Your most humiliating "fat" experience.

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  • Shetchncn1
    Shetchncn1 Posts: 260 Member
    All I can think is, you married this man why?

    I often ask myself the same question. Too often in fact.

    One of my MFP friend gave this to me yesterday. It has been my thought process for a long time...
    “There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” ~Dr. Denis Waitley
  • geetarfitness
    geetarfitness Posts: 6 Member
    When my friend said "You're boobs are bigger than my girlfriends." and started laughing.

    I took that as my main motivation and start here logging my food. I had thought wearing 2 shirts with a hoody was hiding my moobs but apparently not. I'm glad he said that though. I feel awesome now, 26 pounds lost since May 9th and just over an inch lost from measuring around my chest.

    I really want to go swimming this summer. I haven't gone swimming in years because of my moobs and gut. I don't think its gonna happen though because I have lost 26 pounds but my waist measured at my hips and over my belly button are exactly, to the centimeter, the same size.

    I am there with you. I am probably down to an A cup from a C:wink:

    However, you do you. If you want to go swimming - go swimming. What if you got horribly sick tomorrow and found out you could never swim again? You let what someone possibly would think of you stop you from doing what you enjoy. I know it sucks, I think of it every time I take my shirt off. Then I think, one day I will take it off and someone will say, "Brandon, what happened to your ample mosom?" That will be awesome. My point is, you are working hard, and maybe your reward should be going for a swim. Keep up the good work!

    Nice words bornofthorns
  • CinNoMore
    CinNoMore Posts: 9
    Oh my goodness! That must of been awful
  • Syriene
    Syriene Posts: 238
    I work for the same company as my dad. One day, a fellow employee introduced himself when he saw the name tag on my desk....and then proceeded to assume I was dad's wife, not his daughter. So yeah...my extra weight evidently tacked on extra years too.
  • EmmyCD
    EmmyCD Posts: 4
    Mine is from yesterday.

    I started talking to a really nice guy online. I made him aware of my size, that I was losing weight and I was self-conscious about it. He said he didn't mind and he liked me for who I was anyway. I met with him and we went for coffee. He said he had left something in the car and ran to get it. He didn't come back. It was the most awkward and humiliating moments of my life.

    This was compounded by him giving my number to his friend to call me up riduculing me for my size and my "friend" saying 'Well I'm not surprised he ran looking at you.' Awful. I still haven't recovered from it.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    All I can think is, you married this man why?

    I often ask myself the same question. Too often in fact.

    If you think this often, think about leaving. Y O L O.

    **
    My humiliating experience, at peak weight: German border guard flirted with me before patting me down, flipped up my shirt. Cue the purest expression of disgust I think I've seen.
  • FreeThotStrm
    FreeThotStrm Posts: 40
    I was at Disneyland in Futureland looking at the all the gizmos as there was a BMI scale. I got on it.

    That was the day that I cried at the happiest place on Earth.

    Also have split my pants on an embarrassing amount of occasions, including post workout at the gym and at work.
  • FreeThotStrm
    FreeThotStrm Posts: 40
    Screw that guy!

    Lose the weight, start lifting, get fine as hell, take sexy photos, send them to him with a note that says "You could have had this, now not in a million years. Enjoy *kitten*.

    Meet someone better.

    Live happily ever after.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    Mine is from yesterday.

    I started talking to a really nice guy online. I made him aware of my size, that I was losing weight and I was self-conscious about it. He said he didn't mind and he liked me for who I was anyway. I met with him and we went for coffee. He said he had left something in the car and ran to get it. He didn't come back. It was the most awkward and humiliating moments of my life.

    This was compounded by him giving my number to his friend to call me up riduculing me for my size and my "friend" saying 'Well I'm not surprised he ran looking at you.' Awful. I still haven't recovered from it.
    your size saved you from getting involved with what is clearly a cruel to the point of crazy a-hole.
    imagine how unhappy you would eventually become if you'd ended up in a relationship with that POS.
  • js402
    js402 Posts: 2 Member
    When I saw pictures that my nephews had taken of me this past Memorial Day. I look exactly how I *don't* want to look. The shirt is too tight, it gathers and puckers in all the wrong places. My face looks puffy... It's weird.. I didn't think I looked *that* bad... but those pictures sure proved otherwise. It's disgusting what I've done to my body over the years. I need to stop it. NOW. I'm going to have to travel for work in the next month or so... and while I don't expect miracles.. I'd like to make it so I'm not so jello-like when I meet people I interact with on a daily basis, but have never met face to face.
  • EmmyCD
    EmmyCD Posts: 4
    You are right, but it really has knocked me for six. I had lost 10lbs at this point (I lost 7lbs before coming here) and I was starting to feel good. After comments from those 3 people I just feel worthless and that this is pointless. He is a complete a-hole though and I do agree that I had a lucky escape. Thank you!
  • forestbecca
    forestbecca Posts: 6
    Was having a particularly fat day and had to go into town to buy a gift voucher for my friend's birthday. Most of my clothes were dirty so I just threw on a particularly unflattering top that I was very self conscious about my belly in. Anyway, went about my business and as I was paying for the voucher the lady at the till asked "boy or girl?"

    I could feel my face going all red and I just said "excuse me??", hoping I had misheard.

    The lady smiled and said "is the voucher for a boy or a girl?"

    PHEW! :)

    I have some not so funny stories too but not in the mood for negativity! :)
  • Bel0602
    Bel0602 Posts: 135 Member
    Well for me this was more of a "compliment" from my grandma. So I didn't take it too seriously since she's really old. Anyways...So one day I was wearing a dress. And she told me "You have thick/big legs. But thats a good thing because girls with chicken legs look ugly." I know she wasn't being mean. But still! It hurt my feelings.

    And I will never forget this one. It was totally uncalled for. So one day I was outside with my mom and older sister. We were having a family bbq outside. My uncle was invited. After the bbq was over my dad came in the house and said "Oh you know what your uncle said about you? He said its funny how your mom is skinner than you. Haha." What was my uncle looking at my figure for in the first place?? This really hurt my feelings. I remember going into the bathroom afterwards to cry. I think this happened 1.5 years ago.
  • jltorres0214
    jltorres0214 Posts: 24
    I have been heavy most of my life, so I have a million humiliating experiences. I think the worst was years ago when I was a junior in high school. I was prom dress shopping at a store called, 'Cache' , and the saleswoman basically asked me to leave the store because they didn't make dresses for people my size (I was an 18 then, and probably a 20-something dress size). She wouldn't even let me touch the gowns. I felt so low. So yeah, don't shop there! They're snobby and mean! hahaha

    I have experience this too, I was just looking at the dress and the sales lady said "It wont fit on u" I was so embarrassed i wanted to smashed that sales lady's face lol and another humiliating moment is i oftenly get mistaken being pregnant even on super market they giving me free sample of maternity milk coz the sample lady though im pregnant.:noway:
  • msglitzer
    msglitzer Posts: 1 Member
    I was at a Girl Scout meeting a few months ago and the girls were playing some random game. One of our little Daisy scouts came up to me and said "Do you want to be the horse or the cow?" I replied, "I will be the cow" she says back to me "That's good good, cause you look like one." **Big sigh** kids are so honest....
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    I was at a Girl Scout meeting a few months ago and the girls were playing some random game. One of our little Daisy scouts came up to me and said "Do you want to be the horse or the cow?" I replied, "I will be the cow" she says back to me "That's good good, cause you look like one." **Big sigh** kids are so honest....

    Lol. Brat.
  • tjl2329
    tjl2329 Posts: 169 Member
    Lady. At kohl told me my size was in plus size not juniors. Really I knew that I was shopping for my daughter. I am in juniors now so no worries. Its strange Ive lost 60 lbs and I see myself the same. Others don't. I use to be scared to shop because I thought people would say I'm in the wrong area. But they don't make comments like that to me anymore thank God.
  • xinit0
    xinit0 Posts: 310 Member
    I have been heavy most of my life, so I have a million humiliating experiences. I think the worst was years ago when I was a junior in high school. I was prom dress shopping at a store called, 'Cache' , and the saleswoman basically asked me to leave the store because they didn't make dresses for people my size (I was an 18 then, and probably a 20-something dress size). She wouldn't even let me touch the gowns. I felt so low. So yeah, don't shop there! They're snobby and mean! hahaha

    That's always been one of my secret fears - that someone would "catch me" in a shop that doesn't make my size. Then again, why I'd be in an Abercrombie & Fitch is beyond me...
  • dunnodunno
    dunnodunno Posts: 2,290 Member
    Lady. At kohl told me my size was in plus size not juniors. Really I knew that I was shopping for my daughter. I am in juniors now so no worries. Its strange Ive lost 60 lbs and I see myself the same. Others don't. I use to be scared to shop because I thought people would say I'm in the wrong area. But they don't make comments like that to me anymore thank God.

    I can't believe sales associates even say stuff like that.
  • CookieCrumble
    CookieCrumble Posts: 221 Member
    I am an English teacher in China. Most ladies are small. About a week ago, I saw a beautiful dress in a size 8. I was walking to the change room with it when the lady working there told me not to bother trying it on because it wouldn't fit. That was a week ago and I only have about 5lbs till my goal weight of 125lbs. Seriously thinking about dropping my goal weight another 5lbs.

    As you probably know, sizes in Asia run MUCH smaller than the Western world. I am no geneticist, but some of Asians' size probably is due to just who they are and the environmental factors. AKA get a size 10 dress and laugh about it when you get a size 6 back in the States :tongue:


    Really like your posts on this thread. :flowerforyou:
  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    There are to many to count but the one that sticks out happened 33 years ago. Seventh grade math and we had a sub. I was teased quite a bit during my school years because of my weight. This particular day one of the boys decided to play on my name a bit while we had a sub. My maiden name is Long. Jerry went up to the chalkboard and wrote "Christy W I D E". Of course the entire class erupted in laughter. Kids can be so mean but that has stuck with me and to this day still hurts.
    I wonder what Jerry is up to these days....hmmmmmm.... :tongue:

    Jail. :devil:

    You do not look old enough to have done anything but wear diapers 33 years ago.
  • MontanaB
    MontanaB Posts: 439 Member
    I had someone today tell me "I was gonna ask for your number but then I saw your body, you'd be pretty if you weren't fat"... Urm thanks but my boyfriend thinks I'm pretty already!
    And a fee months ago a man told me that I was part of the nations obesity problems because I fared to eat a gummy sweet in public.. *sigh*
  • wmako
    wmako Posts: 36 Member
    My husband once blamed my weight for causing his depression. I'm about 20 pounds overweight and apparently this is enough to cause him to go into a severe depression. I told him to go to therapy and get on some meds or else I was leaving. It still makes me cry when I think about it.
  • danamariers
    danamariers Posts: 155 Member
    The winters here are brutal- like record snow fall, and minus 35-45 degrees celcius isn't out of ordinary so people dress up for it.

    Since I refuse to pay for parking downtown, I bus it. It's cheaper and greener. ($150/month minimum for close outdoor parking, vs a $40 bus pass for a month).

    So I was waiting for the bus, and wearing a heavy winter jacket, mitts, scarf, hat, etc. And it was WINDY- so of course the bus pulls up and everyone races to form a line to get on their bus and a boatload of people let me go first. I was freezing and grumpy, and just accepted their kindness and got on. I was suspicious that they may have thought me pregnant so when I got home I left my gear on, checked myself out in the mirror and was horrified to see that not only were my suspicions confirmed but that I looked MEGA PREGGERS. (Without the jacket I just looked fat, but I had always avoided mirrors so I made myself ignorant of what I actually looked like.)

    So the following day I started my weight loss journey. And no one (not even when I'm belly dancing with my pudge way out there) has ever thought me pregnant since. I also have to wait in line like the rest of the people to get on my bus (now summer so we're at 30-38 degrees above. Nice and sweaty)

    I vowed that the next time people think I'm pregnant, I better damn well be pregnant vs gaining weight like a hibernating bear.
  • nyrina4life
    nyrina4life Posts: 196 Member
    Oh goodness. I have so many stories that it makes me wonder why I haven't crawled into a coffin and disappeared!

    My most recent story took place at Lane Bryant. My sister, and niece were flying out from West Virginia and we were heading to California for a Disney vacation. I all ready knew we were planning a beach trip, so I went to Lane Bryant to buy a swimsuit. I had seen some really cute suits on their website, and I am a very big girl. I gained a lot of weight back from my original weight-loss success (had lost 70lbs...) and I knew my size pretty well.

    Well, I asked to try on a size 22 because it was a little bigger than what I wear. I went into the dressing room and wanted to die. I could not get the swimsuit over my thighs! A size 22 and I couldn't slip into it. Needless to say I was dieing of embarrassment when I went outside and wore a fake smile. I put it away, and said that I didn't like it and then when I got out to the car informed my fiance that it didn't fit me. I was so embarrassed.

    I did end up finding another bathing suit, same size... and it fit beautifully.

    Another, older story is from winter. I was still thinner than I was when I tried on the bathing suit and we went out to watch my FMIL's friends kids ice-skate. Well, when I was getting in the car, I ended up getting in the car and ripping my jeans. You could hear them rip. Talk about bad luck! :(
  • nyrina4life
    nyrina4life Posts: 196 Member
    Lady. At kohl told me my size was in plus size not juniors. Really I knew that I was shopping for my daughter. I am in juniors now so no worries. Its strange Ive lost 60 lbs and I see myself the same. Others don't. I use to be scared to shop because I thought people would say I'm in the wrong area. But they don't make comments like that to me anymore thank God.

    Had that happened at the one in WV, that would have been grounds for disciplinary actions or termination for that employee if they were heard saying that. How rude!!!

    I know I got tons of disgusted looks when I would shop for my sister or friends in Victoria Secret (even to just purchase a gift card sometimes!). It's like, 'What? You don't think I have a mirror at home that tells me I don't fit the worlds so called ideal body size?' :-\ Why is it, people are so...evil?
  • karenertl
    karenertl Posts: 271 Member
    What a nasty comment from your boyfriend/husband. Mine wouldn't dare to say something like that.

    For the humiliating fat experience: In my previous company the rumor went around that I was pregnant...... I didnt know about this, but when I started losing weight and when I was longer in the company someone accidentally told me so while we had a group conversation. The whole group had to laugh so apparently was involved. I also know some people of other departments had the same thoughts, so I think the whole building spoke about it (about 90 people).

    I think I get asked at least once a year (since i'm 12) if I'm pregnant based on how my stomach looks. I hate it!!

    The same thing happened to me. I'm 5'2 and at the time the rumor was going around, I was 135 pounds. I had to threaten to turn in the guy I think started the rumor for harassment because he wouldn't shut up about it and was making fun of me. When I reach my goal weight, I'm debating over whether or not I should rub it in his face.
  • Jennaissance
    Jennaissance Posts: 212
    A week or two after I became engaged, I broke my foot. The wedding was exactly 8 weeks after the break and the first day I was okayed to walk without crutches. I got the dress the day before I broke my foot. When I tried it on a week before the wedding it didn't fit. Luckily they had it in a size larger and I was able to exchange it. Trying it on in my crutches, even the lady behind the counter was sympathetic. I was married the heaviest I've ever been and while most people hope to fit in their wedding dress forever I hope I never fit in mine again. In those two months prior to the wedding I gained almost 40 pounds and I have 25 or 30 to lose still to this day. That dress motivates me like nothing else. So do the wedding pictures. I know it was my special day but I feel like I'm looking at a stranger. I'd like to keep it that way.
  • sshilcr
    sshilcr Posts: 3
    It was right after I gave birth to my daughter. I had gained 50 lbs--she was very large and so was I. I only lost 10 lbs of it after
    childbirth. I went from a size 9 to a size 16 in less than a year. We had just moved to San Diego and one of the workers was
    helping me unpack. When he came across one of my cute jackets he told me you can't wear this! I said there was a time
    when it fit me. He told me if he was my husband he would tell me to lose weight. I would love to see how this worker looks now
    after 26 years ago. People say the cruelest things to people and don't even get it.
  • mrswine
    mrswine Posts: 263 Member
    I am a very proportional hour glass shape but with a protruding stomach. I get asked frequently, "when are you do?" I have never been pregnant.

    Another one is a friend who called me out for dressing like a grandma (dressing modestly to cover up) and then publicly told me she was glad I stopped dressing like a grandma when I lost weight. I was wearing the same outfit. It's amazing how losing weight makes you look less frumpy, but it was absolutely humiliating for her to point it out both times..

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