Women and jealousy

ha! I'm not jelly at all...and its my unfortunate experience that its men who are always jealous...and violently so. So no, there is no hormone forgodssake!

"People who make the choice to study, work hard or do whatever they endeavor is to give it the max on themselves to reach to the top level. And you have the people who get envy and jealous, yet are not willing to put that work in, and they want to get the same praise."
~Evander Holyfield

and now I must go vomit.

I demand sympathy!

^^assumptions on motivations.

Women hate women

I love women...sometimes I wish I batted for the other team. :laugh:

There's a difference between jealousy and envy. Envy is desiring something that someone else has - it does not necessarily mean that that precise somethingneeds to change "owners". One doesn't necessarily covet something with intent to obtain that same something. For instance I can be envious of another woman's dress while being fully aware that that same dress would look fugly on me.

Jealousy, on the other hand is all about trust and (self) confidence. Jealousy is when someone thinks that someone else covets something or someone that they "own" and will take steps to "obtain" the object of their... fancy, AND (and this is the important part) when the object of their fancy will happily prance over to the other side.

Now, whenever a woman or a man is reasonably sure that their significant other is willing to replace them, then the only reason for thinking it is either that 1) the jealous person has low self esteem along the lines of "of course he/she'll go for her/him instead of me, I'm so horrible and dumb and ugly anyways" or 2) the object of jealousy has done something to undermine the trust in the relationship along the lines of "he/she has lied to me before, perhaps is lying now, too. that playa can't be trusted to go to the supermarket and not flirt with anyone remotely human-shaped".

It could also be a combination of 1 and 2 - the jealous person got cheated on by a total idiot and therefore has issues with trust and low self esteem in the new relationship even though the new person hasn't actually DONE anything.

edited to add: it could also be low self esteem combined with extreme narcissism. where the jealous person thinks everyone they date are jerks/*****es and are constantly leaving for other people. where instead what they're doing is leaving the narcissist.

So much unmitigated rage. I think this post is the least of your problems.

I think it's justified rage. but i'm not raging today because I have a tummy ache.

Usually rage is justifiable is when something has purposefully been done against you...I doubt a thread floating out on the internet should hold such a sway over emotions

if you made a racist thread, even if you didn't think you were racist, I would feel rage. even though i'm white.

your logic. I killed it. neener.

Well that is you personally. You cannot base the normal reaction of a harmless thread upon your own rage-happy nature.

Plus, to compare this thread to a racist one is quite silly. This discussion is also quite silly.

why would making sweeping, negative generalisations about people based on gender be morally better than making sweeping, negative generalisations about people based on colour?

you dismissing what I see as justified offence to an insult aimed directly at me, as a woman, as silly is also pretty insulting.

and i'm not raging. I told you, I have tummy ache.
and none of you meanies have provided any sympathy at all!

it's about social behavior in this case, not so much biochemistry: female humans are more social creatures when compared with male humans. females (typically) are all about reliance upon interaction with other other humans, whereas men (typically) are geared to be more socially independent. jealousy is an ugly, inevitable side-effect of putting multiple humans in the same jar and shaking it up. it's the same feeling in men and women--it only seems more obvious in women because women are more social to begin with.