Stop the Fat Bashing!

Ashleymeganlove
Ashleymeganlove Posts: 36
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Time for a rant so if you don't want to see complaining- don't read it! :)

I'm so sick of the looks I get because I'm trying to be healthier. At 245 lbs, if I were eating a hamburger and fries I'd get looks from people because I shouldn't be eating like that in my condition. "Try a salad fatty!" is what their eyes say. We've grown up to accept that and to expect. What I absolutely hate is the people who stare at me (and others) who are trying to do better for themselves like they're worthless too. Either way I'm screwed! If I'm fat and getting fatter I'm criticized. If I'm fat and trying to get healthy I'm a poser.

Every Tuesday and Thursday I wear fitted workout pants/capris and a t-shirt to class because I go to the gym before I go to campus. I get looks each and everyday like I shouldn't be wearing fitted clothes and at this point I really don't care. I'm wearing these clothes because I've already been to the gym burning a ton of calories before most of these people have even woken up. Get over it! I fill up my plate with tons of veggies and lean proteins at school and people look at it like me like "Why are you even trying that? You know you want that greasy pizza!"

Either way I'm rocking these pants and making my body healthy so think what you want. :)

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  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Bashing of every form will always happen, rant away, no one will listen.
  • JustMyImagiNAYtion
    JustMyImagiNAYtion Posts: 76 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    YOU GO GIRL!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)
    Please explain the "Real woman" comment. I'm interested.
  • Macgeek74
    Macgeek74 Posts: 298 Member
    We all are here for you so dont ever worry about ranting. Rant away.
  • sgtrowley
    sgtrowley Posts: 246 Member
    Keep doing your thing! Theres always gonna be people like that, ignor and drive on!
  • Joreanasaurous
    Joreanasaurous Posts: 1,384 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)

    What makes a real women vs a fake one? I don't get it.
  • livetomove
    livetomove Posts: 2
    I'm curious about the "Real Woman" comment as well.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)

    What makes a real women vs a fake one? I don't get it.

    Humungous knockers.
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    Seriously? You are interpreting people LOOKING at you in a negative way.

    I'll be honest....you need to change your mindset.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)
    Please explain the "Real woman" comment. I'm interested.

    You can only be a REAL woman if you're overweight, oh wait, sorry, I mean 'curvy'. Otherwise you're 'bones' and 'need to eat a cheeseburger'.

    I like cheeseburgers. I like women. Bacon.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)

    mayhaps I'm fake?
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    Maybe you only think people are looking at you? I can't speak for everyone but at the gym I almost never really put much thought in to what anyone is wearing unless they're overly oddly dressed (working out in jeans, flip flops, prostitute level skimpy outfit, etc).
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I have no issue with you complaining or ranting, but everything in your post was literally about the "stares" you get from other people. It's possible insecurities leach out and attach themselves to the eyes of other people. Someone might be looking at you without even seeing you because they're zoned out. Someone might look at your food because they're hungry too.

    Is it possible that people are intentionally giving you disdainful looks? Yes, it is... but your entire rant is about all these different scenarios of what *you* think people are thinking. That's a dangerous game, to make assumptions like that.

    Hell, someone else might come in and say, "Stop the fat bashing! Don't avert your eyes from me just because of my weight!"

    Perception can be a real b.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    I'm curious about the "Real Woman" comment as well.

    It's like with boobs. If you can touch them they're real.
  • jnichel
    jnichel Posts: 4,553 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)

    mayhaps I'm fake?

    Do you like cheeseburgers?
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    In all fairness, you're right, at least on my end, but it generally only happens in extreme situations. I watched a lady damned near hit one of our guys in a work zone one day because she was stuffing her face with a cheeseburger, and if her car had have been a manual, the side of her gut would probably keep knocking it out of gear. So yeah, in that case, I was staring with a "Jesus Christ heifer, put down the BK" thought in my head.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I have no issue with you complaining or ranting, but everything in your post was literally about the "stares" you get from other people. It's possible insecurities leach out and attach themselves to the eyes of other people. Someone might be looking at you without even seeing you because they're zoned out. Someone might look at your food because they're hungry too.

    Is it possible that people are intentionally giving you disdainful looks? Yes, it is... but your entire rant is about all these different scenarios of what *you* think people are thinking. That's a dangerous game, to make assumptions like that.

    Hell, someone else might come in and say, "Stop the fat bashing! Don't avert your eyes from me just because of my weight!"

    Perception can be a real b.

    ^This
  • Kelly_Runs_NC
    Kelly_Runs_NC Posts: 474 Member
    Honestly when I see larger individuals at the gym period I have nothing but respect. I truely never think "Wow she shouldn't be wearing that"...I think "That's really awesome that he/she is here too"...

    I know you may have a complex, as I was a lot larger once too. But not everyone out there is thinking evil thoughts hun. Most people probably respect the fact that you are doing you!! ;-)
  • CollegiateGrief
    CollegiateGrief Posts: 552 Member
    A. Keep rocking it.

    B. Maybe you're reading too much into people's glances? I can be fairly unobservant, but I don't ever notice people staring at me oddly no matter what I'm eating or wearing on my way to/from the gym. Don't sweat it!
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    even slim and fit people get bashed I am not skinny but I am not fat eather but yrs ago I was 215/ 220 and was stared at all the time, asked when the baby was due and told by store clerks that they did not sell stuff in my size when I was not shopping for me oh and I was also asked by people that nasty question of " do you really think you should eat that"? But at the same time now that I have lost alot of weight I get looks from fat people and have on ocassion been told to go eat a burger because it looks like I need one or other comments along that line. I happens at eather end of the spectrom. I have lost count on how many times I have heard larger people refer to people that are a healthy weight as skinny *****'s, which is also bashing.
  • Ragarianok
    Ragarianok Posts: 23
    Some people are lucky; they were blessed with a high metabolism and don't have to put any effort into staying in shape. However, that doesn't mean that they're healthy. You can be overweight and still be healthy. Don't let anyone get you down! Those who criticize never have to try and can't understand the psychological effects that just a mere glance can have on another person. Be proud of who you are and work hard for who you want to be! Don't let anyone stand in your way! :)
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)
    Please explain the "Real woman" comment. I'm interested.

    Same here. What is a real woman?
  • GurleyGirl524
    GurleyGirl524 Posts: 578 Member
    Well said OP!!!
  • Joreanasaurous
    Joreanasaurous Posts: 1,384 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)
    Please explain the "Real woman" comment. I'm interested.

    You can only be a REAL woman if you're overweight, oh wait, sorry, I mean 'curvy'. Otherwise you're 'bones' and 'need to eat a cheeseburger'.

    Oh. Ok. Darn, guess I am fake. How does one break it to their lady bits they aren't real?


    To the OP haters gonna hate. You're doing this for you and not them so screw them.
  • RunDoozer
    RunDoozer Posts: 1,699 Member
    Sounds like the only person bashing you is ....you.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    sounds like you didnt need to rant.. You already got it figured out! You go girl!

    -from a felllow REAL women.. haha :)

    mayhaps I'm fake?

    Do you like cheeseburgers?

    No. I puffy heart them! :heart:
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    Why do you care what other people think or say about you?

    When you treat your body better, you feel better. You have more energy, your mood improves, your mind is sharper. Everything about your life feels better.

    You're doing this for you, not for them. Why does it matter how they feel? You feel great.
  • mikek333
    mikek333 Posts: 78 Member
    I love it when I see big people working out. I think, "There's someone trying to make a change."
  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    I have no issue with you complaining or ranting, but everything in your post was literally about the "stares" you get from other people. It's possible insecurities leach out and attach themselves to the eyes of other people. Someone might be looking at you without even seeing you because they're zoned out. Someone might look at your food because they're hungry too.

    Is it possible that people are intentionally giving you disdainful looks? Yes, it is... but your entire rant is about all these different scenarios of what *you* think people are thinking. That's a dangerous game, to make assumptions like that.

    Hell, someone else might come in and say, "Stop the fat bashing! Don't avert your eyes from me just because of my weight!"

    Perception can be a real b.

    :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

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