Men, what do you REALLY think of girls w/ stretch marks?

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  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    More importantly, what do YOU think of girls with stretch marks? The most intense stretch marks I ever saw was on a man, not a woman and I've yet to hear a man ask if women think it's a turn off.

    The feminist is coming out and I have to say I wait eagerly for a generation of women who won't need to ask these questions - I don't mean to be unkind here - the reverse is true. How about asking this question: Would you really want to hang out with a guy that's got some primal hang-up about stretch marks? You're better than that! Have faith in your character.

    I believe in feminism, and I can't imagine any kind of human being uninterested in how they come across to the desired sex, or, fitting in, to some degree or other. I feel like OP's concern is as valid as any other (plus I think she's on the young side, no?).

    That said, I appreciate what you're saying. This poster's right, OP: turning the tables thing is a good idea - you've got power here, too. And it's true, a guy who'd fixate on stretch marks is not worth it.
  • 36jessica
    36jessica Posts: 319 Member
    ...and to think I've spent the last twenty years loathing and covering up something nobody but me thought was that important. What an eye-opener. I'M FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! Thank you:heart:
  • AmberEnriquez2
    AmberEnriquez2 Posts: 4 Member
    HAHA to that Kat Williams Quote!!! Too Funny..

    Okay so personally I think that if you are even with someone that cares about something physical like that they have problems..on the other hand you probably are just beating yourself up over it..BEAUTY comes from within and YOU need to act like they arent even there..I know it sounds hard to do but you can still lose weight and be confident and dress sexy. I am a mother of 2 and have light ones just use some vitamin E serum and they will fade...and trust me even people with 10 kids have bounced back from having dark ones.either way kids or no kids..who cares what other people "THINK" You love yourself FIRST!!:happy: :happy: :wink:
  • littlelady2b
    littlelady2b Posts: 104
    I went a long time when I was younger after having my two boys feeling self conscious it was ridiculous to the point where I had to be covered until I was under the covers and the lights had to be out. Wow talk about adding to the mood NOT! Once I accepted myself for how I look and that the good person on the inside also projects outside I realized what I was doing. I see my life marks as beautiful because I got them from carrying a life inside me. It doesn't matter how you get them they are a part of you. So I took my image of myself to another level and decided to show just how sexy I really am and if my life marks are noticed and disliked by a man then honey there's the door don't hit yourself on the way out it's your loss not mine. I have better things to do with my time than to be bothered with a man that is only after perfection. Besides there is no such thing as perfect! All women and men are unique we all have our own beauties not flaws and those beauties are a part of us and I'd rather be proud, confident and secure in myself as a woman then walk around with insecurities about what you can't change its so unnecessary life is too short for that. Be confident be happy enjoy life and leave the negative self image behind..:wink:
  • Mario_Az
    Mario_Az Posts: 1,331 Member
    Meat is meat a man has to eat LOL but in all seriousness if i like her and i am attracted to her it doesn't matter.
  • jamielynas
    jamielynas Posts: 366 Member
    I have white stretch marks on my sides from gaining weight when I was younger, there's nothing wrong with them IMO
  • WalkingMermaid_
    WalkingMermaid_ Posts: 205 Member
    I had my son at age 17, and have had stretch marks ever since due to that pregnancy. Granted, they have faded significantly, but they are still noticeable. I have never even considered what a partner might think of them, I have always considered them an insignificant 'flaw' and if any prospective partner told me otherwise I'd show them the door!
  • Christina8585
    Christina8585 Posts: 73 Member
    I have horrific strech marks. Sad face...:sad:
    I hate them. :mad:
    I wish I could get rid of them. :explode:
    But I can't...:frown:
    So I have to just live life:drinker:
  • Ophidion
    Ophidion Posts: 2,065 Member
    my bf has more than i do and hes in way better shape than me. i used to be ashamed of the 3 on my left hip and the 2 right next to my belly button. but you know what?

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    This ^ Be it through child birth or losing weight they are like battle scars, you got them from doing things that are honorable. It is best to love who we are and change what we can and embrace what we can't.
  • Synapze
    Synapze Posts: 499
    my bf has more than i do and hes in way better shape than me. i used to be ashamed of the 3 on my left hip and the 2 right next to my belly button. but you know what?

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    ^This is what i keep telling the Mrs <3
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Stretch marks suck. Personally, I think they're pretty ugly. But most people seem to have them so we might as well just treat them as the fact of life that they are. I don't think stretch marks are going to be a deal-breaker for anybody but the most shallow perfectionist. There are so many more important things in life to worry about...:flowerforyou:
  • AntWrig
    AntWrig Posts: 2,273 Member
    Why should you give a s**t about what men or anyone else thinks about you?!
    This.

    Who gives a ****. Really. I got stretch marks from losing over 100lbs. If a female don't like it, then she can go kick rocks.
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
    I had a few in my 20s from being big as a teenager and then losing loads. It never stopped me getting any male interest :smile:

    I'm 35 now and have 2 children so a few more stretch marks, but just the silvery ones. My husband doesn't seem to even notice, or care.
  • flumi_f
    flumi_f Posts: 1,888 Member
    my bf has more than i do and hes in way better shape than me. i used to be ashamed of the 3 on my left hip and the 2 right next to my belly button. but you know what?

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    Great attitude. I'm gonna go with this one, when I reach my goal!
  • hedgiie
    hedgiie Posts: 1,226 Member
    i don't mind, shape is more important than stretch marks.
  • Dragonnade
    Dragonnade Posts: 218 Member
    Mine have faded, but I've stretch marks all over my thighs, hips, breasts, and they are in such number that I'd swear they were obvious. Not from being overweight or anything, but just from growing - seriously, there is no reason on earth I should have stretch marks as I'm still a tiny wee thing, and yet I glisten in the light from them.

    My mother, when I was visiting, saw them on my hips and was proceeded to make numerous *****y comments about them. When I mentioned this to my boyfriend he looked confused and asked "Wait, you have stretch marks?"

    Conclusion: Men have tunnel vision when other things are on offer.
  • barbaramory
    barbaramory Posts: 10
    Take 1/2 a cup virgin olive oil, 1/4 cup aloe vera gel, liquid from 6 capsules of Vitamin E, liquid from 4 capsules of Vitamin A. Mix all the ingredients together in a blender. After that, store the mixture in the refrigerator. Apply the oil externally all over the places where the stretch marks commonly appear (abdomen, hips, thighs and breasts).
  • marshallexi
    marshallexi Posts: 162 Member
    Conclusion: Men have tunnel vision when other things are on offer.

    This.

    I've lost over 70lbs, I have stretch marks (albeit fading) and a little loose skin on my tummy. Has a man ever commented on it? Nope!

    In fact, men have never said anything but great things about my body, all the negative stuff has come from my own head (how dumb is that?).
  • jetlag
    jetlag Posts: 800 Member
    Stretch marks are like fingernails and ear rings. For the most part, only women notice them. :smile:

    Lol love this
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Please be honest. I've been googling and a lot of men have said that stretch marks don't really bother them or don't even bother them at all. I find that hard to believe and I feel like guys just say that just to make the OP feel better about herself.

    Men are far less critical of women's bodies than women are of their bodies.

    I had a baby at 17 and have stretch marks. I have been involved with plenty of men over the last 19 years and only one has complained about my stretch marks.

    However, he also complained that my boobs were too bog, I was "so much bigger" (at size 4) than his past girlfriends, my nose was too big and my teeth too crooked. He also cheated on me and cheats on the woman he married. He also was quite overweight with a hairy back.

    So, I'm pretty sure my stretch marks were not really a problem.

    Also, I just simply don't think about my stretch marks. Not worth the bother.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    My ex who was highly highly critical of my body, and womens bodies in general never once mentioned them.

    My fiance has never mentioned them.

    Clearly that's not a large percentage of males, but in my experience they don't care.
  • capnrus789
    capnrus789 Posts: 2,736 Member
    It's likely she's had a baby, which means she puts out.

    :laugh:
  • Joehenny
    Joehenny Posts: 1,222 Member
    I don't mind them at all.
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    Why does it matter what men think of girls with stretch marks?
    Surely it is only your own thoughts on your stretch marks that matter? And from the sounds of things, you need to work on that, as confidence is more of a turn on for men, than stretch marks would be a turn off.
    If a guy were to judge you based on something so common and trivial, would he really be right for you anyway?

    ^^This
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    I mean, obviously not having them is more aesthetically pleasing. However, if someone is not willing to give you a chance because you have stretch marks, then they aren't worth your time anyways. Keep working out and eating right, they will fade and shrink more and more as time goes on and you continue to get in shape.
  • 1546mel
    1546mel Posts: 191
    I have a ton from 2 kids and being overweight. My b/f has them on his belly from being overweight. I do not care about his, and he does not care about mine. We are not teenagers, so who cares about them. Healthy is what matters. They are the path of life we have come, regardless of our mistakes. "tiger stripes" is my way of appreciating them!
  • toutmonpossible
    toutmonpossible Posts: 1,580 Member
    In college, I lived across the landing from a woman who thought she was really hot (and she was good looking, although much more overtly sexy than I would have wanted to project). She was also something of an exhibitionist. Once I saw her naked and I was surprised to see that although she was very thin she had stretch marks all over her butt. Her skin was dark brown and the marks were light so they were noticeable. I thought they were kind of gross.

    I have plenty of flaws myself and tend to cover them up. It took me decades to go without stockings because it meant exposing a scar I got in childhood. It's much less noticeable, but if someone seems to be looking at it I feel very self-conscious.

    So I guess I'm of the school that doesn't believe in letting it all hang out.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    My husband says they look neat, they are shiny silver lines. I only have a few on my hips.he also likes my scars (From being a klutz and falling,,or the iguana biting me, or whatever...)
  • here2bme
    here2bme Posts: 63 Member
    I am one big stretch mark! I EARNED them with the birth of my son! They are part of me and that is perfectly okay with me:)
  • Leslie1124
    Leslie1124 Posts: 143 Member
    "We don't have no time to worry bout no **** like stretch marks... They came from either 1 of 2 things... Either you was big & got small, or you were small & got big ! Either way we f$&@ing... Either Waaay!" -KATT WILLIAMS

    love katt williams!

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