? NOPE. Too bad I'm sure I would've loved it and it probably would have made high school SO much different an experience.

Being rude and ignorant towards one another seems to becoming commonplace nowadays.
I have heard and read things coming out of peoples mouths that when I was young would have gotten my mouth washed out with soap! ( I never pushed that threat with my mother when I was young! )

They are ugly, ugly people. The quality of our character says everything, and yours is light years ahead of those horrible men. I'm so sorry you were subjected to those comments.

I have often got the typical " How far along are you?", "Are you pregnant?".
I hit my lowest when I worked in a restaurant and most of the cooks and other staff were Fillipino, they made it very clear that its normal in their culture to call someone fat to their face and make fun of them openly. However they dont see it as a negative thing, they see it as just being honest, and mentioned a time or two that Canadians are much to sensitive! Having numerous people call you fat all day, and make jokes to other coworkers behind your back and in front of customers was difficult to deal with. Instead of getting angry, I just started agreeing with them....Ya...I am fat? So what? Im not an *kitten* like you are, and theres so much more to me than just my fat!

When I was in 4th or 5th grade we were learning about manatees and a boy in the class decided that I looked like one and started calling me manatee. He was a "popular" boy so the other kids followed suit. Not that it was justified either way, but I wasn't even overweight at that age. I was probably at the high end of normal and could have lost 5 lbs. But it really set the tone for how I felt about myself. I've talked about being teased but I've never told anyone the name he called me. Amazing how 20+ years later I still feel shame.

Edited for, PS: So sorry that happened to you. It really sucks that some people have to make other feel bad to feel better about themselves.

Usually people do the whole you're beautiful on the inside thing.. But I genuinely mean it when I say you actually are beautiful. If people have time to stop and insult you like that, they have issues. They're the problem! Not you!

I still feel the sting of the comments people made to me.. 50 pounds lighter and actually underweight it still affects me.. Probably more than it did then.. People can be cruel!

I had a long time family doctor said to me, "Scott, it's been a long time since I've seen you! You've gotten fat!". I wasn't offended, maybe because of the big smile on his face, the really cool Afrikaans accent, or the fact that he's just a helluva nice guy and TRULY cares about his patients. And, I HAD gotten fat! I try not to let it bother me, especially here in China where people think that if something is true, they are allowed to say it. I lost count of the little kids in my classes who've said, "Teacher! You're fat!". My mental response is usually, sth like "yeah, but you're ugly, and I can lose weight"! Can't really say that to a kid though.

But I did tell my Dr. "Gee doc, maybe I have gotten fat, but this room is very small and I'm between you and the door. So you should smile when you say that." (He laughed... nervously...)

4 months after my 2nd child was born I was smaller than I am now but bigger than the size 5 (at 5'11") when I met my husband, I overheard my X mother in law and my X-husband talking privately. I heard her say "You deserve a skinny wife, give her an ultimatum" This woman was a licensed psychologist! I never received the ultimatum, though fast forward 10 years, another child and an auto accident, he left because in his words "I didn't know what to do you kept getting fatter and fatter and now your bed ridden and sick you'll never lose weight" (his last words while moving his crap out of the house. Funny thing is, I was bed ridden 7 months and gained 25lbs, before the accident I had lost 94 lbs! I responded with "You kept getting balder and balder but I still loved you! There's a difference though, I will lose this weight and you will be a bald superficial **** forever!"

I am so sorry this man's rude comment got you down. There are, sadly, a lot of really nasty people out there. You have to just tell yourself he's a miserable human being and it's not about you it's about him. I'm sure he's not a very happy camper in his own life.

I feel your pain, totally and unequivocally. Some people have no issues letting fly with thoughtless hurtful noises or words and, really, it just makes THEM look bad. How sad is it when you can't find any other way to make yourself feel better than to bring others, strangers or friends, down with the things you say or do?

Worst one for me:

My future mother in law was helping set up for the reception, and when she saw the chairs we were using and said "Wow you will need 2 of those!" Who does that?!

Last year on one of my favorite "long walks" through a local state park (which unfortunately abuts the local high school as well...) A group of said highschoolers were off the trail, just hanging out "being boys." They took one look at me and started in with the insulting comments and making "BOOM" noises as I walked past. I was infuriated, and hurt, and my one thought was- how glad I felt to be in such a confident state of mind that their jeering had little genuine influence over me aside of hurting my feelings. How sad I was for whomever might pass after me and have a more fragile sense of confidence, and how MAD I was at these kids for thinking that is how you treat other people.

I considered reporting their delinquent butts to the school, but decided it would be malicious and petty and a lot longer of a walk out of my way :laugh: Sadly, they were still there when I was on my return trip and they got right back at their "clever" antics, and I may or may not have snarked something like "grow up." :grumble:

Thank you for starting this thread - great to have a place to vent!!! My students - I work with 5 year olds through 12 year olds.

I had an 8 year old boy, interrupt in the middle of my instructions, with "You look pregnant!" And not in a cute, excited, is she pregnant way, but in a mean, hurtful way that stopped me in my tracks.

So frustrating, because as a teacher its my job to maintain my cool, even when someone says something that makes you want to run to the bathroom crying!