Rude Dude Rant

I once had a jerk in a huge truck honk his horn and yell "FAT *kitten*!" at me when I was walking my dog.

That's happened to me at least twice, on the flip side, I did get wolf whistles too.

The worst was In HS a bunch of guys spit tons of loogies on my car and wrote nasty "fat" notes on my car. Outright miserable feeling! I am happy for anyone who didn't get taunted growing up.

It's the past... leave it behind you.

When I run on the track, I usually find myself giving people dirty looks. It has nothing to do with their looks though. It's because I am annoyed by their inability to follow the rules of the track, and keep slow to the inside, and fast to the outside. I usually am ok with it, but then I come across the group that walks together and compleetely blocks the track forcing me to either lose my stride, or cut way inside. The other one's that get the stink eye from me are the ones who space themselves out so I feel like i am running a slalom course zig zagging across the track lanes. Seroiusly. Just follow the rules. I won't be disgusted by you.

I once had a jerk in a huge truck honk his horn and yell "FAT *kitten*!" at me when I was walking my dog.

That's happened to me at least twice, on the flip side, I did get wolf whistles too.

The worst was In HS a bunch of guys spit tons of loogies on my car and wrote nasty "fat" notes on my car. Outright miserable feeling! I am happy for anyone who didn't get taunted growing up.

It's the past... leave it behind you.

Thanks for the reminder. Only a fool trips on what's behind her!

I don't think there is anyone in the world that hasn't been taunted for one thing or another in their life. When I was in school it was because of my speech impediment ,and I was a little strange

I've been fat pretty much my entire life, and for many years I carried around a chip on my shoulder the size of a cement block. I assumed everyone everywhere was judging me, and every scowl, blink, laugh, glance in my general direction was "out of disgust" towards me. A few years ago, I used to walk this trail near my house in New York and would always see the same extremely fit dude jogging every night. He always seemed to be scowling or "looking right through me" so I just assumed it was because of me and my weight. One day months later I was walking and tripped and fell hurting my ankle in the process..he stopped to help me up and was very concerned..even went as far as to help me walk the rest of the way home to my house.

He told me how he noticed me every night but never said anything because I always seemed so angry and he didn't want to bother me. I also found out his wife had suffered a miscarriage and he started jogging as a way to release his stress. This was four years ago and he is one of my good friends still to this day. I learned a lesson that night and I realized that I was judging him the same way I thought he was judging me. I'm not saying everyone is the same, or that legit *kitten* don't exist but you'd be surprised to know how many people are actually rooting for you even if they don't show it and how most of the time the scowling mean mugs really aren't about you. At all.

I once had a jerk in a huge truck honk his horn and yell "FAT *kitten*!" at me when I was walking my dog.

That's happened to me at least twice, on the flip side, I did get wolf whistles too.

The worst was In HS a bunch of guys spit tons of loogies on my car and wrote nasty "fat" notes on my car. Outright miserable feeling! I am happy for anyone who didn't get taunted growing up.

It's the past... leave it behind you.

Thanks for the reminder. Only a fool trips on what's behind her!

Now THAT is the way to change your thinking!! :drinker: Best of luck, OP. I know how difficult it is to get past those comments...but once you do, life becomes truly beautiful. :flowerforyou:

Ain't no STOPPING us now!!!

I was projecting, I am narcissistic, terrible self esteem, it was a reflection on me, forgive me MFP, for I have sinned and insulted someone AND I am a complete attention-seeking hypocrite! LOVE IT!

The next person who doesn't smile at me when I walk is getting punched.

This is why that may not be a good idea.

That **** looks like it hurts!

as someone who did years of martial arts, I will just say that one's targeting has to be spot on for this to work.

I've been fat pretty much my entire life, and for many years I carried around a chip on my shoulder the size of a cement block. I assumed everyone everywhere was judging me, and every scowl, blink, laugh, glance in my general direction was "out of disgust" towards me. A few years ago, I used to walk this trail near my house in New York and would always see the same extremely fit dude jogging every night. He always seemed to be scowling or "looking right through me" so I just assumed it was because of me and my weight. One day months later I was walking and tripped and fell hurting my ankle in the process..he stopped to help me up and was very concerned..even went as far as to help me walk the rest of the way home to my house.

He told me how he noticed me every night but never said anything because I always seemed so angry and he didn't want to bother me. I also found out his wife had suffered a miscarriage and he started jogging as a way to release his stress. This was four years ago and he is one of my good friends still to this day. I learned a lesson that night and I realized that I was judging him the same way I thought he was judging me. I'm not saying everyone is the same, or that legit *kitten* don't exist but you'd be surprised to know how many people are actually rooting for you even if they don't show it and how most of the time the scowling mean mugs really aren't about you. At all.

Really great story.

In 7th grade, I was at a class party. I saw a couple of older girls I had a crush on down the street. I went down to talk to them, and after a little bit saw one of my friends come out of the backyard. I called for him, and he looked around and didn't find me. I went back to the party about a half an hour later, and was getting weird looks and snickers from my classmates. A couple of days later, when I returned to school, there was graffiti, and people were taunting me for having been masturbating in the bushes at the party. I was mortified. The more i deniedit, the more they persisted for the rest of the year. I finally just learned to ignore it, and it went away.

Nowadays, it's no big deal, but back then it was a crime to be caught with your crank in hand.

Don't always assume everything is about you...........................

This. This is what I see here daily in rant threads.

It's not the past as so much last month for me. Anyways, the issue isn't me letting it go, it is the fact that people intentionally hurt complete strangers for fun. This kind of behavior should not be accepted in our adult culture.

It's not the past as so much last month for me. Anyways, the issue isn't me letting it go, it is the fact that people intentionally hurt complete strangers for fun. This kind of behavior should not be accepted in our adult culture.

Correction, last month is the past. I was talking like it is not from my high school days or years ago. It was last month, and committed by a full grown adult male.

Yes, I can relate. People say some truly terrible things to completely random strangers for no good reason. You are right that this kind of behavior is not acceptable in adult culture. As I've gotten older, I'd feel more comfortable addressing the person if they were close enough--I'd simply ask them what they get out of trying to make me feel bad. Usually, though, people who say mean things are cruising by in a car--a d*ck and drive. Remembering that people like that will be the same way to just about anyone helps, though. I've had numerous occasions where I am walking small children and had the kids get mocked, or been mocked even though the kids are there. That helps me just reduce it down to *lame* rather than personal.

(I don't usually interpret looks, just direct comments. I luckily haven't gotten any rude direct comments in a while. I don't like getting honked at or whistled at, because I automatically feel made fun of, but I recognize that I have no way of knowing the intention behind the act. People perceive the act of honking or whistling so differently. Some see it as giving a compliment, while I tend to keep my thoughts to myself unless I know they are desired. I don't compliment people on weight loss unless they have been open with me about their efforts.)

Of course that behavior is not accepted in adult culture. That said, adults also walk away and brush off comments from insignificant strangers and go about their daily business. Don't take it personally, they are simply acting like *kitten* hats and you happened to be there at the wrong time. Do not allow them to control your emotions.

I agree with this as well. The better I feel about myself, the easier it is to brush off. Learning to be ok with yourself helps cultivate the Eff It attitude.