Grocery Store Snob??

No, I mind my own business. I try not to judge others like that. No one is better just because they are slimmer and have vegetables in their grocery cart.

Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.

Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.

So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?

Well you can only eat so many calories before you start to gain, so if you only have 1800 to work with and you eat 1/2 of those in garlic bread then where are the things your body NEEDS TO BE HEALTHY going to come from. You'll either overeat or be undernourished. Both are not good options for various reasons.

This makes no sense. What makes you think your children will starve if you feed them healthy food?

My son is super picky... he has missed a few dinners in his short lifetime but he's never missed a healthy breakfast and his lunch box is usually empty. Most of the time he will eat dinners I prepare and if not, no sweat. Be hungry for tonight. He will be starved for nutrients for the rest of his life if I feed him what he wants to eat, better he go without for the day instead.

What? Please tell me this is a sarcastic comment.

No it isn't . If my son misses a meal I don't sweat it. He will eat at the next meal. Missing a meal isn't a big deal.

True story. If I didn't like what my mom cooked, which was often because she wasn't a very good cook, I didn't get any alternatives and no dessert.

This!!

My children do and always have eat (with joy and gratitude) whatever I put in front of them. Trust me, I eat and drink some really weird stuff over the years--super yucky (but good for you) green veggies juices and vegan/vegetarian meals and literally anything. Do they like it--not necessarily, but they do. On my healthy journey, the children follow and eat what I do. So does my hubby. They still eat junk, but as time goes by, and they see I MEAN BUSINESS, they just go along with me and for this I'm super thrilled!

Last year, when went to an authentic Chinese restaurant and they ordered some things that would blown the average adult Westerner's minds. One of the dishes I remembered they spefically ordered was pork belly fat with lots of other "unAmerican" type of dishes. THEY ordered this...I didn't. The Chinese waitress was in shock, and asked my young children how come they eat that--and that she's NEVER seen American children or even adults order nor eat the dishes they ordered...

You know what they told her ????

They said..."Our mother has always made us watch various historical documentaries and war, slavery, Holocaust and real life documentaries and films about other cultures and things...we learned at an early age to eat whatever is placed before us, and with gratitude and now we like to eat various different things--because just because we live in peace and security today doesn't mean we always will--we think about how those people and children lived during wars and in impoverish nations and will always eat what's before us and never complain--because we're just glad we have some food".
:noway: :embarassed:


She patted their heads and smiled...I looked at them half smiling and half feeling like a mean/bad mother. I am a mean mother (as most in our Western Society would count as mean/old school). We don't believe in having/living/raising and running a "child-centered" home. We believe that our children are a blessing from God and that they are super blessed to be our children and they are to "follow-us", rather than call the shots and lead us in our home life--once they get grown, they can do what the jolly well feel like, but as long as we are paying the bills--we're calling the shots, not them. This sounds cruel and evil, I know most will think. But our children are the happiest, well-mannered, most well adjusted, super creative, slim and trim, healthy and coolest children I've EVER met or seen--people are constantly telling us that--especially neighbors and strangers--so something must be kinda right, it is for us anyway.

Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.

Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.

So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?

My struggle with binge eating, bad food choices and an overall caloric surplus have made me fat. I've been yoyo dieting since I was 13 and hit an all time high of 283 lbs at 22 years old. My mother had a habit of allowing us to eat as much as we wanted of anything we wanted. No one practiced portion control. I wasn't aware of how big I was until I heard a school mate call me fat in gym class. That started the yoyo dieting. I would drop the weight quickly and then resort back to my old ways and gain it back plus some. I had a relatively rough childhood (parents struggling with mental illness, alcoholism, domestic violence, eventually divorce) which ended with being disowned by my mother last year. At times I felt I had a pretty good handle on controlling the binge eating, but when things got really rough with my mom, I resorted to food for comfort.

It's only now in the last 9 months that I've been able to loose some of the weight, keep it off & keep going. That has been through portion control, better food choices and physical activity. I've also acknowledged recently that I have a problem with binge eating. It has been 21 days since I last binged. And for the record, I don't blame my parents for my issues, because at some point I became and adult and should have started making better choices on my own. It's my demon now & I'm doing my best to deal with it one day at a time.

And when I see an overweight child, I wonder why. Picky eater? Busy parents? Things not going well at home? Medical condition? I fell I have a responsibility to mind my own business with this as well as with what other people put in their carts, but I can't help but feel it tug at my heart strings when I see a child who may struggle for the rest of their lives, especially when I'm trekking through the same waters a couple of decades later.

So that is why seeing an overweight child makes me sad, if you must know.

It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!

It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!

LOL!!!!! *high five*

It's a little hard to pass judgement when your carts full of condoms and vodka.

lol!

I've actually changed grocery stores b/c the checkers for three weeks, I kid you not, would ask if I was making soup or having company over because I had so many veggies. I told them that I was just prepping for our family of 3 for the week. They each stated that they wouldn't eat 1/2 the stuff. They also had to look up some 'difficult' vegetables...like radishes, sugar snap peas, etc. SO, I no longer shop there and drive two miles farther where the produce is better priced and I don't get the third degree regarding my purchases. I'm happy with my decision.

Lol this topic is ridiculous. Worry about what YOU eat.

^^^THIS! Now in addition to "fat shaming", there is now "grocery cart shaming"?!?!?

I've actually changed grocery stores b/c the checkers for three weeks, I kid you not, would ask if I was making soup or having company over because I had so many veggies. I told them that I was just prepping for our family of 3 for the week. They each stated that they wouldn't eat 1/2 the stuff. They also had to look up some 'difficult' vegetables...like radishes, sugar snap peas, etc. SO, I no longer shop there and drive two miles farther where the produce is better priced and I don't get the third degree regarding my purchases. I'm happy with my decision.

:laugh: 'difficult veggies':laugh:

i had this young guy check me out once and he asked if my parnips were carrots. I told him yes, they were albino carrots, thinking I was being funny. Then he looked at the veggie price list and when he couldn't find them asked if they rang up under the same number.

I don't pay too much attention because my cart/bag is all over the place!! I will have 6 bottles of wine, chips, burgers, buns, quinoa, romaine lettuce, fish, hummus, broccoli etc. Some is for me and some is for my fiance. You never know who the person shopping is buying for. There are times when I look at someones cart and I see something incredibly healthy and delicious- I usually ask them politely where they found it because it looks amazing! :-)

It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!

^^^ I agree 100%!!! I mean really people still accept checks?? lmao :noway:

Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.

Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.

So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?

My struggle with binge eating, bad food choices and an overall caloric surplus have made me fat. I've been yoyo dieting since I was 13 and hit an all time high of 283 lbs at 22 years old. My mother had a habit of allowing us to eat as much as we wanted of anything we wanted. No one practiced portion control. I wasn't aware of how big I was until I heard a school mate call me fat in gym class. That started the yoyo dieting. I would drop the weight quickly and then resort back to my old ways and gain it back plus some. I had a relatively rough childhood (parents struggling with mental illness, alcoholism, domestic violence, eventually divorce) which ended with being disowned by my mother last year. At times I felt I had a pretty good handle on controlling the binge eating, but when things got really rough with my mom, I resorted to food for comfort.

It's only now in the last 9 months that I've been able to loose some of the weight, keep it off & keep going. That has been through portion control, better food choices and physical activity. I've also acknowledged recently that I have a problem with binge eating. It has been 21 days since I last binged. And for the record, I don't blame my parents for my issues, because at some point I became and adult and should have started making better choices on my own. It's my demon now & I'm doing my best to deal with it one day at a time.

And when I see an overweight child, I wonder why. Picky eater? Busy parents? Things not going well at home? Medical condition? I fell I have a responsibility to mind my own business with this as well as with what other people put in their carts, but I can't help but feel it tug at my heart strings when I see a child who may struggle for the rest of their lives, especially when I'm trekking through the same waters a couple of decades later.

So that is why seeing an overweight child makes me sad, if you must know.

I am sorry for all that you have endured. I empathaze with the overweight child and yo yo dieting as I battled my whole life as well.

I had wonderful parents who grew up in a time of want. For them, providing us with plenty or way more than plenty was to compensate for their childhoods of not having enough. Two pork chops was a serving. Every celebration involved food. Every reward was chocolate or some other sweet treat. Dinner was eaten in front of the tv, not at a table.

I had to learn to balance that when my own kids came along. I knew it was my responsibility to break the cycle and teach them healthier and active lifestyles. ALL meals are eaten at the table. Dinner is family talk time - single most important thing you can do for your kids, IMO!! We are not members of the clean plate club - a memorable fight with the inlaws! One pork chop is a serving. Sweet treats are rare not daily. I have 4 children. They all love fruits and veggies. Will eat just about anything! My girls don't struggle with their weight at all. One is very conscious of what she eats. The other loves her junk. Now that she is 18, she buys it. My boys are chubby. My oldest slimmed down as a teen. My baby concerns us. he is overweight. We limit TV time and computer games. Recently, we have begun to limit sweets and portions. I don't want to deal with eating disorders later. its a fine line. I try to encourage him and he works out with me now.

I guess what I am saying is, as parents, we ahve to teach them how to make healthy choices. In the long run, it is going to be their choice. Train them up in the way they should go and in the end, they will not depart from it.