Women and jealousy

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  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    You can't paint all women with the same brush. I do agree some are extremely jealous, but I am not one of them :smile:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    My husband loves that I don't have that 'hormone' - no internal clock ticking either. My husband is hot and has a great personality so they all flock to him. It is entertaining and we don't go out much so he works it. He actually got upset once that I didn't get jealous. Jealous of what - dude - I got what they want - they're the ones who should be jealous.
    Years ago, I dated a guy who was in law school.

    We were in a bar one evening -- I think we were going to dinner, but stopped for a drink first, I can't remember -- and it was early, so only a few people were there. Mostly, they were employees either on or off the clock, talking to each other and ignoring us. Well, my BF at the time overheard something in their conversation that caused him to pipe up with, "I'm a lawyer. I can help you with that."

    As soon as he said it, the women started fawning over him and acting like I wasn't even there. It was interesting, but it didn't make me angry. I was amused. And then he left with me and probably never saw any of them again. What would have been the point of being jealous, right? Silliness.

    But you and I apparently are mythical creatures.
  • Buddhasmiracle
    Buddhasmiracle Posts: 925 Member
    I actually think a woman's ability to be a jealous bish is directly related to how poorly she's been treated over the years of her life. If she's young and has been treated well, she's barely ever jealous; if she's old and has been treated well she's even less jealous. If, however, she's young and has been treated poorly, she's learning to envy the lives of others and if she's old and has been treated poorly for years, she's bitter and angry and hurt... and very jealous.

    So next time you wonder why someone is jealous, consider they could have been terribly hurt at one time.

    Good job, friend!

    Excellent.
  • pbrahan
    pbrahan Posts: 107 Member
    if thats the case, women just hate on each other, they have to be the most prettiest, most best dressed in the room. They just have to. and if another girl is prettier than her, most likey she wants her to die in an aweful subway accident.

    My husband described his ex this way. He said "If she perceived another woman as attractive, she felt that the woman had x-amount of beauty that she then couldn't have, as if beauty were a finite thing." It came up because I was saying things to him like "You've got to see the rack coming your way - quick - 10:00!" And he was always amazed I'd comment on other women and their beauty.

    Relationships between women grow difficult around age 12 and really don't get easier. I've been lucky to have the same wonderful BFF since 10th grade (I'm 40 now) and feel truly blessed to be at an age and place where I can see through the superficiality of most female-female interactions. Honestly, I'd just rather stay home than be around a group of catty girls.
  • nekoface
    nekoface Posts: 149 Member
    solidarity, my sisters.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
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  • pbrahan
    pbrahan Posts: 107 Member
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    I.HEART.THIS.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I.HEART.THIS.
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  • skygoddess86
    skygoddess86 Posts: 487 Member
    Hahaha! That's kind of true.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I actually think a woman's ability to be a jealous bish is directly related to how poorly she's been treated over the years of her life. If she's young and has been treated well, she's barely ever jealous; if she's old and has been treated well she's even less jealous. If, however, she's young and has been treated poorly, she's learning to envy the lives of others and if she's old and has been treated poorly for years, she's bitter and angry and hurt... and very jealous.

    So next time you wonder why someone is jealous, consider they could have been terribly hurt at one time.

    I can't agree with that..

    there are some that would say I have been horribly horribly hurt over time...

    and I don't have a jealous mistrusting bone in my body...

    I just don't.
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    I actually think a woman's ability to be a jealous bish is directly related to how poorly she's been treated over the years of her life. If she's young and has been treated well, she's barely ever jealous; if she's old and has been treated well she's even less jealous. If, however, she's young and has been treated poorly, she's learning to envy the lives of others and if she's old and has been treated poorly for years, she's bitter and angry and hurt... and very jealous.

    So next time you wonder why someone is jealous, consider they could have been terribly hurt at one time.

    I can't agree with that..

    there are some that would say I have been horribly horribly hurt over time...

    and I don't have a jealous mistrusting bone in my body...

    I just don't.

    ^^THIS. My life growing up was NOTHING but hurt and I have still managed to be the most UN-jealous person in my circle of friends. I think you have to realize that life isn't always easy, suck it up, learn from your mistakes and treat others as you want to be treated, NOT how you may have been treated in the past.
  • johnnysdurl13
    johnnysdurl13 Posts: 7
    We don't like our competition.

    We've been wired since we were young that we should aspire to be the prettiest girl in the room, always. Because that girl gets everything good. Beauty means everything. Its all we've been told our entire lives. So naturally, we get jealous of our competition, her presence knocks your worth down a few pegs.

    ^THIS!
    We are wired and brought up to compete.
    What women need to learn to do, though, is reel in that jealousy.

    Like, instead of being like "Ugh, that skinny, pretty, whatever b***h" we need to learn to stop hating.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Jealous of other women, not really. Hate people (all people in general), yes. I could be classified as a h8ter.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I get jealous enough to kill when some skank is eating a really good looking piece of chocolate cake and I have none. She deserves what's coming to her.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Anyway, I would say PEOPLE (not women) who are jealous are mainly insecure.
  • angieochoa1201
    angieochoa1201 Posts: 105
    HAHA

    Plain and simple women are judges exclusively by our looks. Men not so much...
  • Mgregory723
    Mgregory723 Posts: 529 Member
    All I can say is:

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  • LAW_714
    LAW_714 Posts: 258
    From my few years on earth and even shorter time on this forum, it's apparent that women can be jealous beings. So my question is, do women have some sort of hormone that spikes jealousy levels

    From my few years on earth and a couple of months on this forum, it's apparent that some people perpetuate sexist stereotypes or are (perhaps?) sexist themselves without possibly recognizing it.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    I get jealous enough to kill when some skank is eating a really good looking piece of chocolate cake and I have none. She deserves what's coming to her.

    :angry: that ho(e)!
  • Tigermum9
    Tigermum9 Posts: 546 Member
    The symptoms of my jealousy were 2 cheating ex's who couldnt keep it in their pants. The mans fault.
  • AprilMae1975
    AprilMae1975 Posts: 726
    I :heart: me.....no need to be jealous of anyone else.
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    Some A is B =/= All A is B. If some women being jealous and catty means that all women are, then the same logical proposition applies to men. Some men are jealous and catty, therefore all men are jealous and catty. (Some C is B therefore all C is B) Or I could be wrong and all C that are B are also A. Which means that all jealous men are actually women.

    I'm jealous of everyone who is stronger, or faster than I am (which is damn near everyone). That must explain my giant man breasts, though before today I would have credited them fully to a lifetime cake obsession.

    Fun post though. 7/10

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  • MyChange4Life
    MyChange4Life Posts: 19
    Men are just as bad! I hate being around men that are obviously trying to outdo each other for their 'dominate' spot. It may not be over looks but there is a certainly a jealously when it comes to dominance when it comes to just doing simple tasks and you'll have one guy being all overbearing to the other guy, tossing out a subtle insults at each other, etc.
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    I think hormones and jealousy are much more strongly linked than has been discussed in this thread. Women tend to battle more hormonal ups and downs than men - PMS and pregnancy are woman-specific, and women are more prone to mental disorders (depression is twice as common in women than in men). When a woman's hormones get off-balance, her view of herself can become skewed and insecurity can dominate. Why women are insecure about appearance specifically has already been discussed, but women are jealous and catty about a lot more than looks - general behavior, job performance, child rearing, wealth, etc.

    Women have evolved to be competitive - winning the competition meant procreating, securing a provider of food, protection, and assistance with raising a child. If a woman feels her victory is threatened or that she can't win the competition, she becomes insecure and even fearful. Hormones can create perceived threats by making a woman feel like she's less than she is, and thus jealousy arises. I'd guess that hormonal balance/imbalance is why some women in this thread say they don't struggle with jealousy at all and others say they have a terrible time with it.
  • Mbishop7684
    Mbishop7684 Posts: 171 Member
    For me- I look at women that have something I desire and wonder how I can get that! Like muscular toned thighs, or a flat tummy in a bikini, or non-jiggly arms. I don't necessarily get jealous, but I do envy that they have desirable attributes that I lack.

    My reaction can come off as cattiness if a hot *kitten* girl is wearing something incredibly inappropriate in a situation. Then I wonder, seriously? You needed to flaunt all your stuff in that skimpy little outfit to show everyone you are hot when you could have done it just as well by choosing a classier well fitting outfit? Less does not ALWAYS equal more chick.

    **edited for grammer
  • beepermad
    beepermad Posts: 198
    This thread is dumb.
  • Mbishop7684
    Mbishop7684 Posts: 171 Member
    Some A is B =/= All A is B. If some women being jealous and catty means that all women are, then the same logical proposition applies to men. Some men are jealous and catty, therefore all men are jealous and catty. (Some C is B therefore all C is B) Or I could be wrong and all C that are B are also A. Which means that all jealous men are actually women.

    I'm jealous of everyone who is stronger, or faster than I am (which is damn near everyone). That must explain my giant man breasts, though before today I would have credited them fully to a lifetime cake obsession.

    Fun post though. 7/10

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    I LOVE this post!
  • pbrahan
    pbrahan Posts: 107 Member
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  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    you realize you will never understand women, right? :huh:
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    I am not jealous of other women that look better than me, but I am 40 years old now so that makes a lot of difference. I am pretty confident person and happy. I see a woman with a hot body, I stare because she is gorgeous - right along with my husband too. Usually he will say something like "I can't believe she is wearing something like that" - when he actually thinking "man I would like to tap that..."
    Yeah, I know what they are really thinking. It is their structure. Pigs. But really, you can't help but stare at a woman with a perfect bikini body and I am at the pool every day so I see many.

    I am very envious of other women and their careers, clothes, accessories and jewelry and week long vacations.

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