Do older guys care less about looks and weight?
BlueOrchidMoon77
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Just want some opinions...In general, do you think men care less about what women look like and what their weight is as they get older? I like this guy SO much and I think he likes me...I'm pretty sure of it. He's divorced and she was crazy, but was also like a size 2. I'm very insecure about my weight so that's why I have such a hard time believing he could like me. Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me. Would an older guy, say 50ish care so much about looks or is he into personality more?
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she was crazy,
Like all women.0 -
I think it is so dependent on the guy honestly.
A guy is still a guy and will have preferences no matter his age.0 -
It's okay to be a little crazy, like fun crazy. But you just don't understand the level of crazy she is.0
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I'm a 52 yo woman. My experience is men are boys, oops, I mean men are men at any age. Some care about looks more than others, some care about weight more than others. Some would find a size 2 as replusive as others would find a size 22. It's a big world. Lot's of different likes and dislikes out there.0
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As always, it depends on the man.0
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Every man has standards.
Some are lower than others.
Some are.... much. Lower.0 -
A man who got out of a crazy (as in institutional crazy, not fun crazy) relationship would be thankful just to get a normal woman. My two cents.0
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A guy is still a guy and will have preferences no matter his age.
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Just want some opinions...In general, do you think men care less about what women look like and what their weight is as they get older? I like this guy SO much and I think he likes me...I'm pretty sure of it. He's divorced and she was crazy, but was also like a size 2. I'm very insecure about my weight so that's why I have such a hard time believing he could like me. Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me. Would an older guy, say 50ish care so much about looks or is he into personality more?
Make a move and find out. That's the only way to get a REAL answer to your question.0 -
Speaking as an older gentleman...
I'm not an older gentleman.0 -
I would say that a little extra weight trumps crazy any day. Go for it.0
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Guys always care about looks and weight - however, you have to temper your expectations with what you bring to the table (looks, weight, and yes, money).0
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Do older guys care less about looks and weight?
Married, no.
Single, yes.
Married but looking, yes.0 -
It's okay to be a little crazy, like fun crazy. But you just don't understand the level of crazy she is.
He knew what she was like but still chose to marry her....what's that got to do with anything anyway?!0 -
Everyone has their preference regardless of age0
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Just want some opinions...In general, do you think men care less about what women look like and what their weight is as they get older?
As a man (or woman) gets older their options are more limited, so it's generally either be more flexible or be single. Pretty sure this isn't news to anyone who isn't delusional.Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me.
I'm an introverted guy, so I can relate. You may have to make the first move, and make it fairly obvious. You may think you're being clear with non-verbal queues and he may miss the signal entirely. I recommend asking him out for coffee.Would an older guy, say 50ish care so much about looks or is he into personality more?
Personality can overcome quite a bit, as long as said personality is actual positive traits, such as friendliness, empathy, intelligence, and charm, and not the abrasive bombastic behavior so many people often refer to as personality in themselves. Not implying this is you, just mentioning it.
Give it a shot. Hope it works out!0 -
Men like confident women. You sound like you need to work on that.0
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Plus, he's the shy type so I don't see him ever making a move...it's gonna have to be me.
If he knows you're interested and he doesn't make a move, it's not because he's shy. You'd be surprised what a shy man can summon himself to do when motivated.0 -
Just go for it! Weight comes off. Crazy doesn't. And if he prefers the latter, maybe you are better off.0
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lol Standards drop with age. Proportionally to how far we let ourselves slide out of womens standards.0
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It's been my experience that it doesn't matter what age a man is. My boyfriend and husband both dated skinny women before me...and I am FAR from skinny. I've had to work to overcome that "he couldn't possibly like me when he's used to skinny chicks" mentality.
Go for it and see what his reaction is. The worst that could happen is that he could say no. I'm betting it would be his loss. Life is too short to be afraid of the slight possibility of rejection. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And I'm going to stop before I start spouting more cliches...I wish you the best of luck!0 -
a guy thinks about sex every 7 seconds...that stat doesnt change with age. we care about looks whether we are 18, 69 or 95.0
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It's okay to be a little crazy, like fun crazy. But you just don't understand the level of crazy she is.
He knew what she was like but still chose to marry her....what's that got to do with anything anyway?!
She could have turned pyscho right after they got married0 -
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.0
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If you love yourself they will love you.
Truth one: love yourself
Truth two: Stop caring what you think he thinks
Truth three: If he is not attracted to you, he will not call you
Truth four: If he's calling he's attracted
Truth five: Older men are more realistic and look more to the entire package, although looks are still important. (seriously women are the same... would YOU date a guy you didn't find attractive???)
Truth five: I once asked a guy (who I dated for 4 years) why he approached me rather then the other skinnier "hotter" women in the bar that first day. He said it was because I was smiling and having fun and they weren't. (I was fat then)0 -
I'm a 52 year-old happily married woman who has struggled with weight all my life. I have had more men flirt with me in the past 5 years than in all the preceding years together. (excepting my husband of course)
As for the reasons, I couldn't say, except that perhaps it is because I'm more comfortable in my own skin than I ever was when I was young. Even though I'm not thin, I do try to take care of myself, and am often told that I don't look my age.0 -
Every man has standards.
Some are lower than others.
Some are.... much. Lower.
So, clearing up, because this confused me. And the only way for me to know is to ask. There is no flaming involved in the inquiry.
Are you saying that a man who prefers a woman who is overweight and/or obese have much lower standards than, say, a guy who prefers a woman who is at a "society acceptable" weight?
Once again, only asking as to clear up, no attack or flaming of this poster in any way. Just asking to ask 'cuz I'm nosy like that1 -
Depends on the guy. Age does not always bring wisdom, but when my first (hot) wife dumped me, I did find looks mattered a little less to me. I also learned to appreciate a wider variety of body types. I don't know if I always would have seen past my current wife's physical imperfections if I had met her sooner, but to me she's the most beautiful woman around.0
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Are you kidding? Old men think they're gods and they love thin and very young women. No, all men hate fat. Oh, I'm sure they are exceptions. But honey, I'll be 70 in a few months and I know a little about men. They think they can look pretty much any way and get any woman they want --- especially if they have a buck or two. But they want young chicks and skinny chicks. Truth be told, most of them are lucky to get a woman at all.0
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Who says she is crazy... you or him?
Ever heard her side of the story?
I always laugh when women date guys who have such a "crazy ex wife"
then four months later they break up because the guy was "such an *kitten*"
hmmm... who is the crazy one now. Just sayin'0
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