My opinion (don't read if you're overly sensitive)
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I am so sick of hearing dumb excuses from people who "really want and need to lose the weight". If I had a dollar for everytime someone complained about something or had an excuse as to why they can't work out or eat right that day- I would have enough money for a gym membership to 17 different gyms all over the country AND enough money to fly to each one 23 times a day!
"I can't work out. I live in an apartment and I would disturb people"
"I can't work out. I don't have a gym membership"
"I can't eat healthy. I don't have any food"
"I feel so depressed. I can't work out"
"I don't have enough money to get a gym membership"
"I don't have any motivation"
"What's the point?"
"I am too busy"
Those are only a few of the excuses and complaints that I hear on a daily basis whether it be on the site or someone in my family or a close friend? You know what I have to say to all of these? -
"Talk to the people below you. If they don't like It, too bad"
"Work out at home"
"Go buy some food or make something healthy. There are plenty of healthy dishes that can be done on $10"
"Suck it up"
"You don't need one"
"Find it and than give me a call"
"The point is, you're fat"
"I am busy too. Talk to you after I work out"
Seriously. Everyone has their "days" but, when a friend posts how crappy their life is, how busy they are and how poor they are- I don't feel bad. You can still use your own body weight to work out and you can lose weight. Eat the crap food than but, learn portion control. If you find yourself saying "what's the point" or "I don't want to" than, you're right! You really don't want to lose the weight, you want it to accumulate, you want to get larger and you want to have health issues. If you see yourself looking in the mirror and seeing something gross, do something about it. Cut the crap, enough with the excuses and get off of your *kitten*!!!
I am sorry if this offends someone but, if it offends you- take my advice. I am sure there will be a lot of other's who also cannot stand the daily excuses with people. What do you want us to say? Eventually, I am going to end up giving up on your dreams since you can't even reach for your dreams! Sorry if I sound "witchy" but, this is real life- you can't live a happy and healthy life if you aren't happy and healthy. YOU are the only one that can do this. Suck it up, put the donut down and do some push ups!!!
Make today great, everyone!
You know, for someone so young you have years of infinite wisdom. I'm nearly 30 years older than you and I couldn't have articulated any better. Some of the same folks complaining about not having time certainly make time to watch all of these brain dead reality tv shows and play with their I-phones.0 -
You should judge less and understand more. Unless you live someone elses life, you have no clue what is going on.
Exactly.
And the "too busy" *excuse* is sometimes not an excuse. I left this site for a while because I was, honestly, too busy. And when I couldn't keep up, I got tired of hearing people say things like "if it's important enough you'll make time". I don't know about you, but I don't have a magic wand that can add hours to the day. There are, in fact, only 24 of them, and there's no way around that. When you have a full time job and four very active children, making time for yourself means taking time away from them, and that wasn't something that I was willing to do, or something I felt was right to do as a mom.
My life has now calmed down some, some school activities have ended, and I am back to try again... now that I have more time.
Just like the person I quoted said, if you're not living their life you have no place to judge and you don't truly understand where they are coming from.0 -
I LOVE THIS!!!!!:laugh: People need to grow the hell up and take responsibility. Good for you that you have and "get it" at such a young age.0
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One person's excuses are another person's reasons. It's hard to know how to respond. Some people need reassurance and encouragement, others need a swift kick in the motivation.0
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Two things, and while the first is not really an excuse because they could find the time to run or walk, these statements bother me:
"I can't work out because I live in an apartment" -- as someone who lives on the second floor of a townhouse with a neighbour below, I CANNOT work-out in my apartment unless it's low impact things like squats, push-ups. I cannot do work-out videos. I cannot jump around a lot.
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"I'm depressed so I can't work-out" -- as someone who suffers with major depression this is a very true statement. If you are depressed, you quite literally do not want/sometimes can't do anything but sleep. That's not to say that you shouldn't try, but in my own experience I often spend my entire day sleeping when I'm really depressed.0 -
Exercise produces endorphins and dopamine, which are mood enhancers, so.... I used to take medication for ADD and depression (granted they weren't super severe) and haven't needed to take anything since I started exercising. These hormones we naturally produce are some of the most illegal products to buy.. it's the same argument for not wanting to have sex. Sex has been proven to enhance mood with other benefits :P PLUS it's awesome and you could log it as circuit training.
It doesn't work for everyone. I was working out almost every day quite hard, and I fell into a moderate-severe depression where I was constantly thinking about suicide and planning when and how I would do it, writing letters and having feelings of 100% hopelessness and failure and spent a good deal of my time sleeping or laying in bed just wishing to be dead.
I started taking medication, and a few weeks later the awfulness of everything started to lift. I was able to see the point in living again, even if I'm not where I want to be and life generally sucks.
True depression is not something you can "suck up" it is completely debilitating.0 -
OP, "overly sensitive"? Didn't you take offense to the 4/1 frivolities?
(My apologies if this has already been addressed. I'll admit, I didn't read through all five pages.)0 -
I really, honest to god don't understand how someone can care so much about what other people, especially strangers, are doing with their life.0
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One person's excuses are another person's reasons. It's hard to know how to respond. Some people need reassurance and encouragement, others need a swift kick in the motivation.
"Excuses are tools of the incompetent." ---- Mike Tomlin, Head Coach Pittsburgh Steelers.0 -
Just my opinion, and you shouldn't read it if you're overly sensitive, but this is sanctimonious bullpoo.
It's very true that people make excuses all the time. But I find it hilarious when people start calling others out on it, when it's obvious from their very presence on this site that they only just stopped making excuses themselves. Especially when so many of us will be back on the couch within 12 months eating ice cream from a gallon bucket.
Three months of healthy eating and gym-going does not give you judgment rights on others.0 -
i was sort of prepared to be pissed with you ....but i agree! If you make those excuses - just remember they are are just that excuses - you can always make different choices on how you spend your money and time.
....AND for those "depressed" people - working out is a natural anti-depressant! Not to mention losing the weight....that is ALSO a VERY EFFECTIVE anti-depressant!
You don't know what their depression stems from so it's unfair to assume that because they lose weight they will no longer be depressed. My depression does not stem from my weight gain/loss whatever. Sure, I have poor body image but that's not what makes me depressed.
Second, you try getting off your *kitten* when all you want to do is fade. Depressed people have a hard time finding the energy to do anything when they're in a down-swing. Depression has physical symptoms as well! Muscle fatigue, Tiredness, Irritability, Light sensitivity.0 -
Losers always have a book called "1001 Lame Excuses for Dummies". :bigsmile:
Losers always make excuses! :grumble:0 -
Exercise produces endorphins and dopamine, which are mood enhancers, so.... I used to take medication for ADD and depression (granted they weren't super severe) and haven't needed to take anything since I started exercising. These hormones we naturally produce are some of the most illegal products to buy.. it's the same argument for not wanting to have sex. Sex has been proven to enhance mood with other benefits :P PLUS it's awesome and you could log it as circuit training.
It doesn't work for everyone. I was working out almost every day quite hard, and I fell into a moderate-severe depression where I was constantly thinking about suicide and planning when and how I would do it, writing letters and having feelings of 100% hopelessness and failure and spent a good deal of my time sleeping or laying in bed just wishing to be dead.
I started taking medication, and a few weeks later the awfulness of everything started to lift. I was able to see the point in living again, even if I'm not where I want to be and life generally sucks.
True depression is not something you can "suck up" it is completely debilitating.
I am the same way, working out doesn't help me much. I feel empowered and good about my goals and achieving them but I still suffer from suicidal ideation on a fairly regular basis.0 -
Well said Ms. Anderson :flowerforyou:0
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"This site has a personal blog for a reason.... seriously."
"My advice: remember where you came from and let others worry about themselves."
Couldn't have said it any better! I used to 6 days a week, pulling 15 hr days all day on my feet behind a desk- not even moving, just standing. I became over weight because of that job and medical reasons. I was SO poor that I couldn't afford to eat anything BUT the dollar menu at McD's. Seriously I would eat nothing for breakfast, eat $1 sandwhich and fries for lunch and dinner (11am & 2am). This would be my day EVERY DAY until my day off and all I could do on my day off was rest for the next 6 day marathon.
Before you start judging, don't think for a second that you have it all figured out for everyone else due to the sheer FACT that your life contains different barriers than other's lives. You know you are being a "witch" because you already apologized for it. If you're going to act in a way you disapprove of don't apologize for it, just DON"T DO IT!0 -
Anyone who ever got fat lived by excuses. You lose it when you're ready.
I guess I remember that side of the fence so I retained my compassion.0 -
Very well said !0
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How about you just worry about yourself and let everyone else figure it out. Nobody wants to be pressured into doing anything. If they want to make excuses then let them it's not your body so chill.0
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This is posted under Motivation and Support?
Sit down.0 -
Here's the problem...Some people have issues in which might need some therapy to get going. Not everyone is living their life for your personal approval, and not everyone is looking for your sympathy.
Some people are emotional eaters, and berating them, and treating them like a drill sergeant is not the answer. In fact, it makes their problem much worse. As stupid as it sounds, have you ever seen the Austin Powers movies? Do you recall the part where fat *kitten* says "I eat because I'm unhappy, and I'm unhappy because I eat?" I know the entire movie was in jest, but seriously there is much truth to what he said.
Source for those who don't recall :
http://youtu.be/DH5TMCR8etc
Also, some people have social anxiety disorders (myself included - yes, I was diagnosed by a professional ) which makes it hard to just go out and do it..Personally, I suffer from physical symptoms when I'm put in social situations in which I'm not comfortable with (elevated bp, sweating, etc...) Being incredibly socially awkward does not help either.
What makes it worse is when you do work up the nerve to go to the gym or do a zumba class or something and people make fun of you for your weight....at the gym no less....You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't...It makes people like us want to give up which leads back to what I said previously .
Oh, and yes I've been made fun of many times at the gym. People are down right cruel.
Additionally, someone who is depressed does not need someone barking at them to suck it up; it's just not that simple, and again, will make their issues worse. I speak from experience as I was also diagnosed with clinical depression some time ago as well.
It might be hard for someone who doesn't have these problems to understand - especially at your young age, but these are things that shouldn't be dismissed. Consider yourself lucky to not have to live with depression or social anxiety disorders.
Don't get me wrong though, I'm trying not being overly sensitive about your comment considering the source ( it's just a comment from a random young person, with few life experiences, or perhaps wasn't taught any better on an online forum,) and honestly it could apply to some people, but it most certainly does not apply to all.
What really compelled me to comment on your thread is that this type of behavior/comments made to people you see in person during everyday life can really be damaging to already fragile individual, and could possibly set them back in terms of not only weight loss, but in other aspects as well.
It can be a lot more harmful than you know, because it's not always as simple as "sucking it up."
This times a million!0 -
. I was SO poor that I couldn't afford to eat anything BUT the dollar menu at McD's. Seriously I would eat nothing for breakfast, eat $1 sandwhich and fries for lunch and dinner (11am & 2am).
This is ridiculous. You do realize that you can buy healthier groceries for less than $1-2 a day (the same amount you say you were spending at McDonald's every day)? I call shenanigans.0 -
Exercise produces endorphins and dopamine, which are mood enhancers, so.... I used to take medication for ADD and depression (granted they weren't super severe) and haven't needed to take anything since I started exercising. These hormones we naturally produce are some of the most illegal products to buy.. it's the same argument for not wanting to have sex. Sex has been proven to enhance mood with other benefits :P PLUS it's awesome and you could log it as circuit training.
It doesn't work for everyone. I was working out almost every day quite hard, and I fell into a moderate-severe depression where I was constantly thinking about suicide and planning when and how I would do it, writing letters and having feelings of 100% hopelessness and failure and spent a good deal of my time sleeping or laying in bed just wishing to be dead.
I started taking medication, and a few weeks later the awfulness of everything started to lift. I was able to see the point in living again, even if I'm not where I want to be and life generally sucks.
True depression is not something you can "suck up" it is completely debilitating.
I am the same way, working out doesn't help me much. I feel empowered and good about my goals and achieving them but I still suffer from suicidal ideation on a fairly regular basis.
Yeah, my suicidal ideation comes back really easily if something goes particularly wrong. I'm trying to use CBT to stop that automatic thought association. That being said, before meds it did not matter at all if things happening were good or bad or neutral, everything made me wish for death, so this is a vast improvement!0 -
Here's the problem...Some people have issues in which might need some therapy to get going. Not everyone is living their life for your personal approval, and not everyone is looking for your sympathy.
Some people are emotional eaters, and berating them, and treating them like a drill sergeant is not the answer. In fact, it makes their problem much worse. As stupid as it sounds, have you ever seen the Austin Powers movies? Do you recall the part where fat *kitten* says "I eat because I'm unhappy, and I'm unhappy because I eat?" I know the entire movie was in jest, but seriously there is much truth to what he said.
Source for those who don't recall :http://youtu.be/DH5TMCR8etc
Also, some people have social anxiety disorders (myself included - yes, I was diagnosed by a professional ) which makes it hard to just go out and do it..Personally, I suffer from physical symptoms when I'm put in social situations in which I'm not comfortable with (elevated bp, sweating, etc...) Being incredibly socially awkward does not help either.
What makes it worse is when you do work up the nerve to go to the gym or do a zumba class or something and people make fun of you for your weight....at the gym no less....You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't...It makes people like us want to give up which leads back to what I said previously .
Oh, and yes I've been made fun of many times at the gym. People are down right cruel.
Additionally, someone who is depressed does not need someone barking at them to suck it up; it's just not that simple, and again, will make their issues worse. I speak from experience as I was also diagnosed with clinical depression some time ago as well.
It might be hard for someone who doesn't have these problems to understand - especially at your young age, but these are things that shouldn't be dismissed. Consider yourself lucky to not have to live with depression or social anxiety disorders.
Don't get me wrong though, I'm trying not being overly sensitive about your comment considering the source ( it's just a comment from a random young person, with few life experiences, or perhaps wasn't taught any better on an online forum,) and honestly it could apply to some people, but it most certainly does not apply to all.
What really compelled me to comment on your thread is that this type of behavior/comments made to people you see in person during everyday life can really be damaging to already fragile individual, and could possibly set them back in terms of not only weight loss, but in other aspects as well.
It can be a lot more harmful than you know, because it's not always as simple as "sucking it up."
Wise and well said.0 -
Lol, I get to hear those on a daily basis.
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I was one of them people who made all those excuses until I got sick of the way I looked and wanted to look and feel better about myself. I did the working out at home and never set foot inside a gym. I personally don't like going to gyms and I feel self conscious when I do. I may have quit a bunch of times but all that matters is I got back up and started back up...=)0
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I ove this post. I was once one of those people but then realized that i really only need one hour our of my day to work out. That is all that is needed to burn the calories I need. Eating healthier doesnt mean to cut out what you love, its to cut back on it if thats what will help. I could not feel bad for someone who makes excuses, noone felt bad for me. I admit, I do get down at times cause although I have lost 20 pounds and feel great for it, there are times I still feel fat but I just give myself a pep talk that if I keep doing what I am doing I will be able to lose the weight for good and never have to worry about how fat I feel again. Anyone can workout, lose weight, and be healthy. Just have to want to do it.0
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So, what's your excuse for allowing so many whiny losers to remain in your life?
No, seriously, it sounds like you're surrounded by ineffectual bumblers who are driving you crazy. Get rid of them. I don't care what your excuse is, you're better off without them. If you keep them around, you have only yourself to blame.0 -
I have seen this and a variation of this type of post too many times on here. I don't understand why it bothers people to hear complaining in the motivation and Support forum. I don't get it. O_o0
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I agree with some of them. Except the too busy one, because I genuinely used to be too busy to exercise on a daily basis, after getting a bus at 7am and getting home at 6pm, quickly eating dinner then doing homework until 11pm every day, except weekends. Not that I needed to exercise much, because my active day of walking or thinking (yes, thinking burns calories) allowed me to lose weight OK. Now I drive in, so I get home sooner even if I come home via the gym
Also, depression. Some of the symptoms are overeating and lacking energy so much that a sufferer will be unable to get out of bed. I've never been diagnosed with depression, but there have been days when I have been unable to leave the house due to some awful thoughts in my head. Yes, exercise is a fantastic treatment for depression (some studies have shown it to be better than drugs for bipolar disorder), but it's starting that cycle of 'I feel good, so I'll exercise more' which is the difficult part.0
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