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  • SlimJanette
    SlimJanette Posts: 597 Member
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    Always, always make sure your boyfriend does NOT attend the wedding or follow you on your honeymoon. Ruins the moment.

    ^^LMAO
  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
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    I've been married for 44 years.....

    So in thinking on this subject there are a couple of things that come to mind

    - be affectionate it is not just about sex (which should be often), it is about how you feel about each other, it reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place. Hold hands, sit together on the couch, touch in passing, look into each others eyes when your talking, hug and hold each other for no other reason then you passed each other in the kitchen, etc.

    - be very careful about how you argue. Words can never be taken back. Respect each others opinion, and remember you are NOT each others enemy, you just have a difference of opinion.

    - never give up on your marriage. even if it seems like a problem can not be fixed, or that you are not getting along anymore, talk talk TALK! Do not give up on your marriage. I can think of 3 times in the last 44 years when I really thought this was it, my marriage was over.... but we are both so stubborn we could not walk away from it. We worked thought the problems and came out stronger and more in love each and every time. I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I had given in and divorced, when now we are stronger, very much still in love with each other, and happy we worked to stay together.
  • IronMikeFox
    IronMikeFox Posts: 458
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    Hot sex. Every.Single.Day.

    If I weren't already married, I would ask you to marry me! Instead, could I ask you to talk to my wife? LOL
  • tm82001
    tm82001 Posts: 133 Member
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    I married my high school sweetheart and we have been together since we were 16 and 18. After 28 years together (married almost 22), the best advice I can give is: 1) be willing to compromise and 2) don't sweat the small stuff. Marriages are like roller coasters, filled with many turns, twists, and sudden drops and too many people just give up to soon. There is no perfect marriage....you must work at it daily. Patience, respect, and kindness go along way.
  • danofthedead1979
    danofthedead1979 Posts: 362 Member
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    Umm remember like life, your marriage is a journey, just cos your married, doesn't mean you've made it, there's still a lot of growing and learning to do.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
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    Always, always make sure your boyfriend does NOT attend the wedding or follow you on your honeymoon. Ruins the moment.

    This goes for all of the boyfriends. Not only does it ruin the wedding, but then they all know about each other. It's a mess.

    Same goes for all the girlfriends.
  • jlapey
    jlapey Posts: 1,850 Member
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    Love each other, want each other, but don't NEED each other.
  • Event_Horizon975
    Event_Horizon975 Posts: 226 Member
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    Marry your best friend & in all things - communicate
  • blah2989
    blah2989 Posts: 338 Member
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    Okay we arent married yet,(engaged) and have been together almost 5 years and have a 2&3 yr old. So 1) Dedication/ commitment- suporting eachbother being their for eachother in good times and bad. 2) Communication ( not talking at; learning how to communicate and talking things out- ( harder than it sounds) 3) SEX. Have sex. Even if uou have to schedule it, SERIOUSLY. LISTEN to what YOUR partner wants. Dont go elsewhere to have your needs met. Seriously, affairs and porn are two of the biggest reasons marriages do not last. If you have to watch porn, limit it to once or twice a week. If you cant stay loyal/faithful its better to not get married at all. Dont get me wrong, Ive known ppl that have had open marriages, but the key word is HAD. It didnt last. Ive never known one that has. 4) Friends. Have good friends that support you and wont encourage you to "violate" your marriage - including emotional affairs. 5) Love/happiness/ friendship all go together. Like another poster said marry your best friend. 6) Give and take. If one of you stays at home and the other works, give each other time to unwind. Give hubby an hour to relax, then have him watch the kids while you take time for yourself. Split chores or help out around the house. If you both work, split chores and such 50/50. Pick up after yourself always. 7) appreciation and time for each other. Make date nights, do little special things for each other. Bring her home a single red rose in a small vase. Write him a note in his lunch box. Make time andvgo out without the kids. Be passionate and do things you both enjoy. 8) FINANCES* Be on the same page with your finances. Dont spend wrecklessly, pay your bills first. - also leading cause of divorce... Good luck. Stay happily married!
  • judyde
    judyde Posts: 401 Member
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    separate bathrooms...

    YES!! Great idea!!
  • blah2989
    blah2989 Posts: 338 Member
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    I've been married for 44 years.....

    So in thinking on this subject there are a couple of things that come to mind

    - be affectionate it is not just about sex (which should be often), it is about how you feel about each other, it reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place. Hold hands, sit together on the couch, touch in passing, look into each others eyes when your talking, hug and hold each other for no other reason then you passed each other in the kitchen, etc.

    - be very careful about how you argue. Words can never be taken back. Respect each others opinion, and remember you are NOT each others enemy, you just have a difference of opinion.

    - never give up on your marriage. even if it seems like a problem can not be fixed, or that you are not getting along anymore, talk talk TALK! Do not give up on your marriage. I can think of 3 times in the last 44 years when I really thought this was it, my marriage was over.... but we are both so stubborn we could not walk away from it. We worked thought the problems and came out stronger and more in love each and every time. I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I had given in and divorced, when now we are stronger, very much still in love with each other, and happy we worked to stay together.


    This is excellent advice!!!! And SOOOOO true.!
  • sdbart
    sdbart Posts: 189 Member
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    Don't do it!!!!
  • pchesnut
    pchesnut Posts: 347 Member
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    The funniest marriage advice we were given was "If you have to argue then be naked during the argument"
    Funny yes----realistic.....not so much
  • TheEffort
    TheEffort Posts: 1,028 Member
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    Don't try to change your spouse...stop believing in fairy tales. Make sure it's because of love and not loneliness.

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  • sukiwabi
    sukiwabi Posts: 221 Member
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    remember to live your own life (don't make them responsible for your own happiness) while still checking in with your partner

    keep it hot, but remember that there will always be some natural periods of wax and wane to a certain degree

    learn how to really hear what they're saying - have an open heart

    be unafraid of change

    eta: pick your battles! that right there is the best advice anyone ever gave me!
  • darkguardian419
    darkguardian419 Posts: 1,302 Member
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    2 years in prison and out on good behavior is cheaper than a divorce with alimony...
  • LabAgility
    LabAgility Posts: 120 Member
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    The key to a long marriage is a short memory.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    2 years in prison and out on good behavior is cheaper than a divorce with alimony...

    I totally got screwed in my divorce. WHERE'S MY ALIMONY, YO???
  • chatipati1
    chatipati1 Posts: 211 Member
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    I repeat....stash money away ;)
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
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    Keep your fights clean and your sex dirty.

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