The Side of Weight Loss No One Talks About

Not mine, but the belief that you can completely change your body shape through weight loss and exercise and that everyone who works hard will end up looking like a fitness model. The idea that your fat distribution pattern and goals have no bearing on how you work out, especially if you are close to your goal.

huh?

The misguided belief that my booty butt will transform it's self into a perky gym bunny butt because I'm doing squats, when in fact I had booty before I started losing weight, I have it now, and I will always have a big @ss.

Thanks. That's what I meant. Not that what you're doing isn't great for your body and overall sense of well-being. But exercise does not bring about miracles.

Is this basically like when people say "I'm fat. You're ugly. At least I can diet!"

What point exactly are you trying to make? That people should dwell on their negative qualities and embrace the idea that they will always suck? :ohwell:

^This...and I hope the answer is no and people try to learn how to think more positively...especially about themselves.

I don't think it's an issue of dwelling on negative qualities or learning to think more positively, but more of learning to embrace reality. None of us are identical, and even on the exact same diet with the exact same exercises we wouldn't come out looking the same.

I think we will all have issues with our bodies, no matter how much we diet or workout. The point is always to be the best person you can be...whether that is by working on your body or working on your inner beauty. We are who we are, as God intended us to be, and we are beautiful. We were beautiful before we began this journey, we are beautiful today, at this point in our journey, and we will be beautiful tomorrow, when we reach our goals.

my biggest issue is dealing with being "Mentally fat", Its so much more than just needing to lose weight but also a personal journey. I started in 2010 and i am still trying to emotionally deal with everything. One day at a time is my motto!

This, this, and THIS AGAIN.

Also... I'm getting over it now, it took me some time, but I am mentally coming to terms with the fact that I am no longer the fat *kitten* I used to be! You'll get there, if you don't over-analyse it. Trust me! Good luck!

Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.

That's my dilemna at work!!! None of my work pants fit properly & I feel like trash not wearing cute outfits, but until I'm completely done losing weight, Goodwill & Wal-Mart is the route for me...almost all my work pants are tents on me.

Suddenly cuddles are not as easy as they used to be. Bones poking the other person, them squashing you.

One of the things I hate at the moment is EVERYTHING CLICKS. You can hear me coming from a mile away (not in the rude sense).

Another experience I had – and this could just be my experience and not happen to everyone – was that, while nobody talked about my weight when I was at my heaviest, once I started losing the flood gates opened and nearly everyone suddenly thought it was ok to comment on my weight. I didn't really mind, none of it was negative and I have always been happy to share my experiences and encourage others to do what makes them happy, but it did sort of become the only thing people would talk about and there is more to me.

THIS THIS THIS 1000000%. When you're constantly on (and off) of diets it seems like your weight and weight loss becomes the only topic of conversation that people will acknowledge in your presence. As if you are nothing more than your diet successes and failures. It's infuriating because whenever you regain weight you KNOW these same people are silently sitting back & judging you for not doing what you did before to make them comment positively. Ask me about the weather, football, my job, my family... Anything but my diet. The last thing I want to think about at a family gathering is whether or not I'm fatter than I was at the last one!

my feet shinking a whole size! and nobody talks about being in between a size in underwear! that is not fun. :P

TONS of things! My worst problem was boob sag. Ended up getting a lift. Also, being colder in the winter and the *kitten* hurts from sitting too long without all the padding. I'm not complaining though. I'd take any of these over obesity.

God, I am agreeing with so many of these.

This too!

Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.

Too true. Got my jeans belted in but the bottom is baggy! But NOT buying any new ones until I drop a bit more weight

Goodwill. The one in my town has great quality clothes, designer stuff, I've been getting beautiful suede jackets, never worn, for $ 5.44. Yes...five dollars forty four cents. I buy all my work clothes/barn clothes there, and some of my best clothes as well. Salvation Army is more expensive... sheepskin coat, $ 35.00.

How little I would actually notice. I don't feel skinnier than I did 25 lbs. ago. I only have clothes, other people, and the scale to tell me otherwise, but when I'm standing in the shower, it's like I'm the same as always.

As I'm going through my weight loss journey, I'm realizing there are so many things that people don't talk about. I thought I heard it all, but the reality is until you go through it - you know nothing.

What's something that you learned in your weight loss that no one talks about?

it's not that nobody talks about it, but maintenance is a *****!!!

Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.

What she said, either because I've lost more or me being STOOOOOPID and gaining weight back.

The comments from people " oh, she can't eat that so no need to make it" I think that non dieters have no idea that we still EAT! That and the clothes... I have bought 5 new sizes this year, lots of money loss. We should start a clothing trade on here !!!!

They would be a great idea!

TONS of things! My worst problem was boob sag. Ended up getting a lift. Also, being colder in the winter and the *kitten* hurts from sitting too long without all the padding. I'm not complaining though. I'd take any of these over obesity.

God, I am agreeing with so many of these.

This too!

Ah I agree But I also know a lot of it is in my head as my boyfriend thinks I must be mental if I think they're saggy. I suppose when we've given our bodies a complete overhaul, we make a bigger deal in our heads of the things that we would have been completely fine about if we'd lost the weight overnight. If that makes sense?

my feet shinking a whole size! and nobody talks about being in between a size in underwear! that is not fun. :P

I wish my feet shrank a size or even a little! I've got quite wide feet and even after losing 80+ pounds, shoes are still tight on me. (the next size up is too big) :devil:

It will take a lot longer than a few weeks. I know a few people that expect to lose 50+ lbs in a month or so and that's near impossible.
Also matter how naturally gifted you are in the boob area, you will lose some of it as you shrink. I think I've dropped a cup size since starting....