She just doesnt get it!

Ok so I hope im putting this in the right spot but... I get a call from home andthe convo went something like this...

mom- are you going to the gym tonite?
me- yea im not sure how long ill be. Whats for dinner?
mom- Pasta with broccoli
me- Im not having that, The pasta... and the oil. ugh
mom- have a little
me- you cant just have a little and think its ok, its not enough food and too many calories and carbs.
mom- so just take a lot of broccoli
me- ::click::

She just doesnt get it.. im trying to lose weight here and eat my protein and clean food... "having a little" just isnt gonna cut it! I wish there was a way for her to understand but there really isnt. Being from a pretty hardcore italian family we have pasta 2-3 nights a week. Dad doesnt like whole wheat pasta and god forbid I dont eat whats cooked... Its so frustrating that even when I make my own food she still gets upset bc I didnt eat what she cooked. I wish someone would come in and scream at her at wtf shes cooking. Anyone know how I can get it thru her thick head?

sorry about that!
(rant over)

I'm more bothered by the fact that you hung up on your mom.

Unless they are following a diet they don't always get it. It doesn't click for them why you are doing what you are doing and why you have decided to do it this way. Sometimes sitting down with your food diary and showing them the in and outs with food and also talking to them about the differences between all the macros and why you choose higher protein rather than carb they will begin to understand and will probably not question why you eat the way you want to.

I hope you find a good way to get through to them so they can respect your choices a little bit more.

Your last sentence: .I think the OP hanging up on his mother is not a good way to get through to them. And maybe he can get them to respect his choices if he can learn to respect them.

depending on what else you've had today just have a cup of pasta and the rest broccoli. Maybe see if you can find out whats for dinner the day before so you can plan for it. Either that or follow what so many others have suggested and just buy your own groceries. O

after reading other posts I want to add and or agree with many MFP posters. You should be ashamed of yourself! OMG really? I thought at first you were a young woman who was having a caniption fit over her calories. Only to find out you are a spoiled rotten disrespectful manchild. You're mother loves you feeding you what she does is what she knows. You can and should cook you're own food if it bothers you that much and to hang up on her is surely no way to win her heart. In the blink of an eye life can change. We don't know what tomorrow brings. You hung up on her in anger. What if that was the last conversation you ever had? I don't have a perfect relationship with my parents. My mother is in ill health and I call her every morning and call her to say goodnight every night
we are only five minutes away from each other but there are times it seems like miles away and that we can't seem to see each other much how odd. Cherish the times you have respect them..Ok rant over....

Long Island is the most expensive place to live in the country?

I guess those people in Manhattan and pretty much every other large city should just quit their whining...

If you can't have "just a little" then it's your problem to deal with. Yes, your mother should support your efforts to lose weight, but I question how much of an effort you're really making if you can't just avoid putting more food in your face than you should.

You will have to confront her, sit her down and tell her you really appreciate that she is cooking for you, but you are trying something new to see if it works for you. Every once in awhile it will be okay to eat pasta, it isn't something you have to completely cut out, and maybe if you want to eat whole wheat, ask your mother if she insists on cooking for you (or you can do it yourself) to make your portion with whole wheat pasta if she doesn't mind. Buy your own groceries and cook your own meals throughout the day, and if she wants to give you some food, just take a small portion. Make room for it in your food schedule every couple of days or so. There are plenty of ways to solve the problem, but you shouldn't have hung up on your mother. From what you typed, it doesn't seem like she was trying to be mean.

EDIT: I had NO idea you were 31...sorry, but I find it a bit ridiculous you can't afford your own place. Maybe you should be focusing more on becoming independent and acting your age and less on what you're focusing on for awhile. I'm 22 and I live on my own, child and husband and all. Sure I don't live in Long Island, but you could certainly live somewhere else. Take my prior advice too, but definitely learn to stand on your own two feet.

Mermerm

I am sorry that you are not getting the best support from your mom or some of the others on this topic. My mom I love dearly but we come from a long line of nurturers and there is much food volume that comes with that! I do not live at home.....I am 46....but I live out of town and stay there often for a visit. I have a hard time sticking to a healthy eating there because I don't want to be rude or ungrateful for what she prepares. I just try and make my breakfast myself......and go and get other bits from the store to fill out the meal times.

Just get a few things from the store for you to eat.....things that will fill in an nutritionally lacking meal. Or....tell your mom that you will grab a bite out before coming home and pack a lunch sack for dinner!:happy:

You gonna pay my rent? Long Island in the most expensive place in the country to live. Im not paying 1300 a month for an apt to pay someone elses mortage... MY mom isnt a stick either and shes gained a substantial amount of weight in the last few years too, but you cant tell her that.

LI is the most expensive?? Then I guess I'm not paying almost twice that in rent to live on my own in Manhattan. Btw, the year I did live at home during school, I bought my own groceries and made my own food. Don't disrespect your mom who is giving you a free ride.

I just had a child tell me ugh about dinner. She is 12. I told her she is more than welcome to do the cooking...but she's not allowed to feed us like we're 4. Guess who ate the dinner provided.

i just want to say, this is how i was raised too (and trust me i was a VERY picky eater) and you know what? I grew up just fine. although i might have hated the liver and lima beans, i didnt die

Sounds insanely cheap! Here a one bedroom will run you about $2,000+ in a BAD neighborhood -.- I've lived on my own since 17. Your mother doesn't understand because she isn't in this war.