Your most humiliating "fat" experience.

All I can think is, you married this man why?

Yeah...why? This man sounds destructive.

I went to six flags with my friends, and we got right in line for super man.

I got on superman with them, and the buckle could not fit around me... instead of letting me get off, they all insisted that I could do it if it just "sucked it in" and they were all leaning back and over me trying to "help".... the people working on the ride had to come over and ask me to get off. In front of a line of hundreds of people.

I had to get off, they all went on it without me, and the rest of the day was ruined.

So...I am sure your hubby is a decent guy (besides for you questioning why you married him) but he did seem to have a really bad moment. That being said, I hope this is not a regular occurrence. I have been there with myself and others, but it is always from a place of concern - both physically and for their confidence. Anyhow...

I have definitely been at that place with the roller coaster at Busch Gardens. I still have not been back to this day. Maybe when I hit my goal weight I will head back and try it again.

My main story comes on an airplane. When I went up for Thanksgiving (approx. 365-370 lbs) I went to put the seat belt on and it was a major, MAJOR struggle. It was one of those lift up the first guy and suck in the deeper gut kind of thrusts. After the thought of having to buy two seats to travel, I knew it was time for a change. A couple of months ago - and about 50 lbs lighter, I had to fly for business, hopped on that plane and fastened that belt with a few inches of strap to spare. I secretly played with that extra 2-3 inches of belt all the way too my destination!

When I was teaching in Korea, I found out my co-workers had nicknamed me "the fat one". My boss there also told me he worried about my health, and that I couldn't do my job properly because of my weight, despite the fact that everyone else (even those who were calling me names behind my back) told me I was one of the best teachers there. While there I also went to the doctor because my hip was bothering me. He told me I needed to lose weight. I told him that this hip has bothered me for years, even when I was much smaller. He insisted it was due to my weight. The co-worker that went with me to translate decided it would be funny to tell everyone at the school that I was told that I needed to lose weight, and that it was hilarious.

Needless to say, I broke my year contract after only four months...

My boyfriend's mom is Korean,and when I met her, she told me I needed to lose weight. Also, I had just started a new birth control regimen which caused my skin to break out in a few places. She gave us an entire case of herbal soap from Korea so my skin "would be pretty". She also told my boyfriend that he needs to "Marry a nice Korean girl" Every time she calls us, she asks if we have lost, then how we are doing. I couldn't imagine dealing with that at work on a constant basis. That is so horrible. I wanted to take a trip to visit Korea,but I think I have changed my mind.

My sister-in-law is teaching in Korea, and she is average weight. Yet they also call her fat. And we have an amazing Korean sushi restaurant in my town. The owner is Korean, and tells her customers they're fat. What a strange cultural difference, huh?

In a sad sort of way, knowing I'm not alone in this sort of experience with Koreans makes me feel better...

A patient was discussing with my boss how its very hard to find clothes to fit in Asia. Then, the old lady patient, thinking I was out of earshot, comment that I would be hopeless trying to shop in Asia.....but my boss defended me, telling the patient that she can't say stuff like that, and that I am a wonderful worker. Awww....my boss is the best!

Then, when I was on vacation in Aruba, we'd all decided to go parasailing. When it was my turn, the dude that get everyone set up looked at me up and down, hesitated, and dug out an ugly harness (while others get the normal sized cute rainbow ones) while mine was black, thick and ugly....yet probably the safest! I had fun anyway even tho' I didn't float as high.......

Carpooling: let her sit in the front.....(since she is the biggest); yay...no need to squeeze tight with 5 others in the back!

Still want to get fit because no matter how unattractive I was on the outside, I still love myself enough to start taking care of myself.
Keep going, we will get there!

once while at work ( taking care of an elderly lady that was very outspoken about no liking FAT people in her home) I pretended to be pregnant to avoid the questions. I felt really bad about myself that whole week. Then I woke up one morning and decided that I was never going back to her house. I called the agency that I worked for and told them that it was a conflict of interest and to please never send me back there.

All I can think is, you married this man why?

I was thinking the EXACT same thing!!

I'm really sorry that your then boyfriend (now husband) said that awful thing to you. My boyfriend said some awful things to me a few months ago during a break from our relationship. He told me he hated my body and didn't find it attractive and that he was upset that I had done nothing but gain weight during our relationship. I was overweight when we met, and had planned on losing weight at the time, but had never followed through. His words really, really hurt me but he has since aplogized. But it definitely still lingers with me. Unfortunately, this is not my most humiliating "fat" experience. I have had a few in the past 2 years since I have gained substantial weight.

My first real humiliating experience was not being able to buckle my seat belt on a flight. I was so mortified and was too embarrassed to ask for a seat belt extender and flew without being buckled in. I was so terrified and prayed that the flight would be smooth and we would not crash! Unfortunately it wasn't enough to motivate me to make any significant changes. I recently went to Mexico and while booking a flight back to Mexico City from Puerto Escondido. I had been sitting in a wicker love seat and had to get up and sign some papers. When I returned to sit down the seat snapped in the center. I was so humiliated. The women were really kind and even apologized, but I could tell that they were embarrassed for me. It wasn't until recently that I decided to change my lifestyle based on my doctor telling me I have high blood pressure and just feeling plain old sick and fat all the time.

I started back with aqua aerobics about 2 months ago and have recently started making more meals at home. I still eat what I want, just less of it and have cut out soda and started drinking more water. I choose not to weigh myself and go by my clothes and how I feel physically. It's frustrating sometimes as I want the weight to just come off all at once. I just try and remind myself that it didn't go on over night and that it is a lifestyle change and not a diet and it will happen gradually.

I wish you the best of luck with your journey, wherever it takes you and I hope you find the confidence within yourself to throw on that swimsuit and be the beautiful woman that you are inside and out! Don't let your husband keep you down!

Sorry for the long response.

A teacher at my kid's elementary school asked me when I was "due." Usually, I just make something up to save the other person embarassment but for some reason I told him "no, I'm just fat." The poor guy was mortified. Sadly I weigh a lot more now than when I was pregnant either time!