This site should not be about weight loss bullies !

I'm brand new too and I agree! When you have weight to lose you need all the positive reinforcement you can get! Feel free to add me if you like...and we can help each other! Good luck!

It seems with every generation, the critiscm and bullying just gets worse and worse.

Hi there. I've been here a few weeks, and I've found mostly positive people. It surprised me a bit that anyone would find bullying here, but sadly enough I know there is probably plenty of people that do it.
I would be happy to be supportive if you would like to add me

I hope you have better luck this time than you did last time! Its so sad to hear of that kind of attitude and behavior coming from people who should be able to understand each others issues..as we all have them here!

Best of luck to you!

Feel free to add me. My friends and I very supportive of each other.

Good luck to you this time around. You CAN do it!

Ah, but sometimes it is. You can fight em, or ignore them. I mostly ignore them.

That crowd is sure they've gotten it right... this time.

Very sure. :drinker:

Not sure why they think mocking everyone else is the right thing to do, but they do.

And they seem oddly enthralled with snowflakes.

I vote once more for making chit chat a group. Or at least an opt in event.

I agree, they should start banning more of them.

it isn't being a bully to disagree with someone. it can sometimes be stated badly or rudely, but most people here genuinely want to help others...and if they see that someone is doing something counter-productive or downright dangerous, they aren't shy about saying so. Supporting unhealthy behavior isn't being supportive, its enabling. I agree that maybe there are a few who take a little too much glee in being corrective though.

it isn't being a bully to disagree with someone. it can sometimes be stated badly or rudely, but most people here genuinely want to help others...and if they see that someone is doing something counter-productive or downright dangerous, they aren't shy about saying so. Supporting unhealthy behavior isn't being supportive, its enabling. I agree that maybe there are a few who take a little too much glee in being corrective though.

I've been in health care for 28 years. The HCG diet is the scariest one I've seen come through. I'm sorry you ran into bullies, but I have to agree that being supportive of someone who is doing something dangerous is encouraging the health risks. Most people don't do it to be mean, but they do it because of how serious of a health risk you are taking and that you are sharing with people who are here to find education about health and receiving such poor advice such as HCG diets, etc.

There are so many bullies on here and I too was very shocked to find that on a site for motivation to lose weight and eat healthy so many people were bashing others. Someone friended me on MFP and stalked my food diary daily. (I call them the Food Police) Every time I didn't eat at 1200 calories and someone said congrats on being under my calorie count this "friend" would post how horrible it was that people were congratulating others for starving their selves. I have tried the HCG diet as well and had some success, but I can't do it long term.

Bottom line I say find the people that are supportive and the ones that aren't block them. Eat as little or as much as you feel comfortable to reach your goals. We are all here to lose weight and get healthy and none of us have the answer or we wouldn't be here! Feel free to friend those of us who are supportive of any attempt to become a better/healthier version of yourself!

Good luck!

i ... am not a bully.... i am here to support and help in anyway i can.... i expect the same back. we are all human... we all have our faults. i am a personal trainer that has a massive sweet tooth. you can try to beat me down but i will still get up again. and again ...and again!!!!!

ITA. Seriously. I cannot imagine some of these people acting this way offline. It is bullying behavior pure & simple. Just one small example: a newbie asked a question about calf exercises, and someone posted sarcastically that calves were in the meadow. Of course several regulars had to say how clever that was (it was????). I'm sure the newbie made the unforgiveaqble mistake of using the word "toning" thus opening him or her up to obscene ridicule by the forum regs who claim they are sick to death of answering the same questions although no one's forcing them to do it. They just need to step on someone to feel good about themselves. There are worst example of bullying here, but that one stuck in my mind as it was very similar to a sarcastic response my middle schooler had heard the week before. At middle school.

Oh and then there are the constant posts about women just being jealous of each other. Sexism is alive and well here. Racism would never be tolerated (and it should never be!), but it's OK to rip women apart.

That's not bullying. It's called a joke. It wasn't at the person's expense, it was wordplay.

All you people who mistake humor, or even sarcasm, with the "use of force and coercion to bully and intimidate others" must live in a very pleasant world. Really. When I was getting chairs pulled out from under me, cornered in hallways and berated for sticking my neck out for quieter kids, and consistently called "ugly," "horseface" and given carrots when I walked in a room, I could have gone for a joke that wasn't about *me*, but was about a funny coincidence of words. Goddamn Shakespeare used wordplay similar to the one you commented on; and that's really considered bullying by you?

And the people who "rip" apart women are generally not the same people making the clever wordplay.

Who are these "they" and "them"? It seems like anyone that disagrees with someone, or makes a joke they don't get, or just grinds their gears, becomes part of this inexplicable other of "bullies."

That's. Not. Bullying.

This thread comes up all the time, yes. Does that mean there's a problem? Maybe, but not of "bullying."

I've only been on here 3 days and I've already been bullied, but it was my fault for wandering over into the kiddie pool (Chit Chat section). So far from what I've read in the other sections, people here are generally nicer than most internet boards. lol But there's definitely something about the internet that brings out the worst in people.

OP - Without knowing fully what was posted...keep in mind that perception and interpretation of written word is dramatically impacted by your emotions at the moment you read.

For instance....you were on HCG, you found some success. I see that with you being back you did not get what you were looking for. Nothing has been stated as to why you are no longer on HCG. I'm pretty sure there were comments made about that choice being unsafe, not suitable for long-term, and that eat so little is unhealthy. IMHO, had you taken a healthier and more lifestyle driven process you would most likely be in a better position, both physically and financially.

Being "bullied" on this site, can be taken simply by misreading how I wrote that. Rather than take everything you see in a negative manner, take the positives, look at the what you percieve as negative for positive influence, and skip the BS.

This is why I lurk on the threads, post very rarely(and then in mostly off topic threads) and I would never feel comfortable posting my back story . Just from reading other threads, I know I would get a ton of negativity. I came here because it's a great way to hold MYSELF accountable with the food tracker and I do troll the community because I enjoy the success stories and inspiration I get from pics and success stories. Welcome back...