Is it RUDE to offer your "fat clothes" to a friend?

My fat clothes are a Size 4P, would that be rude too? :noway: I am a size 0-2 Petite now. I have all these size 4s lying around and they fall right off me. Should I just donate them?

It depends on the friend. I and a friend are losing weight together and I am a little further along that she is, and I have passed on some of my clothes that no longer fit me. As a single mom with two teenage dependents, she can't afford to buy new clothes, so she really appreciates the offer. I've also taken her on a little shopping spree with my bonus money to get a couple of nice new outfits apiece, which was fun to do as she has better fashion sense than I do anyway, so we both won.

It also depends on how you word it. I had somebody offer me clothes once who said "These are miles too big for me, but they should fit you okay." This was after I had lost 30 pounds and it made me feel pretty bad.

I like the idea of going through clothes for donation and letting her take what she wants.

Even though you mean no harm, it does hurt. I won't say offensive since you're friends, but I've been there. My mom lost a lot of weight 2 years ago and gave me all of her too big clothes.

I knew she meant well, and I did appreciate it since all the clothes were cute, (seriously, my mom has great taste... I still let her shop for me and I live across the country), but it still stung.

I've been on the receiving end of "gifted" fat clothes and I hated it. A friend brought her clothes to my house and while I accepted them graciously, they quickly ended up at the Goodwill.

I think most women are going to see through being asked to help sort the fat clothes. If you don't normally need help with basic life tasks, it will seem a little odd.

I LOVE getting people's "fat clothes"... I'm currently a size 22 and I sometimes I'm even given "fat clothes" that are a few sizes too small for me just yet. Sometimes, I get them in a size that is too big for me. Too big gets passed along to someone else.. too small gets saved until I shrink into it... I'm not offended at all and flattered that they are thinking of me!

If we were good friends, I would be offended if you DIDN'T offer me all those super cute clothes FIRST!

Just don't make a big deal of it... A simple "Hey I've got a bunch cute of clothes I'm taking to the Goodwill, Do you want to go through them first?" will suffice.

I don't think it's offensive and none of my friends would either. We always give each other the option before anything goes to goodwill.

You mentioned you guys swap clothes sometimes. Well can you lend them to her and then "forget" to ask for it? And if she wants to give it back come up with a reason you don't need it?

Not if they're cute clothes.

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Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

HOw did the dude on the thread hve the best idea? lol

I had the same thought!

should not be a problem to ask her is she wants them!!!!!..particularly if she is a good friend.... being on the receiving end numerous times this comes from the perspective of the receiver.....I think it is pratical, it was new clothes to me that didn't cost me anything. somethings that i never would have tried that i ended up loving, .......i probably have 1/4 of my clothes from friends... some who lost weight and some that they just didn't wear anymore. i hope to be giving some away soon and i'll ask the friends, and a couple coworkers, if they are interested (in the good ones only of course).

i have a group of girlfriends who get together regularly and often a bag of clothes come in and we'll all rifle thru it - and we are all different sizes.

if you're concerned how she'll react, all you have to say is you've got some things you are donating and is she interested in checking them out, she is more than welcome. She can take them home, take what she wants, and then donate the rest herself so there is no 'will it fit/size checking' involved --- that's usual the worst part.

and congrats on getting rid of a couple sizes!!

Not rude at all. I accept any and all clothes people give to me. I never know when someone will need a change of clothes when they are at my place. Plus whenever disasters happen I always have a surplus of clothes I can donate.

Just say that you are doing spring cleaning and cleaning out the closet so you can buy some new stuff. Ask her if she wants any of it before you donate it. If the stuff is cute, she will be interested. My sister in law and I have no problems with that.

Definitely depends on the person how they would take it. I'm also assuming anyone in their right mind would know better than to ask someone, "Hey, you want my old FAT CLOTHES???" lol...

We've had people at work who've lost weight bring in some of their too big clothing & leave it on a counter for people to go through & take what they want.

I also like the idea of an open invitation on FB, etc.

I don't have money for a new wardrobe so what I am doing is taking my best things to consignment so I can get some cash back to put toward new things. I'll donate everything else.

I gave a friend my best clothes once rather than donate them or take them to consignment & I always regretted it. Her taste is fads, mine is classic. She hoards clothing & is always buying new things. She did not need my things & I am pretty sure she never wore any of them. I wish I had donated my things so someone who really needed some nice things might have been able to enjoy them.

yes.

Only if you're calling them your fat clothes. I've been on the receiving end more than once and have been told, "Hey, I have some clothes I can't wear any more. Would you like to check them out and see if there's anything you want?" and that was cool with me. I've also been told, "Hey, I've got a ton of fat clothes that don't fit me anymore but they're probably your size," and it pissed me off pretty badly. Didn't help that I was SMALLER than she was, though. It's all in how you word it.

This. It's all how you say it.