NSV - Ladies, why do you get mad when this happens to you?

It's annoying because it means the person you are talking to values your breasts more than what you have to say. Complimenting someone's hard work to achieve some nice muscles is quite different than drooling over someone's breasts.

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Or it's possible she is someone (like me) who has trouble maintaining eye contact.

It totally depends on the situation and the person. For women, that can happen so often that you wonder if anyone even remembers you have a brain. Besides, it's a really oogy feeling when someone I'm not attracted to is oggling my breasts (can't say as I've caught too many staring at my crotch). But I really do appreciate it when I'm complimented on my shoulders or thighs. I know that's complimentary of my hard work (and sometimes good genes). Whereas someone who can't keep his eyes off the girls is just a creep.

I'm sure I'll get lambasted for my honesty by some, but I do not mind when an attractive or otherwise desirable guy sneaks a peek. I'm glad they still notice. But being that distracted by boobies is just gross.

And I don't get mad unless someone is downright disgusting about it. I just pretend on of my arms it itchy so I can cover, and if that doesn't drop a big enough hint, I walk away (knowing my *kitten* is probably going to get looked at too). I'm not suggesting I'm some hot chick. I'm not. I'm a mom. I just think some guys never move out of puberty.

And I don't get mad unless someone is downright disgusting about it. I just pretend on of my arms it itchy so I can cover, and if that doesn't drop a big enough hint, I walk away (knowing my *kitten* is probably going to get looked at too). I'm not suggesting I'm some hot chick. I'm not. I'm a mom. I just think some guys never move out of puberty.

No lambasting but this is an interesting point I think gets overlooked. Why make excuses to cover yourself up. Like it is your problem they are looking? I do the same thing. I have been reading a lot on how society trains people to act certain ways lately and the way women and men are trained to handle confrontation is interesting and really scary.

I realize muscles are more valued by most ppl on a guy rather than a woman, But, for a woman to have a nice chest, backside, legs...whatever... it is still an accomplishment for her.

I get what you are saying here but I disagree with a woman having a decent pair of breasts as being an accomplishment. There's nothing we can do about them to make to smaller, bigger, more pert, whatever . They appear t about 10-13 and keep growing for about 10 years. I don't think I've accomplished anything by having a decent rack.
I DO think I've accomplished something by losing 24lbs, getting fitter and having people (males or females) compliment me.

But as others have stated there is a difference between someone admiring my body and someone perving on my body and it can be a fine line.

It doesn't annoy me, I think it's funny. Then again I'm an A cup, so it's only happened, like, twice ever.

It's annoying because it means the person you are talkng to values your breasts more than what you have to say. Complimenting someone's hard work to achieve some nice muscles is quite different than drooling over someone's breasts.

I think that Ms. dancingonstar is right... It is very different because at least in the US women tend to be overly objectified based upon their physical appearance...

Don't get me wrong admiring women is not always wrong... The problem is how we show our appreciation of women...

It's annoying because it means the person you are talking to values your breasts more than what you have to say. Complimenting someone's hard work to achieve some nice muscles is quite different than drooling over someone's breasts.

Aw, bull. If that were true, she's be staring at his "amazing lifting journal" and distracted by his 1RMs... not the visual presence of his arms.

it doesn't make me think they don't care what I"m saying hahahahah. If they glaze over and don't reply when I ask a question then maybe we have a problem, but if they can follow my conversation and contribute I don't care where they look. And I always figure if a girl didn't want people to look, I guess she would wear a turtleneck.

Thanks for your thoughts Dancingonstar,

I realize muscles are more valued by most ppl on a guy rather than a woman, But, for a woman to have a nice chest, backside, legs...whatever... it is still an accomplishment for her. She wouldn't get many of those looks/compliments without good hygiene and being reasonably fit.

I can see how statements about your appearance from a person you don't know/trust can be scary for a woman, more so than for a man. And I know appearance compliments can be used to demean a woman or even a man. But in this case, she wasn't going to assault me and wasn't going to propose an affair. If she couldn't pay close attention to what I was saying about which end of the trail I started, I can totally forgive her in exchange for the compliment she paid me.

Actually, I am surprised there aren't a few women who would say: "Yeah, I get a total rush when I know a guy has hard time taking his eyes of my figure."

I think you've got the correct handle on the situation. I do think "You look great" is one thing, love that, but ogling and saying something like "Hey, great tits, sugar" is offensive.

Your bicep =/= woman's breast


sorry

try again.

In for gesturing like an Italian!

I get irritated because if they are staring at my chest they are not listening to what I am saying and its annoying, they can stare all they want though if I am not trying to talk to them. they wont get my number or anything though lol

Took a bike ride on an old rail trail through some of the neighboring counties. I ran into an old friend who's kids used to be in Sunday school with mine, hadn't seen her face to face for a few years. We exchanged pleasantries for a few minutes and caught up on the kids, I gestured a bit when I talked. (not that much, its not like I'm Italian) She broke face/eye contact every time I moved. I paused a bit after a while and she'd look back up at my face.

I told her I started at the trail head, she assumed I started at the one a couple miles away but I actually started at the other end of trail in the next county. I made a hitch-hiker fist with my hand lifting my arm pointing back over my shoulder with my thumb to the other end. I saw her eyes pop.

"Holy Freakin' God, look at those guns,... how did you do it, you look great!"

If I was a lady and every time I moved or just took a deep breath and the guy I was talking to looked down at my chest, I wouldn't get mad. I'd just say: "Thank you, thank you very much."

If someone complimented me on my guns, I'd take it as a compliment too. If someone complimented me on my rack, I'd think they were a pathetic skeeze ball. You have no idea what you are talking about if you think this is the same thing.

Your bicep =/= woman's breast

sorry

try again.

I agree with this. It also matters if the person I'm talking to glances or stares. Glancing is appreciating, staring is creepy. It is funny to me how men think that their appreciation of a women's body should be a compliment no matter how that appreciation is shown. As a young women that was abused as a child, I spent many years trying to hid behind fat just so that I wouldn't be noticed. I'd lose weight and the comments and attention would start, and I'd gain the weight right back. I am older and wiser now and I know how to handle unwanted attention, so it is not as bothersome. But men please get out of that frame of mind that all women should like any and all appreciation you show to them, and any way that you show it...... Some of us just don't.