DEAL BREAKERS for dating

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  • xFamousLastWordsx
    xFamousLastWordsx Posts: 301 Member
    Must like cats.
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    an armed husband
  • ChrisinGA
    ChrisinGA Posts: 116 Member
    my deal breaker is ..my husband told me I'm not allowed to date anymore.

    My gf says the same thing, No fun LOL
  • jayche
    jayche Posts: 1,128 Member
    Penis
  • erinxo13
    erinxo13 Posts: 892 Member
    smoking, drugs, excessive drinking, no job, no education, no drivers license, generally rude, gotta believe in/want marriage/want kids/love dogs
    theres a lot. I have standards what can I say.
  • Buzzyi
    Buzzyi Posts: 17 Member
    Someone who whines about their job. If you don't like it, change it or just get on with it.At least you HAVE a job.
    Drugs.
    Arrogance.
    Dirty fingernails- in fact bad general hygeine is a huge NO.

    Ability to smile easily is a definite must.
  • aprilmonkey
    aprilmonkey Posts: 12
    My deal breakers would be being full of hate towards another ethnicity or sexuality preference.

    ...And also men who aren't alright with me preferring to smoke weed over taking medications.

    ... And men who are horrible in the bedroom.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    smoking, drugs, excessive drinking, no job, no education, no drivers license, generally rude, gotta believe in/want marriage/want kids/love dogs
    theres a lot. I have standards what can I say.
    I dated a lovely guy who wasn't allowed a driving licence because of epilepsy.
    Just putting it out there that it isn't always a person's fault and it doesn't make them a loser.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    You folks who are saying "No job" are being pretty harsh. The person might have no job through no fault of their own - laid off, company went under, etc.

    On the other hand, "no desire to get a job" is definitely a valid deal breaker.
    truth.
  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    No way:
    - Arrogant / smug / condescending / annoyingly argumentative for the sake of it / black and white thinker / lack of social skills --> basically no engineers
    - Addictions (sober 10+ years is ok, but if it's even a possibility now I can't deal, sorry)
    - As someone else said, untreated mental health issues or hard-core personality disorders. Mild/occasional anxiety or depression is ok, that just means you think about stuff
    - Cruelty
    - Stupidity
    - Being dismissive/remote, or, too clingy (should be able to play/work both alone and with others)
    - Regressive politics
    - Religious (spiritual, eh, maybe; probably not)
    - Not pulling weight at home
    - Sense of entitlement

    Essential:
    - Emotionally secure
    - Insightful
    - Kind
    - Witty (this is a twofer, implies a certain kind of intelligence)
    - Must do exactly half of the domestic stuff. I mean EXACTLY half, not 'help out' now and then, or just the dishes
  • astronomicals
    astronomicals Posts: 1,537 Member
    anything resembling any type of monogamous relationship.. ewwww
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Being bat**** crazy.
  • ghhosstt
    ghhosstt Posts: 112
    -controlling
    -anger issues
    -jealous
    -insecure
    -watches The Big Bang Theory
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    If she owns a grey cat called Mr. Nibbles
  • sgtdub555
    sgtdub555 Posts: 692
    -controlling
    -anger issues
    -jealous
    -insecure
    -watches The Big Bang Theory
    Watches The Big Bang Theory

    Really
  • sgtdub555
    sgtdub555 Posts: 692
    Penis

    That covers it right there LOL
  • bexboxxx
    bexboxxx Posts: 189 Member
    small penis

    about covers it for me
  • Restybaby2012
    Restybaby2012 Posts: 568 Member
    Ironically Ive discovered as I get older, I develop more deal breakers

    #1) NOT married
    #2) No small kids
    #3) NO prison time
    #4) No smoker
    #5) Must be intelligent
    #6) Must have passion
    #7) Vocabulary must consist of more than 1 syllable words
    #8) Must not be living at home or with others
    #9) Must have a solid job w/longevity (frequent changing of jobs is not cool)
    #10) Must have own home/apt
    #11) Teeth in good shape or dentures (gawd I hate bad teeth)
    #12) Must be clean
    #13) Must have own vehicle
    #14) No icky fetishes

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  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    #14) No icky fetishes
    mmmmmmmm... icky fetishes <3
  • Silver_Star
    Silver_Star Posts: 1,351 Member
    laughing like a hyena :brokenheart:
  • Nutella91
    Nutella91 Posts: 624 Member
    lately, white and black guys.
    i have a serious asian fever :love:
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    small penis

    about covers it for me

    S**t.
  • Ohmydaze
    Ohmydaze Posts: 403 Member
    You know, I am curious to know. I'm a smoker and I totally get why non-smokers won't date us.

    So that makes me wonder how non-smokers that do date us can do that? All of my lovers but one have been non-smokers. If I were to quit, I'd have a very difficult time dating a smoker.

    Not that I'm not grateful for those who date smokers, but how do you do it?

    Boyfriend is an occasional smoker - smokes a little more when he's stressed, otherwise only one or two a week. He knows I don't like it though.We're long distance, so it isn't a problem currently, but he knows I won't kiss him after a smoke ;) If/When we live together - not in the house. Ever.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    lately, white and black guys.
    i have a serious asian fever :love:

    "you no more yankie my wankie, the donger needs food!"

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  • ghhosstt
    ghhosstt Posts: 112
    -controlling
    -anger issues
    -jealous
    -insecure
    -watches The Big Bang Theory
    Watches The Big Bang Theory

    Really

    A good sense of humor is really important to me.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    1. conservatives.
    2. animal haters/abusers
    3. straight-edgers. Sorry I like green-stuff and alcohol

    Good thing the fiance is none of those things.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    small penis

    about covers it for me

    It's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    Penis

    Can you specify? What if they have a penis in a jar or an odd assortment of penis art? :tongue:
  • Melissaf0925
    Melissaf0925 Posts: 110
    * Has kids who are absolutely WRETCHED in public. When it comes down to it, Joe Public always looks at the female like she is the jerk when a kid misbehaves in public. I was raised with manners, and would behave while out at a very young age. If your child is the one everyone rolls their eyes at in a restaurant, I really don't want to be seen with either of you.

    * Don't whine about EVERYTHING. If you don't like something, change it. I prefer not to have to manage BOTH our lives, by having to tell you how to move to the next level.

    * You have to be into fitness. It doesn't have to be running & Crossfit (the 2 things I love & do 5-7 days a week ) but do more than sit on your butt watching TV. You need to understand where my drive comes from, and those who don't work out don't get it.

    * PLEASE eat a variety of food. Living on pizza and chicken quesadillas is not cool once you are out of college. Someone who eats veggies is even better.

    * Be kind to those who are weaker (children, animals, etc). If you are an *kitten* to a bartender or waiter, I will pay my half of the tab and roll. That is not cool.

    * Don't live in filth! A house or apartment doesn't have to be ODC neat, but at some point please run a vacuum and clean your bathroom!
  • trud72
    trud72 Posts: 1,912 Member
    shorties(under 5ft 8)
    bad breath
    dirty finger nails(unless they are a hot machanic with hardly any clothes on) :bigsmile:
    NO SENCE OF HUMOUR! :sad:

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