HELP! Should I date three more??

Sounds like you shouild learn to love yourself a little before you expect someone else to love you. Biological clocks are no excuse for marriage. I also second the comments on Chris being a bit controlling, what he is doing is being jealous and controlling,
You are very young and have many more years of dating to do.

Good Luck

I personally don't believe in the "Date 12 people" theory. You said you are 26 and your biological clock is ticking....yup for 9-10 more years your eggs are still good, even then the expiration date isn't stamped on them to expire the next year...you have time to be a mom..

First off, You broke it off with dude #1 because dude #2 told you something that was unfounded....what makes you think he didn't sabotage yours a dude #1's relationship?

Second, if he gets jealous and asks about PM's and texts, yada yada....he's got insecurity issues. He's afraid someone will swoop in and grab you like he did....huge red flag.

Third, You have trust issues. I do believe you posted that. Dude #2 is continuing your trust issues because he swooped in and made you trust him because he saved you from dude #2....but now he doesn't trust any other male connections you have ergo, he will force you to implicitly trust him and he will screw you over...continuing the trust issues down the rabbit hole...

Fourth, You said you have a scientific mind. Science has nothing to do with you decisions about relationships. Allow me to explain: If you approach all situations with a theoretical mind, how can the theory become reality? or are you more experimental? I would venture to guess you are more theoretical in your approaches, because if you were experimental....this post would not exist. I digress....I think you are over-analyzing the approach to relationships. Relationships are complicated. It is also trial and error. Don't buy into the hype of 12 relationships BS....if you've had 9 relationships....you already have an idea of what you want and what traits and qualities that mate possesses.

Don't let your brain control your heart or your heart control your brain. Allow them to be used together....you will know.

But I will say this....you have doubts about Dude #2....you and I both know it.

He did not move in! We still live in separate apartments.

Well, there is your problem. How can you really know someone without moving in with them? I think that moving away with him is a wonderful idea. He'll be your only social life, in a new place, and hopefully sharing a home. You probably won't even have a job at first, so you'll have plenty of time together. It's the perfect way to really get to know each other!

Ignore the haters, everyone is different. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: Have a great adventure!

LMAO!

Aw, that wasn't very nice.... :frown:

Says the woman who attacked someone yesterday for having miscarriages.

Whaaa? What happened?

I'm so sick of all these people saying "relationships are hard work and you have to put in sweat equity everyday and it takes sacrifices by both parties blah blah blah".

Frankly, no they aren't. The more compromise and work you have to put into a relationship increases the likelihood that you probably picked the wrong person. Some people can make a relationship last by putting in effort everyday, but I just don't have the patience or endurance to fight daily for something to work out. My wife and I have an almost effortless relationship. It's seriously the easiest relationship we have ever been in because we don't have to struggle to make 2 unmatching pieces fit together. My parents have told me the same thing. If you are working hard to keep a relationship together, the relationship wasn't right to being with.

THIS THIS THIS. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we've never had to "work" for our relationship. It's pretty much effortless. Now I'm sure we may eventually have struggles, as most couples do, but most people I know are in relationships where every day is a struggle or a compromise, but it's fine because they're "in love" - I think that's just plain wrong.

Also, the more I read the original post the more I'm convinced this is a troll. Well played, OP.

Will he take you to Denny's?

THAT is the real test..

Will he take you to Denny's?

THAT is the real test..

For me, it's Steak and Shake, but that's neither here nor there.....

You said that your family liked Simon but does not like Chris. What exactly are they saying/seeing in regards to Chris? Obviously, if you told them that Simon was most likely cheating on you, they would have (had they believed it to be true) shoved Simon as far away from you as absolutely possible.