My husband won't diet with me

promise him a BJ for every pound he loses.... i bet he'll drop weight like nobody's business.

sorted

Win.
My husband will be home soon. I am absolutely going to suggest this!

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****texting hubby now!!*** haha

If that doesn't work continue leading by example...you need to proceed with your healthy living first and foremost! Hope he gets on board with you:)

MAN my husband already lost some pounds! *brushes teeth, puts hair in ponytail*.

for every 35 lbs he loses he will gain 1 inch of penis .. just saying

Heck if this doesnt get you to start cooking healthier and with lower calories, I dont know what will.:bigsmile:

Another suggestion: A lot of people have said that their libido goes through the roof when they lose weight and start getting fitter and I can personally attest to that. Tell your husband that you'd like him to be able to keep up with you (as nicely as possible). My husband is absolutely delighted with the results of my fitness journey to date. He's also been talking about how to incorporate more fitness into his already very busy schedule--being a good example does work.

Hope this works out for you!

for every 35 lbs he loses he will gain 1 inch of penis .. just saying

Maths says mine has grown 3 inches. I like maths!

If you believe in "wifely submission," can I assume that you're the one doing the shopping and cooking in the house? If so, you can buy individually packaged portions of treats and cook less food. If he's piling "whatever's left" on his plate after you and the kids eat, just make "whatever's left" a reasonable portion for him.

And DON'T tell him what you're doing! If he's used to submission, he will push back and your efforts may cause friction and backfire.

I'm sorry, but there is no way to candy coat someone who is almost 400 lbs, ("Well Nourished") Shame on his doctor for trying to do so. Look for websites that make healthier comfort foods (Like Skinnytaste and Cooking light) and start from there- portion control and healthy substitutions can only go so far, but will ultimately help you toward your goal and hopefully, maybe your husband will see that healthy food doesn't have to be a bad thing (or something that is consumed in mass, it can actually help you feel fuller faster). It's great you are both in your 30's and have time, but reality is that if you keep up excuses/rationalizations then the problem will just continue. Cheers to you for making a change, hopefully as he sees how it benefits you he will recognize how importanti it is for his long term well being, too. Good luck!!

I'm sorta climbing out of this very boat!

My husband is not overweight as much as he is really out of shape (any little phsycal activity (climbing stairs, running for 10 seconds) is very hard for him), but he could probably stand to lose 20-30 lbs. I started on this journey in December 2012 and he adamantly refused to jump on board with me. For a couple that does EVERYTHING together, this was really hard for me to accept.

For a while, it seemed that he was doing anything and everything to make it a point that he is not dieting with me. He used to eat anything I left on my plate, eat (full fat) ice cream while on the couch as he watched me exercise, etc. I was really annoyed, but at the same time, did not want to be the naggy wife, so I led by example. I talked to him A LOT about what I am doing for myself - about what workouts I am doing, what I am eating for lunch at work, etc. I made it sound more like I am sharing with him than anything else. I would check the caloric and ingredient content of foods while we went food shopping and really involved him in "my" decisions. Out of love, he would try and make foods that would work for me so we wouldn't have to make a separate meal for me. I always offered him to come work out with me, but did not force him to.

A few times, when the opportunity arose, I talked to him about how scared I was that he would not be around for me/our kids or how I worry that if we have another kid, he would not be able to catch up with him/her. It helps that he is a really good listener and I think slowly (too slowly for my taste, but beggers can't be choosers), it started to sink in. A couple of months ago he joined my Jillian routine. I was over the top excited and made a HUGE deal about it and tried not to show my disappointment when he quit. Then he ran with me once and I stayed at his pace and encouraged him to keep going. I made it a point to encourage the small steps he was making. Now, 4 months after I started, he finally committed to doing C25K with me and has ran with me the last 4 days. It's effort and I commend him for making it and it's all I could ask for.

Until they get it in their heads that this is for their own health and you are not "trying to change them", nothing will work. Be patient and be supportive. Don't quit on him, but more importantly, don't quit on youself.

ask him when was the last time he saw his penis....thats what got me motivated to lose weight

There's no nice way to say that, believe me I've tried

Never said to say it "nicely"

On the contrary, there comes a point where you need to be a little mean about it. Sometimes that's the only thing the man will respond to.

They get used to the coddling and the "um... sweetie?" way we start our statements. At some point you have to put your foot down and really get his attention with some harsher words.

The idea that this behavior will ultimately cause his death will probably bring him around. Does he want to be around to meet his grandchildren? How about grow old with you? Travel during retirement? Not be in a hospital bed constantly? Not to mention the sex thing - It's a simple truth - exercise and healthy diet will ultimately improve your sex life. If these things don't encourage the man, then I don't know what will.

Good luck.

P.S. I understand what you're saying about "wifely submission" and how that's a part of the Bible and everything. I'm sorry that there's a number of people who are saying negative things about it.

But this dynamic is a delicate one. The way I see it: you chose your husband, and entrusted him with the task to be a good leader in the household. And YOU took on the responsibility to support him however you can. HOWEVER - if HE is not making good decisions as the leader of the household, you DO have the responsibility to bring it to his attention and give him a good shake to get his attention on the matter.

Again, good luck.

Havent read others...

But you lost me at wifely submission.


You know what? I make dinner almost every night and if DH doesnt like it, he can suck it. Besides, I dont diet, I eat. So its not much different than normal.

Sorry I didnt get passed "Wifely Submission"................