Is it RUDE to offer your "fat clothes" to a friend?

Dilemma. I just got rid of a whole wardrobe that doesn't fit me anymore. I know people that I'd like to give them to but I won't. I'm donating them instead. You should do the same.

If we were really good friends and the clothes really were something I'd like, I'd be glad to have them. Yeah, I'd probably think dang this sucks that she lost all this weight and I didn't. But on the other hand if I really liked the clothes, I'd get over it quickly. Also, it might motivate me to ask her about her weight loss and to join her on the journey.

I would also add "And, if anyone has any "thin clothes" they can't fit into anymore, I'd gladly take them off your hands."

Actually, I wouldn't do that. I have been burned twice now with the dilemma. I lost weight and regained it. I had to buy new, bigger clothes, then new smaller clothes.

I just pack both sets away and take them out if I need them. Nobody's feelings but my own get hurt in the process.

Personally I Do Not Think It Rude...There Are Numerous Ideas One Could Do... But Here Are ( 2 ) Things You Could Do...First You Could Donate It To The Church ( Where They Will Give It To People In Need, Who Will Appreciate It ), or Second, You Could Sell It To A Used Clothes Outlet ( Like Buffalo Exchange In NYC On 26 Street )...You May Not Get A Lot But You Will Have Some Spending Cash... Food For Thought. Either Way, Know This... Your Life is Better As You Move On To A Healthy Level As You Shed Your Old Weight, To A Better Life & Outlook, In Life As You Move Forward. Just Saying...

I think the key thing here is that you've borrowed clothes from each other and exchanged in the past. So it would not be out of the ordinary for you to say, "hey, I'm donating these clothes, but do you want to take a look and see if you want anything first?". Any time I ever donate any clothes to goodwill (whether it's because it's too big or I just don't wear it) I always run the items past my sisters or my friends. If something is practically brand new, I would rather see it go to a good home than to donate. My family members and friends also do not spend a lot of money on themselves and clothing (and neither do I), so I know they would appreciate the free clothes.

Also, I'm sure your friend is not oblivious to the fact that she is a certain size. I'm sure she's aware that you are smaller than her and that she has stayed the same size. It would only be offensive to me if someone offered me clothes that were too BIG for me (implying that they thought I was larger than I am). More often than not, I have been offered clothes that are too small. I don't think I have ever been on the receiving end of "fat" clothes - unless you count the bags and bags of clothes that my shopaholic aunt offers to me, my mom and my sisters each year (she yo yos and there is a very large variation in sizes), but I do not take offense to that.

As many other posters have commented, it's all in the way you present it. I have donated/given away many a clothing item that still fit me but I just didn't like for whatever reason. Why does this have to be so different?

I have a very good friend who is always over the moon with excitement when I have clothes to give her. She really can't afford to buy much for herself, and even if she only uses a few of the things I give her I know I've done a good deed. However, I also give things to Goodwill if I don't think they're good enough for my friend.

Depends on how it's worded. Someone I know said "i've clothes that are WAYY to big now.. *looks at me* they are about YOUR size, want them?" I was offended by that. I took them, but never wore them when I saw her, because it sucked being in HER fat clothes. ya know? NOW, I just say "no thanks"

Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

HOw did the dude on the thread hve the best idea? lol
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Right! This is definitely the best idea. Even if she wouldn't be offended by a straight up offer, she might just take them all, feeling guilty by saying she only wants certain ones. If she is helping sort them, and you tell her she is free to take what she wants she will be able to pick and choose and not feel bad about it.

I LOVE free stuff and I would totally not be offended if someone offered me their fat clothes. I'm also pretty much offended by nothing, so there's that. If she's super sensitive maybe it would be a deal, but most people love free stuff--not to mention, if you've known each other that long, she should know it's coming from a good place.

Every time I have been offered someone's "fat clothes" I have been either the same size or smaller than them. So yeah, I found it kinda insulting that they thought I was bigger than them. But I have also had friends ask for mine before. Although now I learnt to hold on to my big clothes because I learnt that giving them away doesn't mean I will make sure I dont end up that size again.