My boyfriends calls me fat.

You're all probably going to say "Leave him!" You know what, I should! I'm 99% sure I'm going to! We fight because he's made me insecure with his cheating habits and when I get jealous, I'm the "Fat *****". "Stupid *****". I'm not dealing with that anymore! Nor am I ever going to get called fat again! I'M 176 POUNDS! I'M 5'5! OKAY! I'M ****ING FAT! But I'll lose that. It's 100% possible to lose every inch of fat! But his human decency will forever BE ****!
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  • Leave Him. He is obviously a horrible arsehole. Do it for your self esteem. No real man would treat a women that way.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    You should totally marry this guy.
  • YellowNightingale
    YellowNightingale Posts: 440 Member
    I agree, it is time to set yourself free from such an abusive relationship. There is such thing as mental abuse, and this is it. Love yourself, you will find someone better who loves you for YOU, regardless of what you weigh.
  • cherylatkwechanged
    cherylatkwechanged Posts: 479 Member
    You're all probably going to say "Leave him!" You know what, I should! I'm 99% sure I'm going to! We fight because he's made me insecure with his cheating habits and when I get jealous, I'm the "Fat *****". "Stupid *****". I'm not dealing with that anymore! Nor am I ever going to get called fat again! I'M 176 POUNDS! I'M 5'5! OKAY! I'M ****ING FAT! But I'll lose that. It's 100% possible to lose every inch of fat! But his human decency will forever BE ****!

    Your boyfriend needs a slap please add me I have been through similar
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Wow. You seem kind of angry. I thought fat people were supposed to be jolly. :laugh:

    Nah, I saw your pictures, You aren't fat. He's just awful.
  • ThorATK
    ThorATK Posts: 33 Member
    This is a no brainer
  • Leave the guy immediately!! He does not deserve you. It is like these guys that divorce their wives when they have kids and gain some weight. It is ok for men to have a huge beer gut, but not women. At least you are finding out he is an idiot prior to wasting your life away, time and money.
  • amann1976
    amann1976 Posts: 742 Member
    if you want to get even with him we can make a tape like Kim K and Ray J and show it to him and all his friends :laugh:
  • dogo187
    dogo187 Posts: 376
    dump his *kitten* then! there are plenty of guys who will love you for who you are, not what you look like!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    so if you know what you need to do, why post this thread?

    Get out, move on, move up.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    Punch him in the balls before you leave him.

    ETA: if there is more than one (as your subject title indicates), punch every single one of them in the balls.

    YOU ARE NOT FAT, BTW. You may have some weight to lose, but fat?!? Nope. I used to be 214 at 5'5 1/2"... Now THAT is fat.
  • 2FatToRun
    2FatToRun Posts: 810 Member
    lol....be funny if he wasnt fat where it counted oh my did I say that? next time he calls you fat respond to him....well you are too damn skinny and point to his weener lol IK IK so immature but I would give you 10 dollars to see his face HA!
  • First of all, you're not fat. You're posts title says "My BOYFRIENDS call me fat". Sounds like you should not only dump this controlling loser, but rethink the type of guys you are going out with and demand some respect.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    How many of your boyfriends say this?
  • candymara
    candymara Posts: 49
    I can't imagine hurting the self esteem of the person I love, and I can't imagine the person I love insulting me in such a way. You deserve someone who can uplift you and encourage you to follow your own heart and goals. Not someone who shames you :(

    My husband tells me I am beautiful and sexy and adorable and that I'm the love of his life. Even though I'm 70lbs heavier than I was when we met.

    You are a beautiful girl! Believe in yourself and find someone who is as amazing as you are.
  • jennydoesketo
    jennydoesketo Posts: 16 Member
    All I'll say is please treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve. Good luck. :)
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    All your boyfriends call you fat? Leave them all, and find better ones.
  • Gorgeous not fat. Keep smiling
  • bosskitty
    bosskitty Posts: 37 Member
    Get rid of him chick, your better than that! Your self esteem will go through the roof when you do! :D
    x
  • so if you know what you need to do, why post this thread?

    Get out, move on, move up.

    Yes, this.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Leave him in a cloud of dust - NOW
  • ehdub
    ehdub Posts: 37 Member
    he's a loser. my friend was in a similar situation. her boyfriend was always sleeping around and saying things about her weight. her self esteem was low and she was an emotional eater. it was a sad spiral. he eventually left her siting her weight as the main problem in their relationship. she drove him to cheating he said. HERES WHERE IT GETS GREAT! one morning a month after they were broken up she decided to get healthy and change her negative feelings about herself. she went from well over 200 lbs to a svelt 130. shes a fitness buff and a personal trainer. her whole life changed for the better because she did it for herself. sidenote: her ex gained about 75 lbs of sloppy post relationship fat.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
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  • Sunny_fit4life
    Sunny_fit4life Posts: 157 Member
    Make it 100% sure and make him not your boyfriend. In fact, if possible, take him out of your life altogether. You do not deserve that. I know it's hard to leave, especially if he's had any success in convincing you that you're worthless (he seems to be trying pretty hard to do so), but it's his problem and not yours. You are fine and he is the one with whom there is something seriously wrong.
  • Textmessage
    Textmessage Posts: 387 Member
    Just...stay together?
  • aleesh_
    aleesh_ Posts: 137 Member
    I wouldn't even call 5'5 and 176 fat. Possibly chubby but not fat. And anyway, at one point in my life I was 300 pounds at 5'4 and my husband never once made an insensitive comment about my weight. He also doesn't cheat on me. Your boyfriend is just saying cruel things to you because he is trying to control you. When you leave he may say things like "you'll never find another man like me" or something along those lines, and I really hope you don't! Because you deserve better!
  • charovnitza
    charovnitza Posts: 689
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    This^
    Dump the SOB, he's not worthy of you!
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    you should call him single.
  • ladyark
    ladyark Posts: 1,101 Member
    Well you could lose alot of weight if you get rid of that loser. Show him your " fat *kitten*" ( i dont mean that really) one last time as you walk out the door! You owe it to yourself to be with someone who will treat you right.
  • NikinCilla
    NikinCilla Posts: 129 Member
    Plenty of guys out there............but we all here to support you lose weight if you want it???!!!!