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  • SarahKJ0704
    SarahKJ0704 Posts: 25
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    Lol well definitely mixed feelings.. I guess I am a little nervous with him going because about 3 years and 50 pounds ago (haha) I used to dance at a gentlemens club so now that I found out he's going I'm having a few flashbacks of what all went on in the club I worked in.
  • MsEndomorph
    MsEndomorph Posts: 604 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    Oh, that's absolutely ridiculous. Sending your SO off to drool over naked women is a sign of maturity? I don't think so. To some people there's more to fidelity than where you stick your junk and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, be it leaned from society, parents, or religion.

    I can't believe I actually read that. But I guess I should shut my mouth and get to making sammiches.
  • nic_ci
    nic_ci Posts: 110 Member
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    Lol well definitely mixed feelings.. I guess I am a little nervous with him going because about 3 years and 50 pounds ago (haha) I used to dance at a gentlemens club so now that I found out he's going I'm having a few flashbacks of what all went on in the club I worked in.

    The "found out" part...was he hiding it from you?
  • mrs_mab
    mrs_mab Posts: 1,024 Member
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    I go with my husband we buy each other lap dances.
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
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    I'd be up front with him, shoving dollar bills down her g-string. And buy him a lap dance.

    Although I haven't been back to a strip club after being kicked out of one years ago...

    It was male amateur night. There was a small room (that looked like it was for private parties with a small stage and all) that the women were in. There was a ledge for drinks off the stage. My friend decided to embarrass me by waving a dollar bill over my head. The current dancer decided to come giggle his junk in my face. He squatted down, the straw from my friend's drink went up his butt, and he ran off the stage immediately with his butt cheeks clenched with a straw sticking out of his keester.

    Next thing I know, the DJ comes on the speaker "I don't know what kind of freaky **** you ladies are into... stirring the salad or blowing the salad, but touching the dancers is not allowed" Then a bouncer came and found me, asked me to leave the room. Long story short I was escorted out of the club not only for violating their dancer, but for having an alcoholic drink in front of me when I was underage because they thought it was mine.

    OMG, I CAN'T BREATHE. The mental image was too much!

    That is the funniest story I've heard in a while. I can't get the image of a tight muscular butt with a straw scurrying away out of my mind
  • SarahKJ0704
    SarahKJ0704 Posts: 25
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    No he didn't hide it from me.. I should have worded that different lol
  • usernameMAMA
    usernameMAMA Posts: 681 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
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    I'd be mad ... because he didn't take me with!!! Stripping is an art form and I could watch all day. Strip Clubs don't bother me because it's all about fantasy. <<I'd be more concerned if he was lying about it/trying to hide it.>>

    My feelings exactly.
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.

    I feel like there's a difference between checking someone out or acknowledging that they are attractive and paying to watch them naked and grind up on you.
  • nic_ci
    nic_ci Posts: 110 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"
    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.

    Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.

    Well said!!!! It's just a show people!!!
  • MsEndomorph
    MsEndomorph Posts: 604 Member
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    That's not your "truth." That's a weak attempt at trying to define other people's "truths" because they don't align with you.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
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    I think if a person is young and insecure it would bother them.

    As that person matures and becomes secure in their relationship they would realize its no big deal.

    I suppose the common reaction is jealousy, which is just another form of a tantrum saying "Pay attention to me!"

    false...I know lots of older people who wouldn't approve despite being married for decades...men and women.

    They got older, but they never matured and never felt secure in themselves or their relationship.

    Now if the question were "what do you think of strip clubs?"
    I've been in the past, but I've got a different outlook on them now. I wouldn't want my daughter, sister, or granddaughter to work in one, so it would be hypocritical for me to go. Not my cup of tea, but if others find them necessary I don't have a problem with them going.

    For me, it has nothing to do with being secure/insecure. It has everything to do with respect for me and our relationship. I honestly have a hard time buying that that many women are really okay with it and even go along. If a woman is going along it's for one of the following reasons (maybe all of thee above):

    1) Lesbian/Closet lesbian
    2) She wants to keep an eye on her man
    3) She wants to appear to be "one of the guys", which is the brightest shade of pathetic
    4) If she's going with her girl friends, it's to make fun of the strippers.

    Disclaimer: this is my truth, you're not going to change my mind.
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    Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.
    10/10 would bang :love:
  • NKfanKelli
    NKfanKelli Posts: 44
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    I've went with my husband am fine with it as long as I go with him. We haven't in years though. I joke with him & tell him I'm gonna lose all my weight & bring out my inner stripper. LOL
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
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    I've went with my husband am fine with it as long as I go with him. We haven't in years though. I joke with him & tell him I'm gonna lose all my weight & bring out my inner stripper. LOL

    you can take pole dancing classes hahaha
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
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    Or some of us are so secure with our sexuality that we have no problems checking out other women.
    10/10 would bang :love:

    Thanks, babe!
  • fShaw86
    fShaw86 Posts: 878 Member
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    I've went with my husband am fine with it as long as I go with him. We haven't in years though. I joke with him & tell him I'm gonna lose all my weight & bring out my inner stripper. LOL

    you can take pole dancing classes hahaha

    lol yeah! Heard it's an amazing calorie burning activity, plus you get benefits :wink:
  • RebeccaHite
    RebeccaHite Posts: 187 Member
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    I go with my man does bother me never has .I have a blast and a lot of drinks.We tip well I use to go every weekend and burn a few hundred bucks.I got to know the dancers pretty well they can be really funny and cute too,but it depends on you and your nature I think.
  • NKfanKelli
    NKfanKelli Posts: 44
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    Not in my neck of the woods. Lol I think it'd be fun though! :)
  • athyraslove
    athyraslove Posts: 145
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    My husband has gone to a strip club with his friends. I didn't care as long as he didn't DO anything with any of them. One of my wishes is to take lap dance/exotic/pole dancing classes after I reach goal weight. It looks like so much fun! If you are secure in your relationship I don't think it's a problem. If he starts going every week it would prolly be a problem for me. LOL

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