Body Image and Relationships

OK, forgive me for asking, but your OP and consequent posts have been rather gender-neutral. Is this a guy your with...? Because this totally sounds like some **** a guy would pull.

bingo

So you're her cuddle buddy that she finds too unattractive to do the dirty with? Is that what you want to be? I truly don't get it. What are you waiting and hoping for - that she'll wake up some day and decide she's attracted to you? I mean, you have to know by now that it's going nowhere. At this point you're just a glutton for punishment. It's not like she isn't showing and telling you everything you need to know to make an informed decision about your relationship. I give up.

You guys obviously have an emotional attachment to each other...but from my experience, that happens naturally whether or not there is love involved, because of the time spent. You get sort of used to each other, and trick yourself into feeling dependent on each other. It becomes an unhealthy addiction.

Maybe both of you have commitment issues, so you're with each other to avoid a real, deep and connected relationship.

This person is obviously abusing you. So many people hit the nail on the hit when they said that he probably has major self esteem issues, he is trying to project onto you.

You obviously feel you can't do any better.

Your relationship is not going to evolve. I can understand why you hope it might, but i think it will just further degrade, and in the end you'll end up feeling so bad about yourself and stupid for letting yourself waste your time and get used by this guy.

What you are doing is preventing yourself from meeting another awesome person, because you're emotionally involved who is not available for you.

We need sex in our relationships. It's important. Real sex. You are not teenagers. This cuddle buddy relationship is holding you back, and creating self esteem issues. Major self esteem issues that will scar.

You need to untangle yourself from this mess. You are not a teddy bear. No amount of talking and reasoning and or understanding, or weight loss, or surgery is going to change this relationship. Just because you guys can talk about your issues, doesn't mean it's going to get better.

You need to get out of this relationship completely. Just completely use the 30 day no contact rule, no friendship, no cuddle nights, no more talking. Nothing. Cut yourself off for three months. This guy needs to get his **** together, and you need to get a grip on your priorities.

This guy is manipulating you, and will boot you out of his bed the moment he meets someone he does want to ****.

It's not your problem this guy isn't physically attracted to you. Really, it's not. You are attractive. You are sweet. You're communicative. Dedicated. Obviously into physical health...

I was griping about my body once to my boyfriend, who is in awesome shape. I am very floppy. He said to me "it's the body of my girlfriend, and i love it."

The man told you he's not attracted to you. No pheromones, whatever. That's his loss. It's not your body. It's his own issues. Maybe he has sex issues...whatever. He needs to go to a therapist and work them out by himself. You cannot help him. He is not going to love you even if you were his ideal body composition. Not real love, anyway. This dude is shallow. He doesn't love you as a lover. You are wasting your time.

Extract yourself from his power trip. Deal with sleeping alone. It's lonely, but it's better than feeling like **** trying to be loved by someone who's like a vampire.

Get yourself back to a healthy state of mind, and then go be with someone who wants to **** your brains out (and talk and cuddle, and treat you like gold).

We don't live together. My overnight company is required apparently lol

OK, forgive me for asking, but your OP and consequent posts have been rather gender-neutral. Is this a guy your with...? Because this totally sounds like some **** a guy would pull.

bingo