Is it RUDE to offer your "fat clothes" to a friend?

I've been on the receiving end of a friend's "fat clothes"...she had great taste and tended toward designer stuff. Hell yes, I wanted them! I didn't think it was demeaning at all.

I second this!!!! My friend had great stuff that was given to her as a gift, really nice designer clothing, but it was too big for her. She casually asked me if I wanted them, and I was super pumped to wear them! That being said, if your friend is self conscious about her weight, it's probably not going to be the best thing to do. I wasn't super concerned with my weight at the time, and didn't view it was a put down at all. But every one is different, and you as her friend can probably gauge where she's at with herself!

It. Might depend on how good of a friend.
Are you and these friends on Facebook. Maybe you could make a general statement of "I have a few dresses I don't wear anymore, cute and in good shape, anyone want them?"
Less "personal" than zeroing in on that one chubby friend.....

Maybe Good Will is your best bet. (But I'd not be offended if it were me)

^ THIS. Really like the idea of making a generalized statement on FB. Then if she wants them, she can come to you.

Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

HOw did the dude on the thread hve the best idea? lol

I am torn on this one.... On one hand it seems good, but on the other hand, you are still "calling out that one chubby friend for your far clothes." Most females would see right through that and still consider it 'bing singled out for left over fat clothes'... And you are back to friends that would be fine with it and friends that would feel offended.

Edited for the typos I caught, which may not be all of them.

Depends on how you bring it up. Mention while hanging with them that you need to sort through them and could use help. It really isn't that difficult.

i dont think its rude, if youre close to the friend and as long as you arent being an *kitten* when asking if she'd like the clothes youll be fine. maybe say something like "hey, i was going to be donating some clothes, do you want to see what you want first?" idk, i dont think its rude...at least to me lol

I just was gifted an awesome skirt from a friend who's lost weight. I'm still in process. I was very excited to get this skirt - I had admired it in the past! If she's a good friend, she will be happy to have them.

My bestie who is also on here has offered me some of her clothes as she shrinks out of them. I LOVE this! Especially b/c she has good taste!

I would just advise not calling them your "fat clothes" when you make the offer :laugh:

Only if you're calling them your fat clothes. I've been on the receiving end more than once and have been told, "Hey, I have some clothes I can't wear any more. Would you like to check them out and see if there's anything you want?" and that was cool with me. I've also been told, "Hey, I've got a ton of fat clothes that don't fit me anymore but they're probably your size," and it pissed me off pretty badly. Didn't help that I was SMALLER than she was, though. It's all in how you word it.

Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

Terrific answer!

Nah man, me and friends do it all the time. If it's their size, it's their size, so what if you're smaller than they are now? If she gets insulted, she get's insulted, but since you're close friends, I don't see why she would get pissed at you for offering her free awesome clothes. I sure as hell wouldn't.

You can always try freecycle. Post that you have some size __ clothes that are really cute with a lot of life left, come and get them.

Usually people give me clothes when they don't fit in them anymore the other way. Your problem is a good one to have!

I second this!

Eh, I offered two of my larger friends the option to go through clothes that didn't fit me anymore. Like you they were all super cute, and had lots of life in them.

No one got upset or butt hurt. They were just happy about new clothes. Think it depends on what sorta friends you make. Mine know me well enough to know that if I was going to try and call them fat, I'd just call them fat.

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Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

best idea EVER!

Can always try ebay, as larger sizes always sell really well. Well done on the weight loss x

YES YES YES! It doesn't matter how you say it, we know you're giving us your fat clothes. I've been there, and it's totally embarrassing!

This. Besides, isn't it rude to "donate" your clothes to your friends anyways? Unless they're in need of course in which case I guess you can

why would it be rude?

I love when my one friend decides she doesnt want something...she has great taste!

I dunno, it just feels like "Hey, I make more than you and can afford to give you charity". It might be a cultural/gender thing though since men rarely share clothes

I had no idea it was rude... I had like 5-6 pairs of jeans I offered to a friend of a friend who is / was the size I used to be. She mentioned she was trying to lose weight and her pants were getting too big, so I politely mentioned I'd gone through the same thing and had a bunch of extra jeans I couldn't wear anymore. I offered them to her, didn't ask her size, but told her what size they were. She later told me most of them were too small but eventually was able to start wearing a couple pairs after losing some weight. I really was just trying to be nice. Perfectly good jeans shouldn't go to waste!