that "skinny b*tch" moment
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You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.
I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.
I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.
OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.
Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.
I admit that I was never bullied, and I've definitely never bullied others, but I agree with this post. It's easy to be angry, but ultimately, I believe that forgiveness, letting things go, not letting our own strong emotions get in our way, that's when we're happiest.
OP, if that moment made you feel good about yourself, and your progress, I'm happy for you (like I said, I was never bullied, so I don't know what that moment would be like...) and I hope you continue to progress :flowerforyou:0 -
Great stuff! Funny thing is you were rather pretty even in your before photo, despite the extra insulation! Pity kids at high school can't see past the silhouette.0
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Wow! Congrats! You look awesome right now0
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Bullying is a complicated thing, but try to remember that it doesn't only hurt the victim. It also hurts the perpetrator.
I was bullied for my weight and the way my brain works as a kid. In turn, I found a smaller fish to bully. Apparently that puts me in a very small category, but I can assure you that I carry around the damage from both. I do understand your reaction, and while you are justified, you might want to think about bringing your confidence to an even higher level. You have earned it. But remember that this awful thing can only be stopped by those in positions of authority, and the ethical failure ultimately lies with the school.0 -
I love the fact you told him where to go but remained classy. Well done0
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Awesome!!!! You are so right!!! He's only sorry because you weren't fat anymore... I'm glad you said what you did... You look amazing by the way :-)0
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Amazing Too good an answer in the face0
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you girl, are amazeballs!0
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Yayy... beautiful!0
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*kitten* yeaah!
If I could high five you, I would right now :drinker:0 -
omg this made me so happy to read . also great job!0
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Awesome! That's usually one of things you think of to say after you've missed your moment, but you got it right on cue!!
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This is such an awesome post! You were and are beautiful and also your smile is contagious keep smiling and being you0
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Lol! That did make me smile. Well done for actually standing up for yourself. Now if only you could travel back in time and tell your teenage self you would have that opportunity...0
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congrats, what a great story. you look hot :flowerforyou:0
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Omg you are SO adorable! And wow, what a jerk. I'm glad you had the power this time.0
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Wow, you do look AMAZING! Great job, and way to go on not letting years of bullying make you insecure-because that response shows you are definitely not insecure!0
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You look awesome and that dress is so cute! That guy sounds like an idiot!0
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Amazing. It was like the climax of a beautiful girly movie. Congos!0
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*Throws a bouquet of roses on stage whilst clapping* BRAVO!! Encore! Encore dammit!0
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