"Don't lose any more weight!"

i think they are jealous of you,, some people want u to lose weight even if u are skinny to look ugly and unhealthy,, and some people even if u are fat or overweight and want u to gain weight,, to look ugly and unhealthy,,

just listen to the right and positive people and ask some advice to the professional nurse,doctor,personal instructor or nutritionist.



hope this helps,,

and also they hate u because of that lol

I've heard this and its close relative "Wow, you dropped a ton!" I've never fluctuated more than 20 pounds at a time, so I don't consider that a "ton". Makes me wonder if I really looked huge before and never realized it.

Exactly. I think that's what makes it awkward. I'm like, was I really that big before?

while I never heard those exact type of words from my mother, when I was going thru old clothes left at my parnets house when I returned from deployment and had moved into my own home some years ago, she did make the comment to me of "maybe you should throw/give away all your bigger clothes, you may need them again". Way to go with the "support" mom.

I think a lot of like another poster said it is perspectives. People have seen you when you are overweight for a long time and if you drop a fair amount you do look different. They aren't used to seeing the you their used to! At least they care enough to notice! I think people are being a bit too sensitive, people say things, and they always don't mean the worst. My Mom thought I was starving myself too. I think that is a Mom just being a Mom Much better then telling you " Son you are getting too fat, you need to do something"

I hear this alllllll the time

People say this to me all the time and I can honestly say it has never been out of concern. I've decided on a few reasons why....

1. This is their way of complementing you. They are actually really impressed with your weight loss and want you to know that you look fantastic just the way you are.

2. You're a lot smaller/skinner than you think. At 5'7 and 155 pounds, I still could lose a few pounds. However, when I looked at a photo of myself the other day I was so tall and skinny, it startled me. So I could understand why telling someone I want to lose an additional 10 pounds would be like..."whyyyyy?"

3. It's their way of acknowledging your weight loss. Believe it or not, talking about weight is very awkward for people. They want to give you praise for it, but sometimes just don't know how.

4. I usually get this compliment when I tell people how much I lost. Which makes me believe they don't understand how much 1 pound of fat looks like. When I say 101 pounds, some people could imagine a 101 pound child. That's a lot of weight and I understand when people say "you don't need to lose anymore." It's hard to comprehend. lol

I think you're reading too much into it. I usually smile and appreciate the fact that someone notices my hard work.

You said what I thought, only probably better than I would have done.

I actaully like hearing that people think I'm slim. It makes me feel better and helps keep me motivated to stay that way!

Ditto!!! Well said.

Oh thank goodness it's not just me that gets told this!
I think, in my case, its because I have been overweight since I was 10 years old, and have always been 'the fat girl'. I am now realising that being the fat girl actually defined my place in several friendships (of various descriptions) since then.
One girl I have known since I was a teenager, shes about 4 years younger than me, now refuses to hug me, and when her husband (who I have no intention of stealing!!) complimented me on my weight loss, well, if looks could kill! She has avoided me since this, and acts like I have lost my weight to hack her off personally.
Marvellous.
My Mum is keeping what she refers to as a 'weather eye' on me, and I am trying to sit at 12st. I put two pounds on on holiday - and it was an active working holiday so I blame the puddings! - and have worked hard to lose those two pounds though it took 3 weeks. I know me, and ignoring two pounds here and a pound there is going to see me heading back to the 16 stone I was this time last year if I don't watch myself.
Anyway, most people are kind and say encouraging things, especially if they haven't seen me for a while - though I am scaring the heck out of others who don't recognise me!
I do get asked what plan I followed, and when I say I have done it myself, some tell me I couldn't possibly, it must be with Weight Watchers or Slimming World or Lighter Life, none of which were options for me as a weekly public weigh in would put me off completely and I can't afford the latter.
For the record, I would like to lose another 7lbs, to get me to 11.7st, and at 5' 11" I think that would look okay, but its tummy fat I need to shift and thats a buggar! Any tips?!

I solved this problem by primarily hanging out with people who are skinnier than I am. They never say "don't lose weight" to me.

Oh yes, definitely got that comment in the past. My best friend said it numerous times during my weight loss even before I was at my goal. I started in the low 180s and my goal initially was 140. When I was at 155 or so she said I should stop. Thing is, someone I've known for 11+ years and they've only seen me overweight would say something like that. I can totally relate to her and other peoples' opinion if they've known a person for many years being heavy and suddenly they're losing and they look quite different. I got down to 125 at my lowest but I think it was due to eating very little and not really having the muscle bulk I needed. I'm now sitting at 135-ish, wanting to go back to 130 if possible but no biggie if I can't--I earned this and feel great and am looking to maintain it.

In the end just do what's right and healthy for you and don't let others influence you. I can say, I would have been unhappy had I listened to my friend and stayed in the 150s. I knew I would have done a "half *kitten*" job had I stopped there. If it's close friends and family saying "you're too skinny" chances are it's mostly because they aren't used to seeing you smaller than you were originally.

I get a lot of those as well. Specially from people who are used to seeing me on the chubby side. Others thought that I got ill, others thought I went into a drug regimen. But at the end of the day, all of them does not know how good it feels deep inside if you have reached you goal!

I've gotten that as well from a few people lately. One of them, of course, is my mother. I find it annoying, but also can understand that there may be a small amount of underlying jealousy. I've decided to just nod and smile, but ultimately, like another poster said -- "my body, my rules." I do have a goal weight and I hope to get there in the next couple of months. And frankly, it's nobody's business but my own.

"Of course they were all shocked when I told them I eat 2000 calories a day including bagels and Poptarts. Then I got the comment about how I must have a fast metabolism, like they've all forgotten that I was exactly where they are 8 months ago."

Very good observation! I've delt with the criticism of losing too much weight as well. The truth is, people have forgotten what slim and fit looks like in this day and age of the obesity epidemic. I too have been accused of being anorexic, and it was very hurtful, because I actually wondered if I was. TWISTED! :noway:

Why do people think its okay to say this? People would never have turned and said to me "please don't gain any more weight" but the number of friends, family members and patients that say "please dont lose any more weight" to me is astonishing! I'm not even skinny!! I'm a nice healthy 142-145 at 5'4 and at the top end of a 'healthy BMI'. I dunno.....it just annoys me! Anybody else encountering this or criticisms for losing?!

Yep! I have 19 pounds to hit my goal and I'm getting this. Some people have even said it to me with a worried look LOL!!!! I am NO WHERE near skinny or frail looking, oh my word. It's ridiculous. I don't even get upset, I just laugh because it is SO RIDICULOUS. I'm currently fluctuating between 149-151 and my goal weight is 130. I'm pretty thick and solid, and I still will be nice and solid at my goal weight. 130 in right in the middle of the BMI for my height (5'6) so I actually could go even lower and be ok.

I was called a "beanpole" the other day and was told I'm too skinny.

Made me smile and didn't offend me at all.
I like how I look now and know what it took to get here, and never in my life have I been called a benapole!

Hopefully I'll never again be referred to as the "big girl".

Guess I'm a glass half full person...