Women and jealousy
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Lol not sure about a particular hormone and haven't read the rest of the thread but I think it's a primal instinct thing. We tend to compete with each other for the man that can protect and provide for us and our children the best. That's really what it comes down to.0
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This thread was meant mainly as a joke. Oh lawd what have I done.
You are young. LOL!0 -
This thread makes me glad I'm a lesbian. If I were straight, and after reading this, I would be scared that some hussy would come along and target me because of my non competitive nature, then steal my husband and eat my children.0
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This thread is dumb.
Among other things.0 -
I think it depends on the woman, I know women that get along with everyone female and I know women who are total haters. I think it depends on what they look like too, more beautiful women are accustomed to attention often and when someone else is getting more you get a hater. I dunno, just my opinion.0
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DYEL0
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You needi would really, really like
Ooh you missed it. that's okay. :laugh:
i'd "really, really like" some salmon for dinner tonight too. but i don't need it. if i don't get it, i'll be fine. i don't fall apart if i don't get what i WANT.0 -
I am glad that, as a man, I can admire another guy who looks better or has more than me rather than being jealous or envious.0
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DYEL
lmao..the real question is, do YOU?0 -
I am glad that, as a man, I can admire another guy who looks better or has more than me rather than being jealous or envious.
True that0 -
See thats why I don't keep too much females around. They tend to get jealous for the pettiest thing.0
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From my few years on earth and even shorter time on this forum, it's apparent that women can be jealous beings. So my question is, do women have some sort of hormone that spikes jealousy levels? Not saying men don't get jealous too, but as a man I've never looked at someone much more attractive or more built than me and actually envied him. I may aspire to be better, but I can't grasp the concept beyond that.
So, do you ladies have this hormone, and what is it called?
I DUNNO BRAH, MY WIFE GETS ALL JEALOUS WHEN i SNIFF THE SEATS OF OTHER WOMEN AT THE GYM WHEN THEY'RE DONE. WOMEN BE CRAZY BRAH.0 -
We don't all have it. I try to use that energy towards something positive, like working on becoming a better version of myself. Isn't that ultimately why we are all here?0
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From my few years on earth and even shorter time on this forum, it's apparent that women can be jealous beings. So my question is, do women have some sort of hormone that spikes jealousy levels? Not saying men don't get jealous too, but as a man I've never looked at someone much more attractive or more built than me and actually envied him. I may aspire to be better, but I can't grasp the concept beyond that.
So, do you ladies have this hormone, and what is it called?
I DUNNO BRAH, MY WIFE GETS ALL JEALOUS WHEN i SNIFF THE SEATS OF OTHER WOMEN AT THE GYM WHEN THEY'RE DONE. WOMEN BE CRAZY BRAH.
Brah you be all hyped up, that's what happens with all that tren-ning and clen eating. And t3-ing.0 -
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Unlike what others have said, I don't feel the need to be the prettiest in the room. In fact, I accept the fact that "pretty" is a very diverse term meaning different things to different people. Everyone is bias towards their personal preferences.
Instead, if I see a specific aspect (such as muscle build) in a girl that I think looks good, I use that as motivation and strive towards that as a new goal.
I think it's generalized as a female characteristic to be catty and jealous all the time, but it's not all women and not limited to women. I think it more has to do with personality types than anything. If you easily feel inferior to others and have an Alpha complex, you're more likely to get the "catty" "jealousy" feelings. It's not a good/bad thing to get these feelings either, it's just something that is. It's only bad when you begin to act in an indecent way towards others based on the feelings. Keep that in mind, folks!
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Because men make us feel we are not pretty enough. Society says we have to look a certain way. Our husbands and boyfriends have been wired to think it is ok to eyeball/fantasize about every attractive woman he meets. Becuase Porn is now main stream. Because every celebrity has a sex tape/bikkini picture. Becuase everywhere you go it is forced upon women and pressured into us to be look act a certain way.
Its hard out here for a pimpet, we have to be skinny, young, a porn star, a maid, a mother, and do all this while looking cute and never having a rotten attitude........
We never feel good enough/pretty enough so when we see another woman who is prettier or seems tohave more than we do it seems as though she has it so easy.....
It is a lot of things, also it comes with immaturity.
And yes I get jealous. No one is perfect.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt0 -
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A lot of people are relating jealousy/envy too insecurity. Am I the only one who's incredibly insecure and never felt jealousy or envy? I agree with a previous poster who related it to a competitive nature. I was never able to understand competition, so maybe that's why? I always have good thoughts about everyone until they do something I don't like, like be mean to me or others.
I've actually never witnessed this behavior either. The posters here make it seem like a common thing. Maybe I hang around an odd bunch, but I don't think this is very common. I think another previous poster was right when she said that people automatically assume women are jealous of each other if they don't like each other. Unless the "jealous" one actually comes out and admits it, how can you tell? There could be tons of reasons why women don't get along, just like there are with men.
you are not the only one, i don't hate on other people because i have always been insecure, i can't say i am a jealous person i have said in previous comments that i worried about my husband finding someone better but it wasn't because i was jealous of certain people it's because i didn't feel i was good enough for him in my own mind. I try to be a good person to everyone and compliment people men/women when they look nice. I have even went as far as to ask some women who are more ripped about how they did it and for advice to help me get to where i want to be. I don't want anything that anyone else has and don't aspire to be like anyone else. I may not love my body but i love my personality but i do have experience on a regular basis with people that say bad things about people they don't know----it could be jealousy or something else but that is a reflection on them and not me.0 -
I don't get jealous of someone else I look at them and wonder how can I improve upon myself.:bigsmile:0
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I know it is time to loose weight when woman are jelaous of my breast :-)0
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It's just the way we're made. So what?!! Lol That what makes us special
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I'm sorry...what?
I was too busy oogling OP's picture...
Anyway....everyone gets jealous time to time. There are a million reasons why women are jealous of other women...insecurities, pressure, etc.
I don't tend to get jealous over how other women look, to be honest...cuz I think women are beautiful and hot. But there are other things that can make me jelly, that's for sure. Everyone has them....everyone's personality is different.0 -
True but we dont live in the same era as a Roosevelt
Eleanor would roll over in her grave if she saw the state of the world today.
I feel bad for the young women growing up today to be constantly bombarded with the shallow messages the media sends out to women.... poor girls...... thank god i am old lol
Right. Because there were no societal pressures on women in the 1940s, '50s, '60s or '70s.
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It's not what women HAVE.. its what they DONT have..
Its called maturity. some get it sooner than others. Some never get it.
Those that have this "cattiness / jealousy" thing between other women plain & simple just havent gotten it yet!
Wow, this is one of the wisest comment I have read. Right on the nail. People can still get jealous but with maturity, some people just handle the situation better.0 -
Because men make us feel we are not pretty enough. Society says we have to look a certain way. Our husbands and boyfriends have been wired to think it is ok to eyeball/fantasize about every attractive woman he meets. Becuase Porn is now main stream. Because every celebrity has a sex tape/bikkini picture. Becuase everywhere you go it is forced upon women and pressured into us to be look act a certain way.
Its hard out here for a pimpet, we have to be skinny, young, a porn star, a maid, a mother, and do all this while looking cute and never having a rotten attitude........
We never feel good enough/pretty enough so when we see another woman who is prettier or seems tohave more than we do it seems as though she has it so easy.....
It is a lot of things, also it comes with immaturity.
And yes I get jealous. No one is perfect.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
True but we dont live in the same era as a Roosevelt
Eleanor would roll over in her grave if she saw the state of the world today.
I feel bad for the young women growing up today to be constantly bombarded with the shallow messages the media sends out to women.... poor girls...... thank god i am old lol
It is an ageless quote and means just as much today as it did then. This type of attitude is EXACTLY what Eleanor was trying to diminish with that statement. Girls today need empowered women to look up to. I don't allow others (men/media/other women) to make me feel "not pretty enough" because "society" says that is how I am supposed to feel. We have control over our own feelings, so it holds true today that NO ONE can make us feel inferior unless we allow it. I don't see how it is not ageless....
I work with inner city girls to help empower them and serve as a good example of what a positive mental attitude can do. If you use the excuse that "it's the media and blah blah blah" then you are allowing someone else to influence the way you see yourself. Just by saying that you are allowing others to dictate how you see yourself. That must be a sad life full of doubt and feeling "not good enough"
DAMN THE MAN! SAVE THE EMPIRE (the geeks out there will get this)0 -
True but we dont live in the same era as a Roosevelt
Eleanor would roll over in her grave if she saw the state of the world today.
I feel bad for the young women growing up today to be constantly bombarded with the shallow messages the media sends out to women.... poor girls...... thank god i am old lol
Right. Because there were no societal pressures on women in the 1940s, '50s, '60s or '70s.
Right ...
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I actually think a woman's ability to be a jealous bish is directly related to how poorly she's been treated over the years of her life. If she's young and has been treated well, she's barely ever jealous; if she's old and has been treated well she's even less jealous. If, however, she's young and has been treated poorly, she's learning to envy the lives of others and if she's old and has been treated poorly for years, she's bitter and angry and hurt... and very jealous.
So next time you wonder why someone is jealous, consider they could have been terribly hurt at one time.
I think this made a lot of sense! I havent thought of it that way before, but I do agree!0 -
In that they are total opposites?Empathy and jealousy are two sides of the same coin, imho.
No. Empathy/jealousy, Sympathy/shame, Love/disdain, and Pride/embarrassment are all emotions of self-awareness and awareness of others, even though one is positive and the other is negative. The capacity to feel all of these is likely related to how self-aware an individual is by default or chooses to be. Choosing the positive one in each pair over the negative counterpart has to do with the way the person views their environment.
In general, women are set up to be able to have higher levels of empathy. So, it stands to reason that having the capability for empathy comes along with that for jealousy. It's just the situation that triggers the emotion and the way the person views that particular situation, which differs and determines whether the positive emotion or the negative one is expressed. Additionally, the increased feeling that others are a presence likely explains why women are often more social, more talkative, and able to bond more readily than men (romantic love, feelings for children, etc.)
My guess is that if you could get a chronically very jealous woman to undergo cognitive behavioral therapy to truly reframe the way she looks at things, you'll end up with an extremely empathic, caring woman in the end.0 -
I can get on board with that.
In that they are total opposites?Empathy and jealousy are two sides of the same coin, imho.
No. Empathy/jealousy, Sympathy/shame, Love/disdain, and Pride/embarrassment are all emotions of self-awareness and awareness of others, even though one is positive and the other is negative. The capacity to feel all of these is likely related to how self-aware an individual is by default or chooses to be. Choosing the positive one in each pair over the negative counterpart has to do with the way the person views their environment.
In general, women are set up to be able to have higher levels of empathy. So, it stands to reason that having the capability for empathy comes along with that for jealousy. It's just the situation that triggers the emotion and the way the person views that particular situation, which differs and determines whether the positive emotion or the negative one is expressed. Additionally, the increased feeling that others are a presence likely explains why women are often more social, more talkative, and able to bond more readily than men (romantic love, feelings for children, etc.)
My guess is that if you could get a chronically very jealous woman to undergo cognitive behavioral therapy to truly reframe the way she looks at things, you'll end up with an extremely empathic, caring woman in the end.
I've just never been a jealous person, but I am highly empathetic and becoming more so as I get older.
But I've always had a pretty good amount of self-esteem (from achievements and abilities NOT from people just telling me I'm "special.")0
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