Would you charge your parents rent?
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Charge mom rent??
Id rather swallow rat poison then put a plastic bag over my own head!!!!
I haven't read this wrong have I? We are talking about charging rent to one's own MOTHER!!!1 -
Nope. If she raised me for 18 years without charging me rent then absolutely not.0
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I would definitely not charge my mother, father (or the inlaws) rent even if they didn't live on a fixed income if I were capable of caring for them. They could definitely pitch in, in other ways such as buying anything that they might want for themselves...or if they were handy at something like gardening or fixing something up...or...babysitting! (LOL) Unless there was a considerable financial need, I would never charge those who have taken care of me. This comes from love and respect of older family members.0
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Would never charge my parents rent. I lived off of them rent free for 20 years. They even paid my utilities.
Now my two brothers, bring on the cash, plus a surcharge, maybe even a family tax for some extra spending money.0 -
No, simply because I was doing fine without it, and her being in the house wouldn't increase the bills. I would expect her to pay for her own food and other private living expenses (personal bills/loans ect) though I would probably help with those if she asked me. However if her presence were to increase my bills to where I was struggling I would ask for a certain percentage, but i'd work that out with her fairly. Given the situation described though - this doesn't seem likely.
OK, now on an emotional (not rational level) I wouldn't ever be comfortable with taking money off my mother, as an adult who has been brought up and supported by my mom until I could look after myself, I feel that I only owe her the same.0 -
No. My mother has let me live rent free while I was in college and for over a year while my husband was in Korea and I struggled to work and finish college. It would be an opportunity to give back to her when she has helped me so much in life.0
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No. I think we're going to find many more multigenerational families with the increased cost of college/student debt load and fewer Americans saving enough to fund their full retirement. I also think you teach your kids by example.
So, charge your own mom rent now and there's a reasonable chance your kids would charge you in the future if you were in the same circumstances.
Now, the exception: Is mom spending her social security on e.g., riverboat gambling...then I'd have a talk with her.0 -
In the scenario where the mother is a terrible person you simply don't allow her to stay with you. Such a person is not likely to honor a rent agreement and allowing such a person to stay with you would be toxic to your own home life.
if you know nothing about the mother or the poster, you may be way off base. some mothers are terrible people and them squeezing out a kid or two doesn't change that.
You aren't a cold heartless *kitten* because you charge your mother rent.Yes, I would.
I don't consider myself a cold, heartless *kitten* because of it.
You charge your mother rent because you are a cold heartless *kitten*.
Not to mention in order for this scenario to be on the table at all she had to at least do a well enough job raising you for you to have your mortgage paid off and you are in a decent job. Meaning no matter how bad the mother is in the given scenario she could have done much worse.0 -
Is she watching the kids? If yes then no rent necessary. If no I would possibly charge a small amount to cove the increase in utilities, but put it aside for things she might need in the future like nursing care or meds not covered by her insurance. Long term care of a parent can be really expensive and if you can afford to put the money away you my need it later.
In the end thought I think this kind of situation is specific to each family. My mom manages money well and has planned well for her future needs. If my mom ever moved in with me and I didn’t need her money to pay my bills I wouldn't charge here knowing that she has planned for her long term care.
On the other hand my sister should charge here FIL rent. He finally has a job but has been mooching off her and her husband for years and my sister is about to have a baby an needs the money.0 -
Not unless I needed help paying the rent. If you can afford to support her, do it! She did it for you.0
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and when you chipped in what you could afford it made you feel better about living with them, right?i wonder if the NO people are considering what it would do to her confidence and pride.
it's not true of all mothers but it's true of a lot. sometimes the cruelest thing families do is put their own need to feel kind above an elderly relative's need to feel like a contributer. we all know how uncomfortable it can be to feel indebted to someone, and no amount of assurances eases it.
If she wants to contribute to rent/bills and can, I'd accept but make it a low amount of money. I'm certainly not going to tell her, "Hey Mom, it's going to be $200 for the spare room, $200 for utilities," My folks never charged me rent when I moved back with them as an adult, though it was agreed that I should chip in when I could.
No. It made me feel like an idiot because I was 24, jobless (getting food stamps so pitching in with the food bill), with a college degree and would be homeless if not for my parents. My siblings were living on their own, albeit in barely-above poverty situations, with GEDs and abusive spouses. They didn't have this stigmatic shame of still living with their folks when they were adults. I shouldn't *have* to live off the generosity of family.0 -
Bump for reading after work and my opinion.0
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Situation (not my own situation):
You are doing well financially (mortgage paid off, you and your spouse have high paying/stable jobs etc.). You have 4 children that are all under the age of 10. You let your mom live in your finished basement after your dad passes away. Her only income is from the government (pension/benefits) which is around $800-1200 per month.
Would you charge her RENT?
IF ...
Yes - Then how much would you charge her ?
No - Tell us why, is it wrong ?
BE HONEST ....
tnxs.
No, but I would have fun with the "My house, my rules thing."0 -
Definitely not, I'm assuming the parent didn't charge rent to the kid while he/she was residing in the family home...
of course they weren't charged rent. When you choose to have kids you choose to raise them, and provide for them it's part of the job of being a parent.
I think my mom would rather pay rent than be considered a live in babysitter or maid lol0 -
Hell yeah, they charged me rent once I was 18. I promptly left for the military, but they charged me rent again when I moved back in for 6 months after I got out. It was minimal, but they still charged me rent.0
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The thought would never have crossed my mind. Absolutely not.0
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My parents never charged me rent, or for all the money they spent raising me and sending me to college. I guess the answer is hell no. I would not even charge for food, utilities, and stuff. Of course I wouldn't refuse if she insists on buying food or clothes for her grandchild.0
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No! I wouldn't charge them rent. It would feel so wrong to do that. My parents supported me so much and gave me so much not just as great parents, but they paid for college, my wedding, and so many other things in my life. Frankly, the money mentioned in that scenario isn't that much. I would however milk their babysitting services to the max.0 -
I wouldn't and my mother charged me rent when I was 18. Your mother is not 18 and not in need of any lessons about life responsibilities (which is why my parents charged me rent). Also, with such a great inequity in income, it would be unseemly. No, I wouldn't. In fact, if she offered I'd turn her down.0
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No I wouldn't, because under no circumstances would she live with me. That's what nursing homes are made for. :laugh:0
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I wish I could afford to take care of both of my parents. They still live in the house that I grew up in and that house was paid off long ago. It would just be nice to take care of them like they took care of us kids. They made tons of sacrafices for us when we were growing up. No way would I charge my parents rent! Plus she is paying You everytime she baby sits!0
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There is no way I would charge *my* mother rent, but not everyone was raised with a mother like mine. Based on our family's values I would only ask her to help if I couldn't cut it. It sounds like they can, but again, I'm not sure what sort of family relationship they have. My mother never charged me a dime and she bought me 1/2 of my first car, clothing, food... I can't even list all the sacrifices my mother and father made for me. No way I would be able to charge them one red cent.0
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I'd probably stock her fridge too! lol0
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No way not at all .... your parents are your responsibility at old age as you were their's when you were a kid. Even if you area not well off still I dont think they ever said you pay us for your food and rent as we dont have enough money when you were a small child so how can you????0
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No way not at all .... your parents are your responsibility at old age as you were their's when you were a kid. Even if you area not well off still I dont think they ever said you pay us for your food and rent as we dont have enough money when you were a small child so how can you????
I think if you genuinely can't afford to put food on the table or pay your bills on time, pooling your resources is a bit different. Children don't have 1200.00 incomes. That's what families do in tough situations (which I realize this isn't, but IF IT CAME DOWN TO IT...)0 -
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- You use to rent out that basement before she occupied it (but the money was just extra spending money)
- You grew up poor, but your mom did the best she could (was a housewife)
- You contributed money ever since you turned the working age (either all of pay or minimum $200 per month)
- You brought in the most money out of all of the family members (father couldn't find work)
- You were never really close to your mom but there was never any real conflict
Would these factors change anything?
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I would charge her $600/mo. AND use her for baby sitting.
I would divide the $400 equally amongst the kids in a fund for future college.
I would put the additional $200 in a fund for my Mom's future needs.
Since she was a house wife her husband probably controlled all the money and expenses. This way I would ensure that everyone is being taken care of. I don't really need the money for me, and her knowing everything I am doing is for the interest of her grandchildren and her... well, it would be like her husband probably did for years.0 -
My mom once charged me $250 a WEEK for rent, so HECK YES, I would charge her!0
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No. You said the family is in good shape financially, so they don't NEED the rent to help cover expenses. I think we have a responsibility when our parents get older to take care of them, not try to make money off of them. If the family was struggling financially, that would change my opinion. But, since they aren't I think its a douchey thing to do.1
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