Skinny/Fit people trying to have Fat people problems

For instance: one guy on here, who is really fit, 6 pack and all, is asking if he should run shirtless or not.

I'm fat I would never think of running shirtless.

So, why make fat people feel bad when you question your six pack body to go on a shirtless run?

Something to consider. Peoples insecurities are their own.
I'm sure Mr. Six pack meant no disrespect.

Just because you think Mr. six pack is in great shape and could get away with running shirtless, doesn't mean Mr. six pack sees it that way.

Hi. I'm Mr. Six pack from the other thread you are talking about. Until the last couple of years I have always been in the extremely overweight/obese category. I apologize for making you feel bad or what you would consider fat shaming. This was nowhere close to the purpose of the thread. My body is relatively new to me and I'm still trying to find my bearings with it after all the hard work I put in. Until recently I was shy to even take my shirt off at the beach or a pool. This is all new to me and I thought my question was valid as to what is acceptable and not douchy to do. You will have to excuse me while I learn.

Wait, wait, wait... you weren't born looking like Adonis?You mean you are just like us mere mortals with our body consciousness?

PS don't worry about your shirt, not because you're hot but because you have a body, everyone has one. They aren't something to feel shame over. I guess if you were running in a crowded city location, having a shirt on might be helpful if you wanted to like, go in a store or something -- but otherwise, would not wear one.

The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
Most people have insecurities about their bodies.

Personally I would not be caught shirtless in public...I have body hair, you know. And I don't want to shave it.

I see where you're coming from, yet confidence doesn't always come with being 'fit' or having a six pack.
Just because you think he looks really good, doesn't mean he thinks he does.

it is possible he is fishing
fishing for compliments
fishing for:glasses: Recognition for well kept body? :glasses:

Quite possibly not. That's a cynical way to look at things.

For instance: one guy on here, who is really fit, 6 pack and all, is asking if he should run shirtless or not.

I'm fat I would never think of running shirtless.

So, why make fat people feel bad when you question your six pack body to go on a shirtless run?

Something to consider. Peoples insecurities are their own.
I'm sure Mr. Six pack meant no disrespect.

Just because you think Mr. six pack is in great shape and could get away with running shirtless, doesn't mean Mr. six pack sees it that way.

Hi. I'm Mr. Six pack from the other thread you are talking about. Until the last couple of years I have always been in the extremely overweight/obese category. I apologize for making you feel bad or what you would consider fat shaming. This was nowhere close to the purpose of the thread. My body is relatively new to me and I'm still trying to find my bearings with it after all the hard work I put in. Until recently I was shy to even take my shirt off at the beach or a pool. This is all new to me and I thought my question was valid as to what is acceptable and not douchy to do. You will have to excuse me while I learn.

I recall that thread and also wondering how it could possibly be that Mr Sixpack was actually serious in his question. I mean just look at his pic! How could someone not see that they look absolutely incredible? I learned from that, that when I reach goal, I promise myself to own it to the best of my ability. Cheers to Mr. Sixpack and the OP, that you too shall own what you worked hard for :drinker: :flowerforyou:

Being skinny does not equal being confident.

This may be true, but skinny people can tie their shoes and wipe their *kitten* easier than a fat person. That's nothing to do with confidence, it's just how it is. Those are fat people problems.

That may be true but that's not what the OP was referring to, if he had said it like that then it may have ended up a different discussion.

Everyone should be able to express the concerns/frustrations they have with their body without being attacked or ridiculed. Just because a size 8 person can look at a size 4 person and think 'she's got it made' doesn't mean the size 4 person thinks that. We all need to stop comparing ourselves to other people and just focus on improving ourselves in terms of what's an improvement for our own individual selves. Bottom line, everyone can improve themselves physically, mentally and emotionally on some level. No one ever reaches a point where they are done.

For example, I'm a size 0-2 (depending on the particular clothes brand). Sometimes (a lot of the time) I can't even find clothes that fit well- too baggy, etc. So, do you think I have the absolute perfect body? Of course not! I have problem spots like everyone else, and I'm very self conscious. But I never, ever talk about my diet & exercise endeavors and my fitness/body goals, because if I did, people would think I'm anorexic or just being a *****- offending the 'fat' people. 'Fat' people can talk all day about how many pounds they want to lose, where they want to see themselves in a year, etc. 'Skinny' people on the other hand can forget engaging in that type of convo- unless they want to be ridiculed for having an eating disorder.

What's worse is women who are bodybuilders. I'm just starting out in the bodybuilding arena, so I have a long way to go still. I don't talk to people about my bodybuilding schemes because I'm just a 100 lb girl, so what do I know. In fact, my boyfriend's friends came over to the house one day (I wasn't there), and they saw all my home gym weight stuff, protein powder, etc. and said to my bf "cool, you've been working out." And he said "nope that's not my stuff, it's my gf's." And they said "ohhh...well that's embarrassing." It didn't bother him because he's very confident and secure in himself, but it bothered me!

So that's some insight into the world of a 100 lb, size 0 girl (and no, I'm not naturally skinny with a super fast metabolism). I have problems just like everyone else.

The name of the topic is stupid. I don't consider my problems to be "fat people" problems. They are human problems.

I'm fat tattooed and bringing sexy back!!! Skinny, Fat, Tall or Short we are all human and we have self esteem / identity & acceptance issues. I ate a pint of Ice cream and six mini cones last night afterward I felt guilty about it and ran 5.5 miles this morning. Mr. Six pack you go shirtless pal if you feel like doing so. If I feel like jiggling while I'm jogging don't judge me either because maybe I will be feeling sexy that day so don't burst my bubble. As for the fast guy whining about the skinny guy problems remember what we don't like about others is often a refection of what we don't like about ourselves. Just sayin is all.....

Trust me if I had a choice.......I'd love to feel like I was all that and a bag of chips! But I don't I am insecure, scared and unsure of my body and my confidence. You lose a 150 lbs, it really throws your world off balance....physically and emotionally!!!

When ever I purchase a new dress or clothing I am not sure of, or if I should be wearing, I send a pic of me wearing it to my female friends for approval.....not that I need the boost of confidence, but because of being insecure, and feeling less than adequate for several years of my adult life.

This is a place for support, and understanding....since we all should have the same common goal!

This is perfect!! Well said. I feel this way everyday of my life!

Agreed this is me as well.

I go shirtless and let my stretchmarks breathe. It's hilarious to me that I can do this now and didn't when I had the 'perfect' little body. Confidence is fun to have when you finally do get it.

I agree, everyone has their insecurities.

I have issues, I know.

The example I gave was one issue.

I'm going to go talk to my shrink now.

I realize that these days that we can't rant. So I should go talk to the shrink rather than publicly stating my opinion.

No you ranted, the majority just think you're an *kitten*. You're allowed to rant but once you put it out there don't be shocked if you get a negative reaction

I have issues, I know.

The example I gave was one issue.

I'm going to go talk to my shrink now.

I realize that these days that we can't rant. So I should go talk to the shrink rather than publicly stating my opinion.

Oh no, do not make this an everyone ganged up on my post. You personally called someone out and now you want to feel wronged? You were in the wrong assuming that other people don't have issues with their bodies regardless of how YOU think they look. Next time make a general statement not calling anyone out in particular it's rude!!

I have issues, I know.

The example I gave was one issue.

I'm going to go talk to my shrink now.

I realize that these days that we can't rant. So I should go talk to the shrink rather than publicly stating my opinion.

No you ranted, the majority just think you're an *kitten*. You're allowed to rant but once you put it out there don't be shocked if you get a negative reaction

Ok. This is exactly right and a lesson that is needed. OP is butthurt because we apparently sent the message to him that he's not allowed to rant. In the thread he started because he didn't like someone else complaining. That's really a douche move there.
But what else have we learned? Getting your goal body doesn't fix everything.

There are not fat people problems or fit people problems. Just that all people have problems. If you're going to use a modifier to "problems " you should do it in a way that acknowledges that in the scheme of things, your complaint is petty (omg I just bought my iphone and now there's a newer version /firstworldproblems) any other use makes you seem territorial and entitle about your butthurt which is douchey.

Everyone (except women) can run without a shirt. Six pack guy and OP. Corollary : all women with legs arms and a head can wear a bikini.

Everyone quit looking at others with envy thinking if only I had what that guy has, my life would be awesome. Great way to keep yourself miserable.

Do you. Quit worrying about someone else doing them.

I think the point is not who feels insecure and who does not, but how considerate you are of others around you. I have a similar situation with a friend who went from a size 6 (her fat clothes) to a 2. She refers to her fat all the time, points out tiny rolls and complains of "saddle bags" while in tiny, tight running clothes. She chooses to make these complaints in a room filled with women whose "skinny clothes" are a size 14. She won't hesitate to tell everyone how far she ran, how much time she spends at boot camp, etc. Is this person really that clueless, stupid or rude? Save these complaints for your therapist or your boyfriend. I believe she has a lot of issues and is looking for people to compliment her.
Choose your audience carefully, you might be offending someone by what you say.