My husband won't diet with me

He doesn't have to diet with you either.


Lead by example. When he wants to, he will.

Men may need more calories but with 370# sounds like he has a few calories to spare. Don't wait till he slumps out of his chair clutching his chest .. and then if your lucky and he survives don't tell him 'I told you so'.

Seriuosly, get rid of the junk food and make smaller portions. Have the kids set an example or encouragement - unless of course they are really young. But they still need to have a Dad around. Drive the point that he has responsibilities to his kids.

Sometimes people have cravings and increased appetites, but there has to be some limits.. Best of Luck!

That sounds like a really whiny topic title, doesn't it?
Let me explain, I don't want to force my husband to diet with me. I believe in wifely submission, it's not my job to tell him what to do, or make him feel guilty. But it seems like since I've been eating less he's started eating more. He's gotten in the habit of just eating whatever's left after I dish out mine and the kid's plates. But with me eating less there's more left, but he still just piles it all on to his plate. The other night I had a scoop of ice cream and I asked him what he wanted and he say asked for 2 scoops with cool whip and hot fudge, he would normally just have the 2 scoops. It's like he's going out of his way to fatten himself up. He already weighs 370 and I'm pretty worried about his health. How do I get him to see how bad his choices are without nagging?

What the heck is wifely submission?

You need to stop putting foods like ice cream, syrup, and whip cream avaliable in the house. You are both examples for your children and they are going to develop bad habits. Also cook less food. Only cook what you know you will eat that way there wont be any leftovers for him...

promise him a BJ for every pound he loses.... i bet he'll drop weight like nobody's business.

sorted

would put mine on board :bigsmile:

When I started back into a daily routine, and the weight started coming off, my husband sat on the couch, eating whatever. Complaining he hadnt gottenback in shape after a hip replacement. Never said a negative word about it. Slowly he started coming to the basement when I was on the dreadmill, sitting on the couch eating. Then he stopped eating. Then he cleared off the weight bench and his bike. The more consistent I was, the more he moved. The more compliments I have gotten, the more he has moved. Now that it is nicer, he is outside, doing more there.

never once did I comment, positive or negative. If I had a friend ask what I was doing food wise, would show them TDEE and BMR basics, based on his numbers, just to put the idea in his mind. Slowly he has come around to the point where he was, under his terms, not mine. I didn't work out when he was prior to his surgery, he never pushed or prodded me when I wasnt ready...when I was ready, I did it. When he was ready, he did it. Granted, if it had taken any longer for him to get ready I might have thrown something at him the next time he whined about beig out of shape :grumble:

Why don't you just cook less food?

Let him be responsible for what goes in his mouth. Give him a healthy portion and if he wants more or something else, then let him fix it himself. You can't really do anything except prepare healthy meals. Until it clicks with him, it's no use nagging. Just be a good example with your eating and exercise habits.

"Wifely Submission....."



Never heard of it....my wife just puts her foot up my *kitten* when I do something she doesn't like.

That sounds like a really whiny topic title, doesn't it?
Let me explain, I don't want to force my husband to diet with me. I believe in wifely submission, it's not my job to tell him what to do, or make him feel guilty. But it seems like since I've been eating less he's started eating more. He's gotten in the habit of just eating whatever's left after I dish out mine and the kid's plates. But with me eating less there's more left, but he still just piles it all on to his plate. The other night I had a scoop of ice cream and I asked him what he wanted and he say asked for 2 scoops with cool whip and hot fudge, he would normally just have the 2 scoops. It's like he's going out of his way to fatten himself up. He already weighs 370 and I'm pretty worried about his health. How do I get him to see how bad his choices are without nagging?

Now that you're eating less, perhaps you can adjust down the portions you cook/set out? In this way there'll be less for him to finish off the dinnertable?

Also I'd imagine if you're cooking healthier/lighter he'll just naturally benefit.

My husband is naturally slender, although he's gotten a bit of a belly the last few years (probably due to my formerly often serving gravy, dinner rolls, high fat/carb everything LOL and too I used to offer him ice cream/cake for dessert). He hasn't any desire to 'diet' with me and yet he's probably gonna slim down a bit if only because the dinners I serve are more veggie/lean meat/fish based and for snacking I now offer him sherbert or pretzels.

Good luck!

Lemme guess. You didn't start your efforts to lose weight until you were good and ready to, right? Your husband will do something when he is good and ready to. The best thing now is be a good example. End of story.