Men, what do you REALLY think of girls w/ stretch marks?

time2change14
time2change14 Posts: 70
in Motivation and Support
I know the title says men, but I need help from the ladies too! :flowerforyou:

Please be honest. I've been googling and a lot of men have said that stretch marks don't really bother them or don't even bother them at all. I find that hard to believe and I feel like guys just say that just to make the OP feel better about herself.

Anyways I ask because I have severe stretch marks. Not the tiny white ones, the bright pink and red thick ones that are all over my breasts, hips, stomach, and thighs and I'm very self-conscious about them :/ I'm looking at laser stretch mark removal but it's expensive.

So guys, what do you REALLY think about them, especially severe ones? Be please 100% honest about it.

*****Oh and please state your age too! (Just curious but I feel like the older the guy, the less stretch marks would bother him, but I assume that's not always the case)******

And for the ladies, what do you think about stretch marks on guys and on yourself? Does your significant other mind your stretch marks?
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  • time2change14
    time2change14 Posts: 70
    bump...c'mon guys!
  • asarwe
    asarwe Posts: 73 Member
    I (22) have scars on my upper arms, as well as stretch marks on my hips and breasts. My bf (23) could not care less. He is happy as long as he gets to touch me all over.

    As for me, seeing stretch marks on other women is just another mildly interesting thing. They are like freckles, something that is there, you cannot change it, and I don't care. A lot of people get stretch marks during puberty, but remain skinny their entire life. Would you judge someone with a scar from surgery? It is just something that can't be helped.

    Don't fret it. Let your skin heal. They will go paler, and if people comment on it or put you down for stretch marks, the problem is other people, not you.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Mine aren't severe, but I have several. My husband says he can't even tell. Depending on lighting, sometimes they are more apparent. Tanning has been my best therapy plus exfoliation and hydration. I have two kids. Stretchmarks on stomach, inner thighs, butt... I don't even care. I feel sexier now than before I had any.

    ETA: I'm 34 & husband is 41
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    I'm 29 and they do nothing for me either way.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I'm an older woman. Cougar range and if a guy has stretch marks I don't care at all. Not in the slightest.

    I'm not into women sexually so to me that's a non issue.
  • mewtwo500
    mewtwo500 Posts: 29 Member
    I like how one of the poster compared them to freckles--they are kind of a neutral feature and I doubt guys really have strong feelings about them. I imagine that if they are seeing you naked, their focus is probably directed elsewhere, lol...I have pretty deep stretch marks on my butt and inner thighs and have never heard any complaints. Of course the most important thing is being comfortable in your own skin!
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I like how one of the poster compared them to freckles--they are kind of a neutral feature and I doubt guys really have strong feelings about them. I imagine that if they are seeing you naked, their focus is probably directed elsewhere, lol...I have pretty deep stretch marks on my butt and inner thighs and have never heard any complaints. Of course the most important thing is being comfortable in your own skin!

    ^this. I like how men look and have been with plenty with stretch marks but when clothes are flying off i'm not thinking anything either way about the stretchmarks. Freckles are a good comparison for how I feel about them which is I don't. then when you think of how men are more visual than women and there are so many female parts going around when naked I doubt they are noticing either.

    P.S. I had some pretty gnarly ones on my belly before my tummy tuck and never had a problem getting a man. or getting repeat performances once they saw them. never ever had to run out for viagra once disrobed. never ever had any problems at all. so I think it's not a big deal. based on experience. or sexperience. lol.
  • cranium853
    cranium853 Posts: 138 Member
    I look at them as battle scars for what I have been through. Seriously, if someone said, "I like you but can't get past the stretch marks," would you respect that? I had a guy tell me that he'd like me more if I had blonde hair, and I responded that I'd like him more if he had better manners and maybe a job......
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Do. Not. Care.

    Keep up, be active, healthy - physical. This matters.

    If you are overwhelmed by them and can't go out and must hide. Yeah, that's a problem.
  • alikonda
    alikonda Posts: 2,358 Member
    I (22) have scars on my upper arms, as well as stretch marks on my hips and breasts. My bf (23) could not care less. He is happy as long as he gets to touch me all over.

    As for me, seeing stretch marks on other women is just another mildly interesting thing. They are like freckles, something that is there, you cannot change it, and I don't care. A lot of people get stretch marks during puberty, but remain skinny their entire life. Would you judge someone with a scar from surgery? It is just something that can't be helped.

    Don't fret it. Let your skin heal. They will go paler, and if people comment on it or put you down for stretch marks, the problem is other people, not you.

    ^^ THIS

    My husband (28) doesn't even notice these things. If they're pointed out, he just shrugs because they don't matter. =)
  • MexicanOsmosis
    MexicanOsmosis Posts: 382 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS

    I was JUST about to post this!!!!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj5-71ziM5c
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    My husband had me look up sites to see women's bodies after birth, so that I could see that I had bounced back (just got some tiny white stretch marks on my thighs that everyone keeps saying aren't even stretch marks). But, when we were looking at the pictures my husband said that he doesn't find any of the stretch marks unattractive. He said they just look like patterns. He said they even look pretty. He said that my stretch marks are like imaginary friends because I'm the only one that can see them. He even showed me that he has them too. And I didn't even know. That's how hard to see and unnoticeable they are. Mine are like that. I asked him how he got them and he said, "From having skin".

    You have the husband you deserve. He sounds awesome.
  • hide_yo_cats
    hide_yo_cats Posts: 83 Member
    I have never had a guy comment on my stretchmarks. Honestly, if they are close enough to see them, they better be focused on other things.
  • SmartWhatever
    SmartWhatever Posts: 718 Member
    Why does it matter what men think of girls with stretch marks?
    Surely it is only your own thoughts on your stretch marks that matter? And from the sounds of things, you need to work on that, as confidence is more of a turn on for men, than stretch marks would be a turn off.
    If a guy were to judge you based on something so common and trivial, would he really be right for you anyway?

    THIS!
    Everyone has flaws, things that we think are terrible. Those things are usually only bad in your own mind.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Oh wait, I just remember once being called a "stretch marked, piece of *kitten* betch" by an old lover during an argument. could have crushed me but enraged me. mostly because I knew he was taking a cheap shot based on my pissing and moaning about having them. no other man ever did that probably because I never told them it bothered me. i was super close with this one. I learned my lesson with that one. never give a lover ammo. 'cause when someone moves on and someone else doesn't like it the kid gloves may come off and whatever you've said can and will be used against you in the heat of passion. whether the good kind or the bad. (later when we were no longer at each other's throats and moved on he goes..."oh about what I said" and I go "kitchen sink?" and he goes "yeah, i just needed something to throw at you and it was hot on my mind since you'd just talked about it. it was that or your pedicure fail and that just seemed lame") so if you wanna vent on here about it that's cool but don't bring it up with IRL men for this reason and also they like confidence. they say it's sexy.
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
    Only time they ever bothered me with past relations was when she was overly sensitive about them. That is annoying and not sexy.
  • Dogwalkingirl
    Dogwalkingirl Posts: 320 Member
    If someone loves you for the person you are they are hardly going to care. If you are confident in yoursel,f and any 'imperfections' you may have, then that shines through.

    One thing I know that no matter what your naked body looks like if you are comfortable and confident with it, your partner is going to find THAT sexy.
  • thatgirlLeah
    thatgirlLeah Posts: 44 Member
    Wanna know the fastest way to make your stretch marks disappear? Confidence! If you must, fake it till you make it. But, there are few things as attractive as a person without insecurities.
  • mustang289
    mustang289 Posts: 299 Member
    Have fun, take a Sharpie to bed and use the stretch marks to draw pictures. :bigsmile:
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS

    Lol love him!
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS

    Ha! Good ol' Kat Williams. In my experience, what he's saying is true. Stretch marks do not matter to most men. I have light ones on my hips, stomach and a little on my arms, and I've even dated men with stretch marks on their arms, chest and stomach. I couldn't care less. To me, if a guy gets his panties in a bunch about stretch marks, then he is not worth my time anyway.
  • Sqeekyjojo
    Sqeekyjojo Posts: 704 Member
    If you're doing things right, he's not gonna be thinking about them anytime soon.
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
    I can recall being in my teens & a friend who I always viewed as having a "perfect body" showed me her stretch marks from shooting up 4" quickly. Since then myself & most of my friends have had kids (various stretch mark results). My point is nobody knows what the hell you've got going on under your clothes until you choose to show them, & if you know them well enough to do that. Then they're not going to give a damn. :wink:
  • JustLindaLou
    JustLindaLou Posts: 376 Member
    This was an awesome post, and all the replies have done so much for me!! I know when I reach my goal I will still have the stretch marks, and probably some saggy skin too... but hey I am also getting older and my amazing body produced an amazing child, and frankly it has put away some amazing food over the years, and reaching my goal means my body will do many more amazing things to get me there and keep me there... I love the analogy to freckles. Here's to everyone's lovely amazing unique bodies! :flowerforyou:
  • jennpaulson
    jennpaulson Posts: 850 Member
    I had them on my boobs before anyone ever saw me naked from developing early and none of the guys I was ever with made any comments. My current guy made a comment about the ones on my lower belly but just said that they should have come from having his babies (we've known each other forever but always had bad timing and both had our children with someone else) He is in amazing shape and has never once made me feel bad about my body but it is a little bit of a motivator to keep me on track with eating right and exercising.
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS


    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Love him!

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