She just doesnt get it!
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Wow! Who doesn't get it??0
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Double post0
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Try being from a Native American family where EVERYTHING is fried!! Fried bologna, fried biscuits, fried pork chops, fried bread!! MMMM...Indian Tacos!!0
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You gonna pay my rent? Long Island in the most expensive place in the country to live. Im not paying 1300 a month for an apt to pay someone elses mortage... MY mom isnt a stick either and shes gained a substantial amount of weight in the last few years too, but you cant tell her that.
Woe is me. Welcome to being an adult.
And if you're not in a position to move out, buy your own groceries and cook your own meals.
This^^^ Knock it off with the "get it through her thick head" comments, be thankful for a home and a mother who cooks (and likely does other stuff) for you, and fix your own food.
When I was 14, I muttered under my breath at my mom, "Why can't you be quiet."
My dad heard.
My two front teeth are fake.
Do the math.
Respect your mother.0 -
Hanging up on your mom was rude. I can see why there are so many unsympathetic responses.
Although I wouldn't ever hang up on my mom, I understand your position. My husband loves pasta. We have a pasta maker here at the house. He also loves southern comfort foods. Like you, I have a hard time eating "just a little." It's pretty frustrating when family members make that comment. I have been learning to eat only one serving size of these comfort foods. Then, I add a huge salad to make me feel more full. It's really all about training yourself and the right mindset.0 -
Try being from a Native American family where EVERYTHING is fried!! Fried bologna, fried biscuits, fried pork chops, fried bread!! MMMM...Indian Tacos!!
I feel you on that. Try being from a Samoan family too. "Don't eat 'till you're full...eat 'till you're tired." smh0 -
What you should do is apologize to your poor mother, and tell her how much you love and appreciate all she does for you, because one day she will not be here to coddle and take care of you, which means you will be alone and have to do everything for yourself. Including paying that "$1300" in rent (that's pretty damn cheap, by the way) that appears to be so repulsive to you.
Jesus, you act like you're 12.
This IS EXACTLY what you should do when you get home this evening...at minimum...a bouquet of flowers would be great too, but, at least apologize. Signed a mother of a 25 year old son who does NOT live at home.0 -
Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...
mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::
She just doesnt get it.. im trying to lose weight here and eat my protein and clean food... "having a little" just isnt gonna cut it! I wish there was a way for her to understand but there really isnt. Being from a pretty hardcore italian family we have pasta 2-3 nights a week. Dad doesnt like whole wheat pasta and god forbid I dont eat whats cooked... Its so frustrating that even when I make my own food she still gets upset bc I didnt eat what she cooked. I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?
sorry about that!
(rant over)
I completely understand. I used to be just like you. Ungrateful for what my mother did for me out of love. Now that she's dead, I'm free to cook my own meals.
But now that my evil mother who fed me all the yummy, nutritious and filling foods (yet somehow I stayed thin with her cooking, magic I know) is dead, I now have this Satan's minion of a sister-in-law cooking for me daily. She just doesn't get it. She feed feeding me carbs and beans and lentils and veggies and meats and cheese and eggs and dairy. I am forced to tell her how much I will have to taste her yummy and nutritious foods and make my own salad to fill the rest of my calories and my belly like a grown up. I don't wanna be a grown up. If I wanted to be a grown up, I wouldn't have turned 29 years old...
LOL I agree with this. Mums need to be cherished as they're not around forever. We all grow out of that ungrateful brat phase. For me it was too late, I had only just finished being a brat and then my mum died when I was 21. I can never get that back now.0 -
You're gonna make some woman very happy one day. ....not!0
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OH BLESS HER ITALIAN HEART!!!!
People who haven't had an Italian mama push food on them have no idea how guilty they make you feel if you don't eat their food. My lord, this one woman I know was practically forcing cookies down my throat, all while insisting she shouldn't have any because she needed to watch her weight. And I was the fat one! LOL!
My advice, eat the goddamned pasta, you ungrateful *kitten*! This is your MAMA! But eat it BEFORE you go to the gym- use it as fuel for your work out. Then have your protein shake after to heal those muscles, and balance out the rest of your day's carbs so you don't insult your mother!
You INGRATE!
-From an Italian Mama0 -
How old are you? I looked at your pic, and you do not look like a child. Man up and take care of your own food.0
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OH BLESS HER ITALIAN HEART!!!!
People who haven't had an Italian mama push food on them have no idea how guilty they make you feel if you don't eat their food. My lord, this one woman I know was practically forcing cookies down my throat, all while insisting she shouldn't have any because she needed to watch her weight. And I was the fat one! LOL!
My advice, eat the goddamned pasta, you ungrateful *kitten*! This is your MAMA! But eat it BEFORE you go to the gym- use it as fuel for your work out. Then have your protein shake after to heal those muscles, and balance out the rest of your day's carbs so you don't insult your mother!
You INGRATE!
-From an Italian Mama0 -
put your own roof over your head. until then stop crying like a baby that mommy is feeding you
^^^That. Exactly. Time to put on your big boy pants.0 -
my husbands that way. I get into a serious mindset that I can lose it this time, and he comes home with del taco, pizza, burgers. *kitten*.
ETA; I cook healthy every day, and when dinners on the stove, he comes in with food I need to avoid.0 -
Your mom still cooks dinner for you, and you complain and hang up on her. Time for you to start making your own meals, kiddo.0
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I just had a flashback: DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, "Parents Just Don't Understand."0
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put your own roof over your head. until then stop crying like a baby that mommy is feeding you
^^^That. Exactly. Time to put on your big boy pants.
If I may, it's really not uncommon for Italian men and woman to stay in the nest until they are married. FYI- there may be some cultural misunderstandings here. He's not refusing to put on his big boy pants- He is (I assume) doing what is normal and expected in his community by still living with his parents even though he is an adult.0 -
I kind of feel your pain, my mum is similar in the food aspect and even more annoyingly to me is the exercise concept. She thinks exercise should be a last priority as everything else is more important:
Mum: What are you doing today Ash?
Me: blah blah blah gym blah blah...
Mum: Gym again? You could spend some time with your grandfather for god's sake, he's getting old you know?
Grrr way to go and make me feel guilty.
No matter how many times I tell her, in different ways, she just doesn't get it. This is food as well though in terms of not having enough food on my plate or not having something in particular like garlic bread or pasta lol. Good luck and if you find a way, let me know?0 -
You gonna pay my rent? Long Island in the most expensive place in the country to live. Im not paying 1300 a month for an apt to pay someone elses mortage... MY mom isnt a stick either and shes gained a substantial amount of weight in the last few years too, but you cant tell her that.
Woe is me. Welcome to being an adult.
And if you're not in a position to move out, buy your own groceries and cook your own meals.
This^^^ Knock it off with the "get it through her thick head" comments, be thankful for a home and a mother who cooks (and likely does other stuff) for you, and fix your own food.
When I was 14, I muttered under my breath at my mom, "Why can't you be quiet."
My dad heard.
My two front teeth are fake.
Do the math.
Respect your mother.
Right On! I mean im sorry about your teeth,;( But Right On! LOL..0 -
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How about I move in with your mom and you come out here and try to figure out what to feed two toddlers that is semi-nutritious and they'll eat?
hahahha! This is the best response ever.
Also, I think I'm gonna have pasta and broccoli tonight. It'll fuel my dead lifts later on
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This seems quite similar to the disagreements alot of spouses have with each other . . . .
Maybe you should marry your mom?0 -
put your own roof over your head. until then stop crying like a baby that mommy is feeding you
^^^That. Exactly. Time to put on your big boy pants.
If I may, it's really not uncommon for Italian men and woman to stay in the nest until they are married. FYI- there may be some cultural misunderstandings here. He's not refusing to put on his big boy pants- He is (I assume) doing what is normal and expected in his community by still living with his parents even though he is an adult.
Is it also expected that Italian men and women will be so disrespectful to their parents while living as grown adults in their parents' homes?
I would really like to understand this, because where I come from, disrespect is a great way to get your teeth knocked down your throat.0 -
I say tell your mom how lovely her meal is have a small portion and then make a huge salad for the family and scarf down that then help clean the dishes!0
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How about I move in with your mom and you come out here and try to figure out what to feed two toddlers that is semi-nutritious and they'll eat?
hahahha! This is the best response ever.
Also, I think I'm gonna have pasta and broccoli tonight. It'll fuel my dead lifts later on
Aww. My (12 year old) daughter just came home and I gave her a big hug and reminisced about when she was a toddler, and we used to eat wagon wheel pasta with broccoli together for lunch, just about every day. Definitely going to cook with her more often.0 -
I understand that it can be hard when not everyone in the house is on board with your diet and exercise. It's frustrating. I didn't start losing weight until I had moved out and cooked for myself. And if she is upset that you don't eat what she cooks, make your own meals but help her understand what losing the weight means to you. Make sure she knows that it is important to you without bringing her weight or insecurities with it. Your whole family doesn't have to diet, but you must have a way of doing this by yourself.0
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Move out. Cook your own food. Problem solved.
lol, THIS! or eat the pasta. Measure out 1 serving of pasta and throw in a chicken breast and voila! Everyone is happy!!!!!
ETA: Oh, and Mexicans and their fried beans and rice! They don't give the guilt trip, tho, like Italians. If you don't want it, F'off! LOL My mom will never get upset if I don't eat her cooking.0 -
Friend, I want to try to understand, but everyone else has already said what is needed to be said.
I'd give anything for my mom's home cooking. She has ALS and can't cook anymore.0 -
Is this legitimate? You should be grateful to have a mother who cooks meals for you. Show some respect.
“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.”
― Maya Angelou0 -
I swear to god, I thought you were a 16 girl until I clicked your profile. Pathetic. You know you can always judge a man by how he treats his mother.0
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