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I closed my diary because I knew there would be negative people just ready to kick someone when rhey are down. I have seen it too often on here. To sumit up, my diary looks like someone struggling to find the right macros and caloric rate for success and didn't have much luck. I exercise between 3 and 5 hours at med to high intensity,

Months ago I gave up chocolate. My favourite food in the world. I eat it occasionally now instead of every day. I thought that was contributing to my failure.

Thanks for those who gave me encouragement, it is nice to hear a kind word while I am mentally beating myself up. For those who feel the need to be qn online bully, perhaps you no longer have weight issues but you have other issues holding you back. There is never any need to be mean.

I have been there! Look for a Physician that practices Metabolic Medicine.....

Have you had extensive Blood Work?? Looked for Food Allergies? Vitamin/Mineral Deficiencies??? Endocrine Issues??? Had your Cortisol levels Checked?? Have you had a Glucose Tolerence Test?? Had your BMR measured by Respirometry?? Had Nutritional Counseling?? Worked with a trainer?? Had a Polysomnogram to check for Sleep Apnea. There are so many things that can grind weight loss to a halt...Including OVERTRAINING!( Honestly 3-5 hrs a day is enough to send your body into adaptive thermogenesis)

When I was 85 pounds overweight I had deficiencies in B12, Vit D (I thought, How could someone so overfed have deficiencies??) and Had Metabolic Syndrome, Obstructive Sleep Apnea and despite healthy eating and a ton of exercise I didn't loose a pound until my medical issues were corrected. A healthy diet, portion control ect had me loose a quick 20...that was predominately inflammation, It took 5 months worth of CPAP, Vitamins and Meds to loose the next pound! Once my body normalized the weight came off.

In the past I would just work out until I got physically injured or mentally burned out. Stop spinning your wheels and get a full Metabolic Workup by a competant physician that won't be judgemental.

BTW...even after I reached my goal weight....I am still on Meds....its how my body works...so long as I eat right, exercise AND take my meds....I maintain my weight +/- 10lbs(Winter is hard on me. cant wait till Daylight savings Time Begins).

I'm 35 years old, 62 inches tall, and was 229 pounds when I started trying to lose weight (again) the first of this year.

For years I said, "I can't lose weight!" "I'm trying everything and nothing is working!" "I'm eating so much less but not losing weight!"

One 1 January this year, I did something I hadn't done before: I measured everything I ate. You know what? I found out why I wasn't losing weight. My portion size was at times, more than 3x what a real portion size was! Yep, I was taking in waaaay more calories than I thought I was. (Heck I would have two cups of coffee a day and with the amount of cream/sugar I added, each cup was 300 to 400 calories. I LOVED a little coffee with my cream and sugar! Now, I have one cup of coffee with two measured servings of my creamer and no extra sugar. My one cup is now 70 calories instead of over 300.)

I exercise. Every. Single. Day. At least 30 minutes.

Since logging everything on My Fitness Pal, measuring my portion sizes, drinking water throughout the day instead of anything else, I have lost 23 pounds.

I suggest you start fresh. Invest in food scale, measuring spoons/cups and start over. Measure everything. Don't eyeball it. Give up calorie drinks and only drink water or zero calorie teas.

You can do this. And you don't have to give up everything you love. I still get to eat things I love, just not in over abundance.

Open your diary so we can see what you have been doing. Maybe we can help you with some low cal meal ideas, substitutions, and such. Do you eat a lot of rice? I love rice and found out it is muh higher in calories than I assumed.

Don't quit. My Fitness Pal in an excellent tool and I wouldn't have made it this far so quickly.

I do not eat back all of my exercise calories...only some. I have my calories set at 1200, but usually take in about 1400.

Do you drink sodas? I was drinking one to two 20 ounce bottles of Mountain Dew a day. Each bottle I drank was 290 calories, added on top of 600+ calories in my coffee, and I drank most of my calories for the day without even factoring in my food.

You can NOT cheat. You need to honestly log everything you eat, drink and do. You need to be accurate which means actually measuring it, and not by eye. If you feel like" closet snacking" drink a large glass of water and head out the door for a walk.

Do not quit. You will only be more unhappy.

(Plus I read that your dr said you were gaining muscle while losing fat, so that means something you were doing was going right!)

Oh wanted to share with you that I was Vit D and potassium deficient, have fibromyalgia, depression, anxiety, and metabolic syndrome. I am losing weight. So you can, too! I now take several supplements: fish oil, multi vitamin, potassium, magnesium, and biotin.

I've tried eating all my exercise calories, not eating all my exercise categories, weightlifting, reducing my calories, increasing my calories, heart rate monitor, adjusting my macros, increasing my exercise, decreasing and increasing my exercise, adjusting my tdee to find an optimal caloric rate (never found). I won't quit exercise. It's my lifestyle. But I have to give up the notion that ill ever be thinl.

It is possible that you are trying too much and over-thinking too much. If I tried everything that everyone said, I would go crazy. For every suggestion, there is a contradiction. You cannot follow every single suggestion of every single person and succeed. It's just not going to work. You have to try one thing, if it doesn't work after trying it for 1-2 months, then try adjusting. But try adjusting just one thing at a time, try it for a month or two, etc. Your body will be all kinds of confused if you are constantly all over the place from the suggestion of so many. People can only suggest what works for them. What works for one might not be the picture of ideal success for others. What works for me might not give you the same results. Or it MIGHT give you the same results, but in a different amount of time. You have to establish what works for you. You have to give yourself the chance to make that discovery by sticking with something over a period of time. It gets frustrating for all of us. We all have to adjust throughout the course. That's just the norm.

No offense but your mom and sister quite possibly are where they are based on choice rather than genetics. If they choose the lifestyle that supports where they are, that's the life they will have. If you choose a different lifestyle, you quite possibly will have different results. My mom is nothing like me. I have two sisters. Neither of them are like me. We're all just people living lives and getting out of life what we put in to it. You can have results. You might not ever be 120 pounds, but then, you just might have a 120-pound girl inside of you trying to break out. You can't dwell on where you think you could/could not be. You have to just focus on treating yourself well. Thinking of long-term life and healthiness. Take care of YOU first so that you can safely and healthfully care for a wonderful child (or more) later on. If you aren't healthy, how would you provide a long life for another person? This isn't me being judgmental, this is truly me trying to maybe shift those negative voices in your head telling you that you cannot do this. We've all told ourselves that. You can't give in to those thoughts. You CAN do it. You can be healthier.

If you are trying to be where you are eating foods you hate, then you will fail. In order to change your lifestyle, not just diet, you have to find a compromise between all that's perfectly healthy and what foods you can happily sustain life on. I have discovered so many more delicious recipes and foods since I've made a few changes and compromises. I don't feel like I'm sacrificing much of anything. True, there are times I want to gob down a bunch of the stuff that had me where I was before, but I find that the payoff of refraining is so much more satisfactory.

I promise, if you give it some time, you can make changes like you wouldn't believe. If you do it properly, it changes more than just your body. Your confidence, mental well-being, everything follows suit. You weren't born obese (I assume) so it wasn't your intent to be that way. I would rather you add me and allow me to encourage you rather than you walk away and give up on yourself.

Much luck to you!
Ashley

I echo the others who said your doctor should test for PCOS and/or insulin resistance. I was ready to give up after 12 pounds because nothing worked. I tried all kinds of calories and workout combinations for several months with only a pound lost here and there.

Then my doctor did bloodwork and discovered I have PCOS w/ insulin resistance. He put me on metformin and progesterone supplements and told me to eat like a diabetic (low-carb/low-sugar). I also have to exercise 30-45 minutes every day to help my body use up the glucose in my blood.

See my ticker? I've lost 58 pounds and just hit 299 today because I kept fighting and didn't give up. I had to give up some of my favorite foods, like mac and cheese, but it forced me to find healthy alternatives that don't leave me feeling bloated and gross, so it all worked out in the end. Plus, I'm finally under 300 pounds, which I never thought would happen when I weighed 357.

Please don't give up.

I'm 35 years old, 62 inches tall, and was 229 pounds when I started trying to lose weight (again) the first of this year.

For years I said, "I can't lose weight!" "I'm trying everything and nothing is working!" "I'm eating so much less but not losing weight!"

One 1 January this year, I did something I hadn't done before: I measured everything I ate. You know what? I found out why I wasn't losing weight. My portion size was at times, more than 3x what a real portion size was! Yep, I was taking in waaaay more calories than I thought I was. (Heck I would have two cups of coffee a day and with the amount of cream/sugar I added, each cup was 300 to 400 calories. I LOVED a little coffee with my cream and sugar! Now, I have one cup of coffee with two measured servings of my creamer and no extra sugar. My one cup is now 70 calories instead of over 300.)

I exercise. Every. Single. Day. At least 30 minutes.

Since logging everything on My Fitness Pal, measuring my portion sizes, drinking water throughout the day instead of anything else, I have lost 23 pounds.

I suggest you start fresh. Invest in food scale, measuring spoons/cups and start over. Measure everything. Don't eyeball it. Give up calorie drinks and only drink water or zero calorie teas.

You can do this. And you don't have to give up everything you love. I still get to eat things I love, just not in over abundance.

Open your diary so we can see what you have been doing. Maybe we can help you with some low cal meal ideas, substitutions, and such. Do you eat a lot of rice? I love rice and found out it is muh higher in calories than I assumed.

Don't quit. My Fitness Pal in an excellent tool and I wouldn't have made it this far so quickly.

I do not eat back all of my exercise calories...only some. I have my calories set at 1200, but usually take in about 1400.

Do you drink sodas? I was drinking one to two 20 ounce bottles of Mountain Dew a day. Each bottle I drank was 290 calories, added on top of 600+ calories in my coffee, and I drank most of my calories for the day without even factoring in my food.

You can NOT cheat. You need to honestly log everything you eat, drink and do. You need to be accurate which means actually measuring it, and not by eye. If you feel like" closet snacking" drink a large glass of water and head out the door for a walk.

Do not quit. You will only be more unhappy.

(Plus I read that your dr said you were gaining muscle while losing fat, so that means something you were doing was going right!)

Oh wanted to share with you that I was Vit D and potassium deficient, have fibromyalgia, depression, anxiety, and metabolic syndrome. I am losing weight. So you can, too! I now take several supplements: fish oil, multi vitamin, potassium, magnesium, and biotin.

AWESOME COMMENT! So glad you didn't just "give up", instead you honestly examined all your food behaviors, got to the truth, made the appropriate changes and are seeing POSITIVE RESULTS. WAY TO GO! And here's to your continued success.

Giving up only assures you will never be who you want to be. It's okay to feel defeated sometimes, and get upset with everything. I think sometimes you NEED that to kickstart your willpower to keep trying. I understand weightloss is a tough, life-long journey. My entire family is overweight, my grandmother was 300+lbs and died when I was very young after extremely fast weightloss that was somehow kickstarted by her doctor. I've vowed my whole life to never end up like my family. It took me FOUR YEARS to lose 30lbs, but I did it. And I've kept it off. My only suggestion is always try new things. Never feel like you need to get stuck in a rut. Try new foods, new workouts, always strive to break your records and better yourself. That's the only thing that's going to keep you moving forward.

What I did was train myself to crave different foods. I started by removing gluten, my biggest weakness and addiction. Eventually I made fruits and veggies the core of what I eat and I crave them. One baby step at a time. I am now confident that this will be the very last time I will ever have to lose a significant amount of weight. I don't even count my calories anymore and have also taught myself to love exercise. I was just sick enough of being fat and wanted to finally be happy and connected to my body. You can do it by putting one foot in front of the other.

I live in Korea. Doctor isn't very supportive. Just says dont give up, but thebmedicationnis expensive and lack of results doesn't warrant the price. Definition of crazy is doing the same thing over again and expecting different results. I have no idea what is going on with my body and nothng seems to be working. They tested me last year and said it wasn't my thyroid. She did suggest gastricbypass surgery. But my problem is not eating a lot of food. My problem is how my body processes it. I don't think the surgery, in the long run, would be beneficial to me. I wanted to lose weight so I could have a healthy child but I guess children aren't in my future.

The problem is you eat more calories than your body spends. Bottom line. Maybe you don't eat a lot compared to other people but you DO eat more than YOUR body requires. I don't eat a ton either... I'm just a very lucky person in that I have a super efficient body that has a very low caloric requirement. For me having bariatric surgery will help bring my appetite in line with my metabolic rate. Yes, I'll still have to watch what I eat and weight will always be a struggle, but the surgery will help make it a bit easier for me to manage my health.

How to lose weight and keep it off:

Don't quit.

So you were weak and went over on calories.
Big deal. Go burn off what you just ate.

Don't quit.

Ugh, I'm so tired. I'm bloated and don't feel like doing ANYTHING!
Look back at why you're doing this and rededicate yourself to that goal.

Don't quit.

I'm depressed and don't want to look at how much I weigh.
If you gained weight it's not a failure. It's a new point to work from.

Don't quit.

Those cupcakes were soooooo delicious, but my calorie count is TOTALLY RUINED NOW!
Psht, just log em. Maybe you can still work them off. Anyway, tomorrow is another day.

Don't quit.

I was away on business and I'm not sure how many calories I had, and I had a few drinks and didn't log anything for a few days!
The diary is still there, waiting for you. It does not judge. Go back to it.

Don't quit.

Oh wow, this diet is making me fat! The numbers are totally off!
So, fix the numbers and keep going. Many people know how to fix them if you're not sure.

Don't quit.

I've hit a plateau! It doesn't work anymore!
Sure it works. Open up your diary and ask a few people to check out your profile to figure out how to fix it.

Don't quit.

There aren't any diet foods that I like.
Everything is a diet food it you don't eat too much of it. Even pizza and chocolate. Control your portions and be honest what those portions are.

Don't quit.

It's a glandular thing. Everyone in my family is fat.
Then you have some learning to do about how to eat and exercise properly. Find skinny people that used to be fat. Ask them. They would love to help. Don't ask your fat family. They haven't figured it out yet. Once you figure it out you can help them too. You can be that inspiration to your entire family.

Don't quit.

If you quit you may as well have done nothing at all.
Do you really want to waste all that hard work?

Don't quit.

Try to focus on your health rather than your weight but don't give up! I know you want to lose, but if you give up you will probably end up gaining. Assuming that you have had a full health work-up including thyroid and found nothing, I would trash the scale and focus on eating and doing things that are good for you. Try to find an exercise routine you enjoy enough to do even if you won't loose weight. I found my passion in running. I didn't lose a single pond for the first year - in fact, i actually gained a few. But in the end, my body started to change. It was loving it that kept me going and it's payed off in the long run.