Difficult husband?

Honestly, you're the one sounding like a child and running off to the internet because your husband won't eat the way you want. Besides, real milk and juice are both fine. Paleo is pseudoscientific garbage.

Wow. I came to a fitness/weight loss sight for tips on getting my husband to eat healthier and so far that makes me controlling and a child?

Want a tip?

Quit trying to control your husband. When is ready to become healthy he will. Believe it or not you can drink pop and 2% milk and still lose weight. Let him do things the way he wants to do them.

I won't bash you for trying to do whats best for the person you love, i do agree that you should not try to trick your husband or force him to do what you are doing by trying to make a healthier lifestyle for yourself. We all have to do whats best for us at our own time. I eat a lot healthier stuff then my husband, he won't drink anything but whole milk and me and my younger daughter use 1%, he does drink a lot of water but he also like soda on occasion, i like multi grain breads and he likes white bread. He has made small changes that will help him but you cant force someone to do the same thing as you. He may come around when he see how well you are doing but everyone has there own prefereces and you have to let them have it. I have lost 50 pounds doing what i do, eating better and excersising and if he decides to change things for himself he will do it on his own time. I understand your worry but you can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink. You need to worry about you and let him change as he wants to if he decides thats what he wants to do

He won't have the diet version of anything. He also doesn't have to do things my way, which 99% of the time he doesn't.

then you wait three months and see what happens. without nagging.
if he hasn't lost weight and you have then you sit down with him LIKE GROWN UPS and tell him how much you've lost, how you're concerned about his health, that you're scared of being left on your own, that you're willing to help if he wants to try, but that ultimately it's up to him.

Actually, it seems more like you're trying to treat him like a child and he resents it. Would you like it if somebody tried to tell you what and how much you should eat and drink?

He's a grown up person, well able to decide for himself how and when he wants to lose weight.

I've lost almost 40 lbs drinking juice and soda. The only food I basically gave up was chips and dip because it's a trigger food for me. It's all about moderation.

I think that you're being a difficult wife...

Ding! Ding! Ding!

OP, stop nagging. Start being respectful to your husband. Just because he said "I do" doesn't mean he said "I do everything you tell me to because you're the boss."

He can lose just fine without being tripped up by one of your hair-brained diet schemes. Stop reading nonsense, eat at a deficit, and lose.

Dollars to donuts, your husband will have more success eating what he wants at a deficit than you will going paleo and giving up soda.

My husband and I are currently working on our 30th year of marriage. One of the most important things to a long happy marriage is to be able to not "sweat the small stuff" but instead think carefully about what you can and cannot live with. Think carefully about which mountain you are willing to die on as not everything is of equal importance. Think about which things you can simply ignore and let go.

My husband doesn't like skim milk at all - he says to him it tastes like water. I don't mind skim milk, but we have compromised on 1% to find the middle ground. Men and women eat differently for the most part, and lose weight differently as well. I know that I have said on this site (in other posts) that I certainly don't plan to eat only lowfat or fat free foods while dieting because I know that an approach like that will not stay with me long term. I want to eat real food, but control the amount so that I can keep my calories in check. So, in my dieting approach this time my goal is to learn how many calories are in foods (its been a real eyeopener for me thus far...) and learn how to manage these calories long term.

My husband just sets his mind to lose weight (although he is not oveweight at all) and just cuts back on his food and accomplishes it pretty quickly. It seems unfair as it is much more difficult for me to lose. That being said, his approach to losing is very different than mine. If someone wants to lose, they will put in the effort and follow their own path doing it. You cannot force someone to do this and shouldn't try to trick them either as the person will start to not trust you and it will backfire in the end.

Lots of good suggestions from others on here as well. I suggest focusing on your own weight loss journey and I bet eventually he may decide to try some of what you are doing if you let him initiate the interest, rather than you trying to force it onto him. Good luck.

Focus on yourself and ask your husband for support. Once he sees the sacrifices and progress you are making, he may start to want to change his diet a bit. But the thing you can't forget is that it is HIS diet. He should control it. Not you. But have an open dialogue and come to some sort of agreement. Maybe make sure that he knows that if you're going to be the one cooking dinner- that you get to choose the menu. You can't get anywhere if you try to be sneaky- just ask for support and offer it in return. The more you try to change someone- the more they are prone to resist. You can lead a horse to water- but you can't make him drink.

In terms of soda - try seltzer! There's lots of different flavors and its so carbonated that it tastes like soda but its better for you. Also, try making easy swaps like ground turkey instead of ground beef. Or if he really likes beef, choose 93% lean ground beef instead of 80% lean ground beef. Spaghetti squash is really tasty and so much lower calories than normal spaghetti. Good luck!!

Just because he agrees with you doesn't mean he is ready. Personally I don't do things I am not ready to do and to have someone nagging me about it makes me not want to do it more than ever. Leave him alone and let your own success be his inspiration. Make the healthy way of life you have chosen be the tempting aspect and not the pressure to change.

I have tried to convince my hubby to start being healthier with me b/c he needs to be at a healthier weight just like I do but like alot of others have said, he's a grown man and he's going to make his own decisions. I have been cooking healthier meals and having healthier snack foods around so he has no choice when it comes to that. But when he decides to make a change then he will. Nobody can change a person, it's their own will. I'm just hoping that him seeing me reaching my weight loss goals and getting in shape that it will motivate him. Just be an example to your hubby that's all you can do!