Skinny gossip

So I actually went to the website and I was there for only 2 minutes before I became filled with rage.

So I actually went to the website and I was there for only 2 minutes before I became filled with rage.

Yeah, it was a bit frightening. I feel worried for young people getting mixed up in that.

As someone who is recovered from anorexia, let me tell you that yes, that website has "eating disorder" written all over it, and no, not all eating disordered and/or skinny people have attitudes like that towards people who are larger than them. I would have never in a million years engaged in those types of websites or said those kinds of things. Those are young women that are in need of some serious help. Saying the things that they do is just a defense mechanism to justify their disordered behaviors. Seeing websites like that makes me so sad.

after viewing that site, i feel like i need to eat an extra sandwich in protest to their skewed image of 'fat'.

Okay I confess. 3 years ago I lost quite a bit of weight in a relatively healthy way but when I plateaued I turned to sites such as these for help I ended up in a lovely cycle of starve/binging which suprise suprise failed to help me lose anymore and just made me depressesd.
Luckily 2 years ago I came face to face with the final year before my Taekwondo black belt grading. I needed to be fit and just like that my goals changed from wanting to be bony to wanting to be bony to being fit and strong. My black belt grading turned out to be the slap across the face I needed. I changed my eating habits, abondoned those sites, got my black belt and havent looked back. These arent good sites however not all people who use them r judgmental. In fact I found most of them to b very open minded and inclusive.

Thumbs up for you!

I think what it comes down to is that everyone has a different opinion. There are many who think that their opinion is the only correct one and feel the need to have others agree with them. Therefore your goal weight of 165 may seem high to a person who has always been 100, but will seem insanely low to your overweight friend who doesn't want you to weigh less than her.

Both will tell you you're wrong and you should change your goal. My point I'm trying to make is that what is lacking in the MFP forums is respect of different opinions. I, along with many other members who have posted topics, have felt the need to defend themselves against other members.

I just want to address this with something you may not have thought of...
having been as heavy as 300 pounds, and having constantly struggled since my early 20s to get or stay under 200 pounds, I have a goal weight (for now) of 165. This still falls above "normal" on the BMI scale, and many people would still see that as overweight, especially those who have spent their entire life at a "healthy" weight. But for me??? If I can reach and maintain 165? I will be THRILLED. For me to combat genetics and close to 40 years of bad habits and get down to that weight would be a monumental accomplishment, and I am not going to feel the least bit unhealthy if I don't have it in me to go any lower.

Well, I understand where she is coming from. Just because I've always weighed 100 pounds, does not mean that I don't understand that I have a different body type from other people. I am an intelligent person and I know that many people have different sizes in their bone structure and that means more space for muscles, fat, larger organs, etc. When a person has a larger frame it translates to a larger weight for many reasons. And there is not just small and large. There is everything from extra small all the way up to large. I am very much aware that most people should not try to get to my weight because even I did not try to get to my weight, it's just the way I am. Particularly with women, we also have a variance in body shape for many many more reasons. I don't think people should be judgmental of weight whatever the weight is. I am supportive of everyone reaching their own healthy goals.

I'm the same way, I know that not everyone can be or should be 100 pounds. But I am surprised by the eagerness of some not very informed people to jump on others. And there is much more aggressiveness from overweight people towards normal weight people, especially towards people who are at the low end of the spectrum.

Some members are unwilling to take responsibility for themselves and are simply not open to other points of view. For example, there was the obese woman who sought sympathy after ordering three pizzas. I asked her what she expected to do with them? She was abusive.

I was invited to join a group and someone who probably has been fat for a very long time was repeating the usual "slow and steady is the only way" advice and I said that approach did not work for everyone (and it's been identified as a "myth" of weight loss.). That individual took umbrage. She said that as an always-thin person I couldn't understand. Yes, I do, that's why I'm not fat while everyone else in my family is.

So certain people are going to keep making the same mistakes no matter what you suggest.

Being nosy...I went over to the site.

Then I saw the thread on Kate Upton.

I could use a hug.

Being nosy...I went over to the site.

Then I saw the thread on Kate Upton.

I could use a hug.

Hugs

well ive never been fat and i would never refer to myself as "skinny" because 1 im not and 2 thats not healthy.

I havent looked at that site, but about your question on MFP..

I have actually seen people here being somewhat hostile towards people whose goals are to gain weight. The LARGE majority of comments though are encouraging and helpful.

The only times Ive seen people getting on someones case for having a low goal weight were times that I also thought the person was aiming for something unhealthy and possibly had body dysmorphic disorder or an eating disorder. The comments were meant to be helpful, though the person receiving them might not have perceived them that way.