Do you leash your kid?
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I am totally for whatever keeps your kids safe. Every child is different. I have five kids, only one Have I had to use a safety harness for as he was a runner and i was afraid he would put himself in danger. You do whats best for your child. a the end of the day all the matters is that your children are loved and happy. This is such a pointless topic.
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1. It's not a leash, it's reins. There's a harness that goes around the kid's shoulders and there's a strap that a parent can hold. A leash goes around the neck (at least in the British English definition of the term)
2. it's for very small kids, aged 1-3, who many parents will put in strollers, so that they can walk and get some exercise and also interact with the parent as they walk, rather than sitting on their backside being pushed along in the stroller. Unless the kid has a developmental delay, they are generally no longer using reins by the age of 3 or 4.
3. they have been used in the UK for decades. My mum had me in reins when I was the above age. Their use is common in very small kids, not for older kids, although you can get wrist straps that join the parent and child's wrist for older kids if there's still a risk of them running off (e.g. if they have a developmental delay or other neurological issue). Generally the parent hold's the child's hand while using these, e.g. wrapping it around the wrist then holding the child's hand. It's there in case the child makes a sudden dash into the traffic. UK pavements (sidewalks) can be very narrow, as can the roads, and it only takes a second for a toddler to make a run for it and get hit by a car before a parent can stop them, however the reins prevent them from getting more than about 75cm away from you, i.e. they stop at the kerb.
4. I really and truly don't understand why USA people have such a big issue with this, because it's a piece of kit that allows your child to walk by a busy road with you, as in walk, not be sat in a stroller. For a country with a childhood obesity problem, I'm really surprised at how much hate these things get. Kids of this age, you have 4 options. 1. never let them leave the house (cruel and will harm their development) 2. put them in a stroller until they're old enough to be trusted not to run into the road (restrictive - plus see the next point). 3. don't do anything to keep them safe by the road (i.e. risk their life) or 4. put them on reins so they can walk next to you safely, because the reins will stop them being able to dash into the road
5. there are big problems with having kids in strollers during this developmental stage. 1. childhood obesity - while strollers are not a sole cause, anything that gets the kids using their legs from the youngest age is clearly a good thing, while things that make them sit on their backside are counter-productive. 2. there is less interaction between parent and child in a stroller, because the child is facing away and being pushed along, the parent can basically forget the child is even there, whereas if you walk a toddler on reins you're constantly interacting with them. Reins do not control a child's behaviour, you still have to teach the child to walk next to you, hold your hand, stop at the kerb, you just have that security that should they dash into the road, the reins will stop them. You also get more conversation with them. 3. strollers are actually MORE restrictive than reins. The child is still strapped into the stroller, they are stuck in a seating position, can't walk anywhere, can't exercise, can't do anything other than watch the world around them as they're pushed along. So really, reins are bad but strollers are good?
6. most people who complain about reins are a) from the USA and b) non-parents. They tend to have ridiculous expectations of kids, like expecting one and two year olds to behave like mini adults. They say parents have to discipline their kids.... well duh! of course we have to teach them to walk properly and not run into the road.............. but what about the kid *while they are learning*? You can't tell a one year old "walk next to me and don't run in the road" and expect them to get it right first time. The reins protect them *while they are learning* to walk properly and safely down the road with a parent. Being pushed along in a stroller does not teach them this. Like I said, in the UK, they're used for toddlers and you don't see kids older than 3-4 in them. Even seeing a 4 year old in them is pretty rare. Either that or they think a child should be in a stroller until they're old enough to not be trusted to run in the road, like that's the One True Way of parenting.... there are some valid reasons why some parents may choose strollers over reins (e.g. if they have to walk for miles or get somewhere really quickly, most UK parents use both, depending on the situation) but it's not the only way, and for shorter walks when there's no time constraint, reins are great.
7. they're for safety. they are *not* a substitute for parental control, they don't even work that way at all, all they do is stop the child running into traffic or getting lost in a crowd. You can't make a child walk next to you, they can still throw tantrums, sit on the floor and refuse to walk, walk in the opposite direction - if you try to pull a child on reins in a particular direction, they'll fall down, so you can't use them to actually control a child. It's purely to stop them running into the road, etc. They run, the reins stops them getting that far, they fall on their bottom. Which is a lot better than they run, they're hit by a car, they get maimed or killed.0 -
Not this topic again
1. It's not a leash, it's reins. There's a harness that goes around the kid's shoulders and there's a strap that a parent can hold. A leash goes around the neck (at least in the British English definition of the term)
2. it's for very small kids, aged 1-3, who many parents will put in strollers, so that they can walk and get some exercise and also interact with the parent as they walk, rather than sitting on their backside being pushed along in the stroller. Unless the kid has a developmental delay, they are generally no longer using reins by the age of 3 or 4.
3. they have been used in the UK for decades. My mum had me in reins when I was the above age. Their use is common in very small kids, not for older kids, although you can get wrist straps that join the parent and child's wrist for older kids if there's still a risk of them running off (e.g. if they have a developmental delay or other neurological issue). Generally the parent hold's the child's hand while using these, e.g. wrapping it around the wrist then holding the child's hand. It's there in case the child makes a sudden dash into the traffic. UK pavements (sidewalks) can be very narrow, as can the roads, and it only takes a second for a toddler to make a run for it and get hit by a car before a parent can stop them, however the reins prevent them from getting more than about 75cm away from you, i.e. they stop at the kerb.
4. I really and truly don't understand why USA people have such a big issue with this, because it's a piece of kit that allows your child to walk by a busy road with you, as in walk, not be sat in a stroller. For a country with a childhood obesity problem, I'm really surprised at how much hate these things get. Kids of this age, you have 4 options. 1. never let them leave the house (cruel and will harm their development) 2. put them in a stroller until they're old enough to be trusted not to run into the road (restrictive - plus see the next point). 3. don't do anything to keep them safe by the road (i.e. risk their life) or 4. put them on reins so they can walk next to you safely, because the reins will stop them being able to dash into the road
5. there are big problems with having kids in strollers during this developmental stage. 1. childhood obesity - while strollers are not a sole cause, anything that gets the kids using their legs from the youngest age is clearly a good thing, while things that make them sit on their backside are counter-productive. 2. there is less interaction between parent and child in a stroller, because the child is facing away and being pushed along, the parent can basically forget the child is even there, whereas if you walk a toddler on reins you're constantly interacting with them. Reins do not control a child's behaviour, you still have to teach the child to walk next to you, hold your hand, stop at the kerb, you just have that security that should they dash into the road, the reins will stop them. You also get more conversation with them. 3. strollers are actually MORE restrictive than reins. The child is still strapped into the stroller, they are stuck in a seating position, can't walk anywhere, can't exercise, can't do anything other than watch the world around them as they're pushed along. So really, reins are bad but strollers are good?
6. most people who complain about reins are a) from the USA and b) non-parents. They tend to have ridiculous expectations of kids, like expecting one and two year olds to behave like mini adults. They say parents have to discipline their kids.... well duh! of course we have to teach them to walk properly and not run into the road.............. but what about the kid *while they are learning*? You can't tell a one year old "walk next to me and don't run in the road" and expect them to get it right first time. The reins protect them *while they are learning* to walk properly and safely down the road with a parent. Being pushed along in a stroller does not teach them this. Like I said, in the UK, they're used for toddlers and you don't see kids older than 3-4 in them. Even seeing a 4 year old in them is pretty rare. Either that or they think a child should be in a stroller until they're old enough to not be trusted to run in the road, like that's the One True Way of parenting.... there are some valid reasons why some parents may choose strollers over reins (e.g. if they have to walk for miles or get somewhere really quickly, most UK parents use both, depending on the situation) but it's not the only way, and for shorter walks when there's no time constraint, reins are great.
7. they're for safety. they are *not* a substitute for parental control, they don't even work that way at all, all they do is stop the child running into traffic or getting lost in a crowd. You can't make a child walk next to you, they can still throw tantrums, sit on the floor and refuse to walk, walk in the opposite direction - if you try to pull a child on reins in a particular direction, they'll fall down, so you can't use them to actually control a child. It's purely to stop them running into the road, etc. They run, the reins stops them getting that far, they fall on their bottom. Which is a lot better than they run, they're hit by a car, they get maimed or killed.
Wise words!
In the USA, it's much more "hip" to cater to profess to cater to every whim of your child all in the name of self-sacrifice and "good parenting." I can't tell you how many parents I know who claim that they can't even go to the bathroom w/out their kids in there with them. I do not profess to be a parenting expert, but in my 9+ years of having kids, I have managed that one rather easily.0 -
have you been around many toddlers? I used to work with 2 year olds, and I can tell you without even having been a parent that it's not as easy as it sounds to just "train them" to behave better.This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.0 -
My daughter has ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and ADHD. I've never felt the need to leash her. Even the most energetic, difficult child is capable of holding hands and learning walking safe walking rules.
She's only ever been on a leash at the daycare where I worked and brought her in with me. We had a classroom of 8 toddlers and only 2 teachers, you do the hand holding math. To get them across the parking lot to the play ground we had no choice but to lease them for their own safety and for insurance purposes. They actually did act like dogs about the leases too. When they saw them being taken out they'd jump around and run over to be the first to get theirs on to go out and play.0 -
This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.
Teach them to behave better? OMG really? that's ridiculous! Children like to explore and it only takes an instant for a mom to turn to look at her second child, for the first child to slip out of her hand and toddle off in front of a car or whatever. My boys were 16 months apart, they hated being stuck in a stroller so when we were walking beside a busy street I had them both in harnesses (and they weren't the cute little backpacks they have now). And they were well-behaved children - it has nothing to do with getting them to 'behave better', nothing at all. Like all children, everything is new to them and they liked to explore - but they would get out of my grip and run in separate directions. My children weren't traumatized by it. At least with the harness, they got a sense of 'independence', exercise and I knew they were safe. People need to stop judging other people, seriously. Walk in their shoes before judging.0 -
None of this matters really.
My kids weren't breastfed, I don't stay at home with them, and I am quite certain I have violated many of the AAP recommendations.
They are now school-aged children who are doing rather well, socially adjusted, well-mannered, good kids.
Unconditional love and a safe, supportive atmosphere are what matters - not all this "stuff" that happens in the middle.0 -
OK, I thought it was a neat idea, but my father trashed it. Then my daughter hit 18 months. While I try to keep her in the cart, or holding my hand, she likes to show independence and tries to let go constantly, duck under things that an adult cannot get through, etc.... She likes to do things herself. She does not run off, and is never out of my sight, but having the leash attached to a backpack type thing gives me extra comfort. A) she thinks the backpack is cool, it is hers,
I think she thinks that I am giving her independence, and C) it gives me control that she cannot turn a corner, or duck out of sight, duck under a cloths rack, or makes it harder to be separated.
I am not walking a dog. I may be spoiling my princess, and maybe she is walking me, but I just feel safer. And at the end of the day her safety is my first concern.
And if someone has an issue with it like my own father, I tell them get over it. Or tell them to go worry about real issues with kids today, like how some towns and counties are expecting kids to play sports without soccer balls and footballs. Or schools are eliminating Honor rolls and Deans lists because it makes some kids who are not on it feel bad.0 -
Haha. I would say you are crazy not to leash your child, but I have never been a parent before. My parents leashed me AND my young brother and we are FINE. It is not cruel, if you gentle, and not rough as a parent. Mom and Dad said it actually saved me particularly a lot of damage.0
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I think it's ridiculous that other people care what other parents do as far as safety goes, for their own kids?? Why does it bother anyone else? That's what I don't get.
When mine were 1, 2, and 4, and it was just me with them, you can't "just hold hands". Kids are not mini adults, and they do run off. Yours will too one day most likely.
My 2 year old ran off just a few weeks ago at the library into the parking lot where a car almost hit her, but luckily I was able to barely grab her by her hair to keep her from getting run over. Yes, her hair. The only thing I could reach at that point.
I brought the "leash" out the next time we went. And I wish someone would say something to me about how they don't like it. .0 -
Not this topic again
1. It's not a leash, it's reins. There's a harness that goes around the kid's shoulders and there's a strap that a parent can hold. A leash goes around the neck (at least in the British English definition of the term)
2. it's for very small kids, aged 1-3, who many parents will put in strollers, so that they can walk and get some exercise and also interact with the parent as they walk, rather than sitting on their backside being pushed along in the stroller. Unless the kid has a developmental delay, they are generally no longer using reins by the age of 3 or 4.
3. they have been used in the UK for decades. My mum had me in reins when I was the above age. Their use is common in very small kids, not for older kids, although you can get wrist straps that join the parent and child's wrist for older kids if there's still a risk of them running off (e.g. if they have a developmental delay or other neurological issue). Generally the parent hold's the child's hand while using these, e.g. wrapping it around the wrist then holding the child's hand. It's there in case the child makes a sudden dash into the traffic. UK pavements (sidewalks) can be very narrow, as can the roads, and it only takes a second for a toddler to make a run for it and get hit by a car before a parent can stop them, however the reins prevent them from getting more than about 75cm away from you, i.e. they stop at the kerb.
4. I really and truly don't understand why USA people have such a big issue with this, because it's a piece of kit that allows your child to walk by a busy road with you, as in walk, not be sat in a stroller. For a country with a childhood obesity problem, I'm really surprised at how much hate these things get. Kids of this age, you have 4 options. 1. never let them leave the house (cruel and will harm their development) 2. put them in a stroller until they're old enough to be trusted not to run into the road (restrictive - plus see the next point). 3. don't do anything to keep them safe by the road (i.e. risk their life) or 4. put them on reins so they can walk next to you safely, because the reins will stop them being able to dash into the road
5. there are big problems with having kids in strollers during this developmental stage. 1. childhood obesity - while strollers are not a sole cause, anything that gets the kids using their legs from the youngest age is clearly a good thing, while things that make them sit on their backside are counter-productive. 2. there is less interaction between parent and child in a stroller, because the child is facing away and being pushed along, the parent can basically forget the child is even there, whereas if you walk a toddler on reins you're constantly interacting with them. Reins do not control a child's behaviour, you still have to teach the child to walk next to you, hold your hand, stop at the kerb, you just have that security that should they dash into the road, the reins will stop them. You also get more conversation with them. 3. strollers are actually MORE restrictive than reins. The child is still strapped into the stroller, they are stuck in a seating position, can't walk anywhere, can't exercise, can't do anything other than watch the world around them as they're pushed along. So really, reins are bad but strollers are good?
6. most people who complain about reins are a) from the USA and b) non-parents. They tend to have ridiculous expectations of kids, like expecting one and two year olds to behave like mini adults. They say parents have to discipline their kids.... well duh! of course we have to teach them to walk properly and not run into the road.............. but what about the kid *while they are learning*? You can't tell a one year old "walk next to me and don't run in the road" and expect them to get it right first time. The reins protect them *while they are learning* to walk properly and safely down the road with a parent. Being pushed along in a stroller does not teach them this. Like I said, in the UK, they're used for toddlers and you don't see kids older than 3-4 in them. Even seeing a 4 year old in them is pretty rare. Either that or they think a child should be in a stroller until they're old enough to not be trusted to run in the road, like that's the One True Way of parenting.... there are some valid reasons why some parents may choose strollers over reins (e.g. if they have to walk for miles or get somewhere really quickly, most UK parents use both, depending on the situation) but it's not the only way, and for shorter walks when there's no time constraint, reins are great.
7. they're for safety. they are *not* a substitute for parental control, they don't even work that way at all, all they do is stop the child running into traffic or getting lost in a crowd. You can't make a child walk next to you, they can still throw tantrums, sit on the floor and refuse to walk, walk in the opposite direction - if you try to pull a child on reins in a particular direction, they'll fall down, so you can't use them to actually control a child. It's purely to stop them running into the road, etc. They run, the reins stops them getting that far, they fall on their bottom. Which is a lot better than they run, they're hit by a car, they get maimed or killed.0 -
This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.
Teach them to behave better? OMG really? that's ridiculous! Children like to explore and it only takes an instant for a mom to turn to look at her second child, for the first child to slip out of her hand and toddle off in front of a car or whatever. My boys were 16 months apart, they hated being stuck in a stroller so when we were walking beside a busy street I had them both in harnesses (and they weren't the cute little backpacks they have now). And they were well-behaved children - it has nothing to do with getting them to 'behave better', nothing at all. Like all children, everything is new to them and they liked to explore - but they would get out of my grip and run in separate directions. My children weren't traumatized by it. At least with the harness, they got a sense of 'independence', exercise and I knew they were safe. People need to stop judging other people, seriously. Walk in their shoes before judging.
Okay... not getting involved in this discussion :laugh: I grew up with 3 sisters. I suppose boys are different.0 -
I did-- not my eldest or even my second, but by the time I had three and then four kids? Especially my youngest son, nicknamed "The Happy Wanderer" by my husband and me. Try containing four children, two of whom were runners--point them in a direction and CHARGE, off they would go. Usually in opposite directions. So a leash, or at least a harness attachment, saved me from losing my kids repeatedly when they were little and I had to take the lot grocery shopping.0
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This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.
Teach them to behave better? OMG really? that's ridiculous! Children like to explore and it only takes an instant for a mom to turn to look at her second child, for the first child to slip out of her hand and toddle off in front of a car or whatever. My boys were 16 months apart, they hated being stuck in a stroller so when we were walking beside a busy street I had them both in harnesses (and they weren't the cute little backpacks they have now). And they were well-behaved children - it has nothing to do with getting them to 'behave better', nothing at all. Like all children, everything is new to them and they liked to explore - but they would get out of my grip and run in separate directions. My children weren't traumatized by it. At least with the harness, they got a sense of 'independence', exercise and I knew they were safe. People need to stop judging other people, seriously. Walk in their shoes before judging.
Okay... not getting involved in this discussion :laugh: I grew up with 3 sisters. I suppose boys are different.
I have 2 boys. I am sure girls can be like boys, but when I have gone places with friends who had girls, the girls stuck by them while my boys ran in opposite directions. Like I said earlier, none of this matters. Unconditional love and support are what makes a good parent.0 -
Yep. I leash my kid sometimes. He refuses to hold my hand and he still feels independent with his "monkey backpack" on. Go ahead, judge away. It's worth my son not getting hit by a car in a parking lot while I'm trying to "reason" with him, while carrying 6 grocery bags and holding up traffic. Before I had my son I thought parents who leashed their kids were atrocious. Now... I get it. I don't do it because I'm fat and lazy. I run around with my son all day, but there is a place to run around with your kid, and a parking lot or busy airport is not one of them.0
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Yea, me too. But the threat of it kept my *kitten* in line. I would run off and hide in racks and make my mom and grandma search for me. I thought it was a game. I needed to learn to stay put, so a pink Velcro wrist leash was my punishment if I acted up again in stores. I mean, heck, it was a learning tool and because I was embarrassed, I LEARNED. So, congrats to my mother for making something work.I was leashed.
I remember it looked like a giant plastic springy coil key ring that was attached to 2 wrist bands. Then one of the bands was attached to me.
There was also a waist attachment, which they also put on me sometimes.
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I was also one of those terrible (as I was actually told once) mothers who used a playpen so I could keep a clean house and shower (things some mommy-martyrs cannot manage to do when playpens are seen as evil torture chamber devices derived solely to break the parent-child bond.
---> Did I mention that I am glad to be way past all this stuff ;-)
If you're terrible, I am too! My kiddo's playpen (and bouncy chair with the seatbelt thing) was my FAVORITE DEVICE EVER! The kiddo got to play (and nap sometimes) and I got to work (I work from home) or I'd bounce him to sleep in his chair while working. I didn't feel remotely guilty about it, but then I was also in the Cry it Out camp, the 'eat some veggies and some other food before desert' camp and the time out in the bedroom camp, lol.
Oh and I'm glad to be past the breastfeeding/sleepless nights/toilet training/etc stuff too
ETA: In answer to the larger question, no I didn't. But I could definitely see its merits at times :grumble: My kidlet was a BRAT about hand holding for a little while there and he still likes to suddenly bolt, regardless of where things like trees, rocks and, oh, the ROAD happens to be :grumble: It's a work in progress, lol. I could see its use particularly in the city where I live where many drivers treat pedestrians with a magnificent lack of compassion and patience. So, yeah, didn't use it, but I could see using it had I access, lol!0 -
This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.
OK this response really gets me.
A 2 year old is going to act like a 2 year old. She's going to slip away and run off from time to time, no matter how good her parents are or how well behaved. He's going to want to walk, not ride in the stroller, at crowded places like the mall or the zoo, and not want to hold your hand.
Yes, teach your kids. But don't expect a toddler to act like anything other than a toddler. As a parent, it's your job to make up the gaps in their reasoning. If you chose to do this through a leash, that's fine.
I wasn't into leashing until my daughter slipped out of my reach and ran off in the parking lot. She was almost hit by a car. I got a leash. Putting a leash on a kid doesn't mean you don't have to watch them, but it makes it easier to keep track of them.
And that daughter is now 15, has no recollection of the leash, and has learned to behave very well in public. The pediatrician also commented on how confident and poised she is. Yep, leashing her really ruined her chances at being a normal person, didn't it?
But, you know, I've learned that no matter what decisions a parent makes, in the best interest of their child (whom they know better than anyone else) there is ALWAYS going to be someone sitting on the sidelines saying they're doing it wrong, they should teach their children X, or "I never would do that to my kids"0 -
I used reins for both of my children. They liked to run off in different directions. I especially used reins when we were in dangerous areas like Yellowstone or Grand Canyon or Arches National Park. My son had ADHD. He was more than 2 and a half years older than his sister. He used the leash in crowded or dangerous places until he was nearly 5. He knew we would not loose each other by using the leash. We lost each other once in a busy super market. It scared both of us.
Both of my children are grown. They are confident adults. My daughter has four children of her own. When my granddaughter almost got hit by a car in a busy parking lot, her mother put a leash on her. That granddaughter is now a very confident 15 year old.0 -
I think it is a ridiculous practice. If this generation would lift their heads from their cell phones and pay attention/interact with their children, it would be an unneccessary practice.
Go ahead and hate on me, but leashes are for pets, not children. Raised three kids and never lost track of them or felt a need to tether them like dogs.0 -
first time they bolt they get leashed0
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I've leashed my son at Disneyland before..He'll slip off and he's a mini Usain Bolt when he takes off.
I don't care what other parents think, they're not the ones who have to deal with it if anything did happen to my son.0 -
leashing kids? really? They aren't dogs. sheesh!!! I use duct tape.0
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I've leashed my youngest son. I'm a single mom, he's a boy with developmental issues and doesn't understand that you are to look both ways before you cross the street. Usually when walking across a parking lot or the street I would hold his hand or hold him, then I broke my leg. As a single parent on crutches, you don't have a free hand to "hold hands". So I leased him. I will do it again if need be. My mother just bought me a wrist one for him and now I can actually go to the laundromat and not have to worry about him running away and slipping out the door.0
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I had a friend who had a barely 2 year old and newborn twins. At the same time. It was a matter of not enough hands to hold the toddler, who had absolutely no fear from the moment she learned to walk. I would never have looked at her twice had she even considered using a leash backpack, esp. when they were out and about in the community.
I have two little kids, 2 years apart, and even though it's like herding cats some days when we're out shopping and running errands, I don't think either of them would tolerate being tethered to me, nor would I like being yanked off in different directions.
That being said, my daughter is currently leading my son around as he pretends to be a horse on a farm...does it count if they leash each other??
ETA: I have also worked with kids with severe autism who bolt from their caregivers. I have gone out on public excursions with my clients on a safety tether for their own safety. I think that it's entirely appropriate in those cases when safety needs to be put first.0 -
I've leashed my youngest son. I'm a single mom, he's a boy with developmental issues and doesn't understand that you are to look both ways before you cross the street. Usually when walking across a parking lot or the street I would hold his hand or hold him, then I broke my leg. As a single parent on crutches, you don't have a free hand to "hold hands". So I leased him. I will do it again if need be. My mother just bought me a wrist one for him and now I can actually go to the laundromat and not have to worry about him running away and slipping out the door.
I take back my adamant posture on the subject, I will concede that this ^^^^ is a valid reason.0 -
Anyone that wants to judge, I ask, have you ever seen a toddler get hit by a car?
You wont judge anymore.
ETA: the child was ok. Badly bruised, but little kids bounce pretty well. My wife, who has knee issues and cannot run, insisted on using a backpack leash for our daughter who was fearless as a toddler and prone to bolting.0 -
Not currently, but there are times where I am sorely tempted as my child likes to dart and dart very quickly. But I only have one right now. I see the value in harnesses to be honest. Because not every child is the perfect little displined child that will hold your hand in every or any situation. To think so is quite ignorant.
I would rather have to deal with ignorant judgemental parents than to deal with my child getting hit by a car because she darted away from me before I could finish blinking.
ETA: my parents "leashed" my youngest brother when the 5 of us where going to the mall... the mall at that time was also in Europe where the malls (in the country we were living in) were also train stations... An American kid on foriegn soil... yeah, my parents were not going to take any chances in him running off and potentially kidnapped. He was at that independant age where he didn't want to ride in a stroller any more either.0 -
This topic has already been discussed on here and it did not go well.
Some children don't hold hands well and slip out of their parents grip and if it came down to putting your kids in a backpack leash or them dying by running in front of a car or getting stolen, I would go with the leash.
How about you not judge other parents?
Or you could just train the kid to behave better. I think that's better in the long run.
Yeah, cause that works REALLY well with kids that have sensory issues or other disabilities such as that.0 -
I'm 27 now, when I little my mom used to "leash" me. It was more of a tether from my wrist to hers. I was bad about running off, thinking I was lost, then going to customer service to have them page her. I could see how they would be useful when you're trying to look at clothes or grocery shop without a shopping cart.0
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