wtf am I wrong?
TribeHokie
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Alright, I started writing this story out but then it was becoming epic and no one wants to read that. Basically my question is to the boys: if your gf gets seriously hit on at a bar, she shuts the guy down, but then you think he's staring you down the rest of the night, did she emasculate you or otherwise worsen the situation by not letting you step in and "handle" it?
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I would be amused at the guys attempts to hit on her.
And disregard the guy.
Because -I- don't need to prove my manhood.
Date better quality men.0 -
no, she did not emasculate you. she respected you. that guy is the one with the problem and is best ignored, then forgotten about. he was a weirdo. ur gonna run into those sometimes. such is life.0
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I would be amused at the guys attempts to hit on her.
And disregard the guy.
Because -I- don't need to prove my manhood.
Date better quality men.
What if *SHE* needs you to prove your manhood to HER?
hmmm?
No games, but ALL women are going to stand up for themselves. Period. But it would be nice to have a man stand up and say.. "Look, lay off... shes with ME!"
What is WRONG with letting a man stand up for his woman? NOTHING. Just like there is nothing wrong with a woman standing up for her man. If you see a trifling hoe up on your man, SAY SOMETHING. If she was raised right, she will back up off your man. Period. Its all about the woman code.. you dont get up on someone elses man. Period.
And what i find funny is... a man is MORE willing to do this with a stranger. Why not do this with someone you KNOW? Its like my husband wil tell off a stranger in a minute! But if its someone we KNOW, and i tell him this person has made remarks to me & its made me uncomfortable.. hes just like.. "Eh, its okay. He doesnt mean anything by it." When the guy obviously DOES! And it pisses me off! Get it together guys! TELL THE MAN THE **** OFF IF YOUR WOMAN TELLS YOU SHE ISNT COMFORTABLE. PERIOD!0 -
It IS possible to let the other guy know she's with you while at the same time completely disregarding his existence. Do that.0
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I would be amused at the guys attempts to hit on her.
And disregard the guy.
Because -I- don't need to prove my manhood.
Date better quality men.
What if *SHE* needs you to prove your manhood to HER?
hmmm?
If -she- needs me to prove my manhood to her, she likely isn't worth my time.
No games, but ALL women are going to stand up for themselves. Period. But it would be nice to have a man stand up and say.. "Look, lay off... shes with ME!"
What is WRONG with letting a man stand up for his woman? NOTHING. Just like there is nothing wrong with a woman standing up for her man. If you see a trifling hoe up on your man, SAY SOMETHING. If she was raised right, she will back up off your man. Period. Its all about the woman code.. you dont get up on someone elses man. Period.
What?And what i find funny is... a man is MORE willing to do this with a stranger. Why not do this with someone you KNOW? Its like my husband wil tell off a stranger in a minute! But if its someone we KNOW, and i tell him this person has made remarks to me & its made me uncomfortable.. hes just like.. "Eh, its okay. He doesnt mean anything by it." When the guy obviously DOES! And it pisses me off! Get it together guys! TELL THE MAN THE **** OFF IF YOUR WOMAN TELLS YOU SHE ISNT COMFORTABLE. PERIOD!
You like drama, don't you.0 -
No way. I'd only step in if she was clearly uncomfortable with shutting the guy down herself.0
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No way. I'd only step in if she was clearly uncomfortable with shutting the guy down herself.
Exactly. There is no need to cause a ruckus for no reason at all.0 -
It IS possible to let the other guy know she's with you while at the same time completely disregarding his existence. Do that.
^this is how I'm used to being handled. I mean seeing it be handled. In a gracious way that does not result in a bar brawl. I'm not sure what all that belligerent stuff above is about but IMO one bonehead's stubborn is not worth going to the mattresses for. No man has to go that far to show respect for me unless the guy is seriously out of line and then it doesn't matter friend or stranger it's gonna get handled. By him, me or both it doesn't matter one iota. Just as long as we leave together and in one piece. Where I'm from you don't go looking for trouble because it's there to be found.0 -
Ok thank you everyone for not making me feel like a crazy chick. Btw I don't need my bf to prove his manhood, I know very well what will happen if I tell him some dude touched my *kitten* at the bar. I'm just trying to avoid an incident.0
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Ok thank you everyone for not making me feel like a crazy chick. Btw I don't need my bf to prove his manhood, I know very well what will happen if I tell him some dude touched my *kitten* at the bar. I'm just trying to avoid an incident.
In this case, i would really prefer if she let me handle the situation instead of her.This is so out of line
If he is touching,he is gonna be touched back 0 -
This. End of story.I would be amused at the guys attempts to hit on her.
And disregard the guy.
Because -I- don't need to prove my manhood.
Date better quality men.0 -
I'd be proud of my girlfriend if she did that... If I were a guy.0
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lol @ taking gf to a bar. what are you, some sort of degenerate?0
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Ok thank you everyone for not making me feel like a crazy chick. Btw I don't need my bf to prove his manhood, I know very well what will happen if I tell him some dude touched my *kitten* at the bar. I'm just trying to avoid an incident.
In this case, i would really prefer if she let me handle the situation instead of her.This is so out of line If he is touching,he is gonna be touched back
But why? If she can shut it down then why would it be better for you to come in and intercede?0 -
lol @ taking gf to a bar. what are you, some sort of degenerate?
Lol you don't even know. If I weren't on my phone I'd pe posting some sort of gif right now...0 -
lol @ taking gf to a bar. what are you, some sort of degenerate?
OP is a girl.0 -
Ok thank you everyone for not making me feel like a crazy chick. Btw I don't need my bf to prove his manhood, I know very well what will happen if I tell him some dude touched my *kitten* at the bar. I'm just trying to avoid an incident.
In this case, i would really prefer if she let me handle the situation instead of her.This is so out of line If he is touching,he is gonna be touched back
But why? If she can shut it down then why would it be better for you to come in and intercede?
i won't if she punched him back and can bench press her body weight.Otherwise i am gonna wreck that dude.Yea i am immature like that0 -
What if *SHE* needs you to prove your manhood to HER?
No games
The cognitive dissonance! It... it burns...
IT BURNS! :sad:0 -
What if *SHE* needs you to prove your manhood to HER?
No games
The cognitive dissonance! It... it burns...
IT BURNS! :sad:
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Myself personally, I would not be mad. I don't need to prove anything, hell I already got the girl. You have to think to yourself she did the same thing she would have done had the bf/hubby not been there.0
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Yes, wait, I mean no.0
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If my wife gets hit-on at a bar, it's simple - she raises her hand and shows the ring.
I feel proud that she is attractive to others, and that I am her man. If he thinks staring me down is cool, he's just a douche looking for trouble. Given that people are bat-*kitten* crazy these days, I'm not risking my life or hers to make a point. You just move on and avoid the drama. A man's got to know his limitations, and being confident is handling the situation. I can laugh about at home in bed with her, because that's really the point, she's with me. Those are the kinda things to laugh about. If she wants to handle it, that's fine with me. But at the end of the day, I'm the one that makes sure she is safe, and I protect her and us. It's not worth being in a bar brawl or risking injury because some guy has eyes for your bride. Just walk away, nothing to see here.
I've seen too many people get into bad situations that could have easily been avoided.0 -
lol @ taking gf to a bar. what are you, some sort of degenerate?
You haven't read this thread properly have you.
You need to get out more.
(I would post a GIF, but cannot be bothered).0 -
I would be amused at the guys attempts to hit on her.
And disregard the guy.
Because -I- don't need to prove my manhood.
Date better quality men.
What if *SHE* needs .. your manhood ..?
hmmm?
If -she- needs me to prove my manhood to her, she likely isn't worth my time.
No games, but ALL women are going to stand up for themselves. Period. But it would be nice to have a man stand up and say.. "Look, lay off... shes with ME!"
What is WRONG with.. the woman code.. you dont get up on someone elses.. Period.
What?And what i find funny is... PERIOD!
You like drama, don't you.
I like you.0 -
I didn't know a guy was grabbing your *kitten*? I think you should mosey on over towards the bouncers with your BF. I think you should get the hell away from *kitten* Grabby and maybe just leave the place entirely. It's starting to sound lots messier than I originally thought and yeah he's gonna wanna throw down the minute you tell him so you better time it right.0
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Alright, I started writing this story out but then it was becoming epic and no one wants to read that. Basically my question is to the boys: if your gf gets seriously hit on at a bar, she shuts the guy down, but then you think he's staring you down the rest of the night, did she emasculate you or otherwise worsen the situation by not letting you step in and "handle" it?
Your man is a pu$$y0 -
Hell no! My hubby already knows whats up!!! his family and mine joke around saying i'm the guard dog in the relationship, if he feels he needs to say something i let him but he knows usually i will handle it!!!0
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see there's a difference
1.being hit on, verbal
it's an everyday situation for some women so they have to handle it and as such must show their bf this is how and what they do when the bf is not around - handle it
2. being groped non verbal while your bf is present.
which is to an alpha male is really testing his manhood .
Also depends if the other person knows your bf is there or not while they take step 1 or 2 .0 -
Alright, I started writing this story out but then it was becoming epic and no one wants to read that. Basically my question is to the boys: if your gf gets seriously hit on at a bar, she shuts the guy down, but then you think he's staring you down the rest of the night, did she emasculate you or otherwise worsen the situation by not letting you step in and "handle" it?
Lmao no, she can deal with it herself although I doubt someone would try that with me standing next to her.0 -
For goodness sake she's not an object! If someone hits on her the only way to deal with it in my book is for her to politely say she's taken and reject the guy before it gets out of hand.
She doesn't need her other half to speak for her (or worse!).
This seems like a situation where you wouldn't win, if you hadn't done anything and left it to your guy to do something he probably would have accused you of encouraging the hitter onner.0
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