Wedding Ring Debate
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I don't wear a wedding ring. Neither does my father, nor does my brother. My wife asked me if I wanted one when we got married and I declined. I am not a ring person so I would never have worn one. I am a little surprised to hear people talking about being hit on if you don't wear a wedding ring. That has never happend to me and even if it did, it takes two to create an issue. I have however, seen many men (with rings) hitting on women who have weddings rings.It all comes down to a matter of trust. The question essentially is "do you trust me or not, because if you don't, wearing a wedding ring isn't going to make a difference "0
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Your wedding ring is a symbol of your marriage, not your weight loss. I can appreciate your side of the debate as well, but in this case I think your wife's wishes should be honoured.
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Dang boy! Get your ring back where it belongs! Of course it matters which finger it's on or we would just choose whichever we wanted at the ceremony.
I have had the same issues with my engagement, wedding and eternity ring but would never dream of wearing them anywhere else....they will be re-sized!
^100% agree. A wedding ring is a symbol - if you're going to wear it, do it right!0 -
Are you still losing weight? Buy an inexpensive ring that looks like a wedding ring to wear on your ring finger until you finish losing the weight and continue to wear the real one on your middle finger. When you reach goal (or if you already have) have the wedding ring resized and moved to the ring finger, and find another ring you like to wear on your middle finger. Rinse and repeat for the claddaugh.0
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No, it doesn't matter. My husband wears his wedding band on his middle finger because he has a hard time getting it over his nuckle on his ring finger.0
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Well seeing as my husband is on this third ring in three years and when he does own one he never wears it, I don’t see what the big deal is. Do I wish he’d wear it? Yes. Is it worth getting upset about? No. I’ll just keep buying him new ones as he lose them (gets the $10 version off of Amazon now).0
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women only like men in tight Tshirts and shades and skinnyjeans.
There are women in the world who like men in skinny jeans???0 -
I agree... the only people that matter are you and your wife. If she keep bringing up the topic, then she obviously has a problem. I would just get the ring resized before the conversations aren't so nice and pleasant.0
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Happy wife, happy life...go get your rings sized.
Even being a guy .. I agree with her and the above is so true. She is right on this one. There is a significance to what finger you wear them on.0 -
Get a tattoo that says "someone else's property"0
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to me, no, but if she feels that strongly, then yea, maybe.0
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When I was losing my weight, I wore mine on middle finger, once it got to loose for my ring finger. Near my goal, it even got too loose on my middle finger so I didn't wear it for a while. Once I hit my goal, I had it re-sized from a 12 to an 8.5 and now wear it my ring finger again. If it's a plain gold band, it's pretty cheap to get them re-sized.0
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Happy wife, happy life...go get your rings sized.
Haha so true!0 -
Going through the same predicament. My ring is starting to get loose and I am wondering if I should eventually resize it or wear it on a different finger. I would hate to resize my ring and then gain back some of the weight and have the ring be too tight.0
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its weird that it matters so much to her and its weird that you wont do something so simple as resize the rings.0
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if it matters to your wife, why does it not matter to you?
i dunno....the ring isn't the huge matter for me.
maybe because I come from a family full of uncles that worked in the electric/hydroelectric fields and as such wearing rings on the job (which was a 12 hour day) could kill them...
so why have a ring when it only went on for 3 hours of the day, after a while you never remember to put it on....
but never once have any of my uncles ever looked at another woman....that is one thing I know....they all loved and looked after their wives...and loved them fiercely....
so I guess what i'm saying from my angle is...
the ring is a symbol...the intent is in the brain...and the heart...
if the symbol is important to her...then why would you not do it?
but ultimately what is in your heart and mind is truly what matters most.0 -
Happy wife, happy life...go get your rings sized.
Haha so true!
Yeah but what about the old saying "happy husband, happy uhhh ... ummmm"
****. There's no old saying, is there?0 -
if it matters to your wife, why does it not matter to you?
I don't care how much football matters to my spouse, it doesn't mean I'm ever going to give a *kitten*.0 -
I won't say "wife is always right," but in matters of preference as opposed to something serious, just do what she says.0
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I would compromise. Wear the claud on where you prefer and have the wedding ring resized at goal weight and wear traditional0
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If it's a big deal to her and not to you, just give in. However, my husband doesn't wear his ring very often, and it doesn't bother me in the least.0
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Well (and I don't know how true this is) I heard that you wear the ring on the ring finger because there is a vein in that finger that runs straight to the heart. Wearing the ring on that finger is symbolic of the connection between yourself and your spouse.
It is true. But all veins run to the heart. And all fingers have veins.
Yeah but veins branch into other veins. It was my impression that this one doesn't connect to any other veins.0 -
It matters to her, and that's what matters. Remember marriage isn't for you, its for making her happy. Get the ring resized and go on with life.0
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I will say this. If you don't care either way, then it's not worth hurting her feelings over. You've talked about your wife before and I know you love her. It's worth sac riding a conversation piece to make her happy.0
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I wear 2 rings; a standard wedding ring on my left hand, and a claddagh on my right. For a couple years, I wore neither, because they didn't fit. Well, I lost enough weight to start wearing them again, but then something happened; I kept losing weight and now they are too big. They were spinning around, falling off - I've had to fish 'em out of the disposal, trash at work, etc ..
Well here's the debate. To solve this issue, I started wearing them on my middle fingers instead of my ring fingers. My wife however, is insisting that I get them resized so that I can wear them on the correct fingers, but I've decided I kind of like them on the "wrong" fingers. (I have to say I kind of like the .. "Hey, what's up with the rings?" .. well, I used to weigh over 300 .. "nooo ****. wow.") This debate has not gotten heated, nor do I think it will .. it just exists, and comes up from time to time.
So anyway I figured I would post the question here because MFP'ers tend to be quiet and reserved in their opinions, and will treat me gently, with dignity and respect.
Does it REALLY matter which finger you wear the ring on?
Explain your reasoning to her. It might be enough to make her understand. I just got a rubber tube thingie to help mine stay in place, but I'll have to get them resized or switch to another finger before much longer. My husband is just happy when I actually wear my wedding band and engagement rings since I've been freaked out about losing them.0 -
I can't believe this is even an issue for you. There is about 1 million things a guy must do to ensure your woman feels happy and secure and we, as men, don't understand 99.9% of them. This is in the0.1% of things that is freaking easy! Do it!
It's not even a big issue for me. I wouldnt resize the wedding band, I'd just buy a new one, but - I don't want to touch the claddagh. And I can't really explain why to myself, nevermind to all y'all ...
I think that is a good idea. The wedding ring should be the only one that matters anyway.
Agree that the claddagh ring doesn't really matter. Just deal with the wedding ring.
I posted earlier. The claddagh does matter. more than the wedding band.
does it matter to her just as much as it matters to you?
just curious
when you have two people in a relationship, and both are heavily invested in differing opinions - you have a tough spot.
when one is invested in something, and the other is not... the decision is easy.
you wrote your OP as if you are not as invested, so the decision should be easy... the non invested party moves over to the invested party's side.
you write subsequent responses as if you are just as invested, but we don't necessarily understand why.
does she need BOTH rings resized? Would she be happy with one of them being resized? would you wear a smaller one in front that would keep the wedding / claddagh ring on without needing to be resized?
what are you willing to do to meet her halfway?0 -
I wear 2 rings; a standard wedding ring on my left hand, and a claddagh on my right. For a couple years, I wore neither, because they didn't fit. Well, I lost enough weight to start wearing them again, but then something happened; I kept losing weight and now they are too big. They were spinning around, falling off - I've had to fish 'em out of the disposal, trash at work, etc ..
Well here's the debate. To solve this issue, I started wearing them on my middle fingers instead of my ring fingers. My wife however, is insisting that I get them resized so that I can wear them on the correct fingers, but I've decided I kind of like them on the "wrong" fingers. (I have to say I kind of like the .. "Hey, what's up with the rings?" .. well, I used to weigh over 300 .. "nooo ****. wow.") This debate has not gotten heated, nor do I think it will .. it just exists, and comes up from time to time.
So anyway I figured I would post the question here because MFP'ers tend to be quiet and reserved in their opinions, and will treat me gently, with dignity and respect.
Does it REALLY matter which finger you wear the ring on?
Explain your reasoning to her. It might be enough to make her understand. I just got a rubber tube thingie to help mine stay in place, but I'll have to get them resized or switch to another finger before much longer. My husband is just happy when I actually wear my wedding band and engagement rings since I've been freaked out about losing them.
Communicate ... with my wife ... hmmmm .. that's just crazy enough to work ..0 -
if it matters to your wife, why does it not matter to you?
I don't care how much football matters to my spouse, it doesn't mean I'm ever going to give a *kitten*.
oh now you've done it.....
you know how much I love it when you talk about *kitten*
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what are you willing to do to meet her halfway?
Put the wedding ring on the correct finger, then go at the knuckle with a hammer. That would keep it on ..
When I hit my final final goal (100 lbs lost is goal1) .. 185 is final final goal .. I shall be purchasing a new wedding band.0 -
what are you willing to do to meet her halfway?
Put the wedding ring on the correct finger, then go at the knuckle with a hammer. That would keep it on ..
When I hit my final final goal (100 lbs lost is goal1) .. 185 is final final goal .. I shall be purchasing a new wedding band.
why not just explain to her that you're going to get your ring resized when you hit your final goal?0
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