Inconsiderate coworkers wrecking my hard work

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  • mrsduke2924
    mrsduke2924 Posts: 104 Member
    It's tough but I'm afraid it's down to your own willpower.

    My colleague makes the BEST meringues and victoria sponge ever. Not every day or every week, but every couple of months she has a big baking session and brings the yumminess in.
    When this happens I'll treat myself to a slice and then work it off later and fit it into my macros for the day.

    I figure I don't want to go the rest of my life ignoring things I enjoy and being miserable because of it - they have to be factored in as treats, the key is just not mauling the whole gateau into your face :)

    Shoving it all in the bin isn't the answer. They'll bring more and just be cross with you. If that kitchen is your only source of water make sure you go fill your bottle when you're feeling full. Or take a carrot to sustain you on your trip :flowerforyou:
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    I have a few coworkers who are on the larger side and continually bring in *kitten* food, leave it on the counter in the kitchen and then send out an email telling us to help ourselves. Today there were two partial cakes from two different people. I have no problem avoiding or limiting my cake (or other nasty snack) consumption when it isn't around the house and I don't miss it. But when somebody shoves it right in my face I crack. Would I be in the wrong if I just started throwing this stuff in the garbage? The kitchen is the only place I can get water and coffee so there's no way I can just be big and avoid it.

    How does leaving it in the shared kitchen equate to shoving it in your face. :huh:

    Stop, just stop before you fully become that person. You're already dangerously close.
  • MrsH1987
    MrsH1987 Posts: 53 Member
    Everytime I go in the staff room there are crisps/sweets/chocolates on the table. We only have one table so it is always right in front of me. I just don't eat it! If other people want to then fine but I don't want to
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    If they want to have a treat counter, fine, but it should not be next to the only source of water. Nobody is stopping them from putting their cake on their desk.

    No one is stopping you from not eating the cake. Stop trying to pawn off your personal responsibility.
  • SpartanGrandma
    SpartanGrandma Posts: 1 Member
    I am a nurse working the night shift. Nurses are notorious for eating junk 24/7. You have to bring in your own snacks to eat, bring in your own water and coffee if you need to, but avoid those snacks like they are the plague. You can't blame anyone but yourself if you eat them. I understand the temptation, it is there in my life too. But, I am a responsible adult able to make my own choices. After bringing in healthy snacks for months, some of the other nurses started to also! I'm not saying the cake went away, but there are other choices now.
  • wowgirl30
    wowgirl30 Posts: 40 Member
    You should try to have their actions empower you. Take the higher ground knowing it will bother them that you're ignoring their actions whether they are intentional or not. I will bet you that eventually ask you why you don't indulge in their "treats" and this will set you apart from the sheep. Good Luck!

    Just to piggy back off of this idea, another way to do it:

    1) Ignore the cake for several days in a row. Don't comment on it, just ignore it.
    2) Openly walk around with a bag of baby carrots and maybe some celery. Crunch on it really loudly and moan while you eat it. Say things like "Get inside my mouth you juicy carrot" while you're chewing on it. Make sure your coworkers take full notice of the power of vegetables and the euphoric feeling you get when that vegetabley goodness passes your lips. Brag about how clean your diet is, and how you can feel the toxins leaving your system.
    3) Next time you're in that hell-hole they call the cake room, don't do anything mean or rude to your coworkers but for example, as you walk by the cake, give it the finger and mouth the words "I ain't your b**ch you dirty piece of cake". This is going to empower you even more than those carrots, believe it or not.


    Do this for a few weeks and I promise you, the next time they sit there eating their dirty, sugary, poisonous, toxic, (tasty chocolatey) cake they will be filled with hate. I mean, here you are enjoying seemingly INFINITE amounts of carrots and celery, impervious to the beckoning that is that dirty, dirty cake.

    As the poster above mentions, this is really going to set you apart from those helpless, cake-eating sheep.

    I'm starting to really want those carrots...

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  • grillnchill
    grillnchill Posts: 772 Member
    I have a similar situation with a few co-workers. They bring baked good, candies, etc and leave it on the table. When offered directly, I just tell them "no thanks" and keep it moving. Occasionally, I will have that little slice of cake for someone's bday or farewell. No big deal.

    I think I've said no enough times that they don't even ask me anymore.

    Willpower is a muscle, flex that bad boy!
  • DymonNdaRgh40
    DymonNdaRgh40 Posts: 661 Member
    I have a few coworkers who are on the larger side and continually bring in *kitten* food, leave it on the counter in the kitchen and then send out an email telling us to help ourselves. Today there were two partial cakes from two different people. I have no problem avoiding or limiting my cake (or other nasty snack) consumption when it isn't around the house and I don't miss it. But when somebody shoves it right in my face I crack. Would I be in the wrong if I just started throwing this stuff in the garbage? The kitchen is the only place I can get water and coffee so there's no way I can just be big and avoid it.

    Just say no! It gets easier with practice... trust me:wink:
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Just give up. You will never lose weight.
  • dude....self control. This is your weight loss journey, not anyone else's. It's not your co-workers responsibility to change their lives around so that you can meet your goals.
    If it's really bothering you, have a POLITE word with them, perhaps explain your goals and maybe they'll cut it down a bit. But throwing it away? Nope.
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  • Whenever my husband and I bake and are left with the large amounts of tempting leftovers, I send them to work with him. So, I guess I am making you fat. And it doesn't bother me at all.
  • akoivisto
    akoivisto Posts: 141 Member
    You should try to have their actions empower you. Take the higher ground knowing it will bother them that you're ignoring their actions whether they are intentional or not. I will bet you that eventually ask you why you don't indulge in their "treats" and this will set you apart from the sheep. Good Luck!

    Just to piggy back off of this idea, another way to do it:

    1) Ignore the cake for several days in a row. Don't comment on it, just ignore it.
    2) Openly walk around with a bag of baby carrots and maybe some celery. Crunch on it really loudly and moan while you eat it. Say things like "Get inside my mouth you juicy carrot" while you're chewing on it. Make sure your coworkers take full notice of the power of vegetables and the euphoric feeling you get when that vegetabley goodness passes your lips. Brag about how clean your diet is, and how you can feel the toxins leaving your system.
    3) Next time you're in that hell-hole they call the cake room, don't do anything mean or rude to your coworkers but for example, as you walk by the cake, give it the finger and mouth the words "I ain't your b**ch you dirty piece of cake". This is going to empower you even more than those carrots, believe it or not.


    Do this for a few weeks and I promise you, the next time they sit there eating their dirty, sugary, poisonous, toxic, (tasty chocolatey) cake they will be filled with hate. I mean, here you are enjoying seemingly INFINITE amounts of carrots and celery, impervious to the beckoning that is that dirty, dirty cake.

    As the poster above mentions, this is really going to set you apart from those helpless, cake-eating sheep.

    Above is the winningestiest response! Close this thread! Everything else is moot; and frankly, doesn't need to be read!
  • qtgonewild
    qtgonewild Posts: 1,930 Member
    self control
  • lcvaughn520
    lcvaughn520 Posts: 219 Member
    You should try to have their actions empower you. Take the higher ground knowing it will bother them that you're ignoring their actions whether they are intentional or not. I will bet you that eventually ask you why you don't indulge in their "treats" and this will set you apart from the sheep. Good Luck!

    Just to piggy back off of this idea, another way to do it:

    1) Ignore the cake for several days in a row. Don't comment on it, just ignore it.
    2) Openly walk around with a bag of baby carrots and maybe some celery. Crunch on it really loudly and moan while you eat it. Say things like "Get inside my mouth you juicy carrot" while you're chewing on it. Make sure your coworkers take full notice of the power of vegetables and the euphoric feeling you get when that vegetabley goodness passes your lips. Brag about how clean your diet is, and how you can feel the toxins leaving your system.
    3) Next time you're in that hell-hole they call the cake room, don't do anything mean or rude to your coworkers but for example, as you walk by the cake, give it the finger and mouth the words "I ain't your b**ch you dirty piece of cake". This is going to empower you even more than those carrots, believe it or not.


    Do this for a few weeks and I promise you, the next time they sit there eating their dirty, sugary, poisonous, toxic, (tasty chocolatey) cake they will be filled with hate. I mean, here you are enjoying seemingly INFINITE amounts of carrots and celery, impervious to the beckoning that is that dirty, dirty cake.

    As the poster above mentions, this is really going to set you apart from those helpless, cake-eating sheep.

    "Get inside my mouth you juicy carrot." hahahaha.
  • jojopel
    jojopel Posts: 348 Member
    You have to adapt to the world, not the other way around.
  • kkzmom11
    kkzmom11 Posts: 220 Member
    to OP, like many others, it sounds like you have the issue, not your co-workers. unless they are actually shoving the cake and other things down your throat, literally.........you need to learn how to ignore that food, get your water, and walk away. throwing it away will make you the enemy of the office really quick. learn self control and that these temptations are a part of real life.
  • bugaha1
    bugaha1 Posts: 602 Member
    Sounds like everyday where I work, I just had a slice of pizza left over from a meeting.
  • thoshowski
    thoshowski Posts: 135 Member
    Bring a bigger bottle for water. Then you don't have to go into the kitchen as often. You are the one that is limiting yourself, not your coworkers. They aren't bringing the food just to sabotage your hard work. They are bringing it in to share with others. Deal with it and move on. If you can't control yourself, then you most likely have more food issues than you think.
  • astartig
    astartig Posts: 549 Member
    If they want to have a treat counter, fine, but it should not be next to the only source of water. Nobody is stopping them from putting their cake on their desk.

    No one is stopping you from not eating the cake. Stop trying to pawn off your personal responsibility.

    my experiences with food in the office are different. I recall the times I flat turned things down with a lot of peer pressure. I never minded the food being there but I did mind the peer pressure part.
  • What I've learned and you should consider is that the only environment that you can control is your personal space. The office kitchen is there for the pleasure and convenience of everyone in the office. If temptation is that great for you than get a small Keurig for your desk and bring a case of water that you keep at your desk. If you don't want to do that or if office policy prevents you from bringing in a personal coffee maker, than you will have to trust that your will and desire to loose weight or continue with a healthy eating habit will out weigh any temptation to indulge in office treats brought in by others for the pleasure and enjoyment of others. The only person that can wreck your hard work, fortunately is you! You have choices. Indulge in the office junk or make sure that you have with you, what you need to continue on your healthy path.
  • markink81
    markink81 Posts: 73 Member
    I have a few coworkers who are on the larger side and continually bring in *kitten* food, leave it on the counter in the kitchen and then send out an email telling us to help ourselves. Today there were two partial cakes from two different people. I have no problem avoiding or limiting my cake (or other nasty snack) consumption when it isn't around the house and I don't miss it. But when somebody shoves it right in my face I crack. Would I be in the wrong if I just started throwing this stuff in the garbage? The kitchen is the only place I can get water and coffee so there's no way I can just be big and avoid it.

    Are you really serious...Then control your environment, bring in your own healthy snacks Quest Bars, Carrot sticks whatever floats your boat but my god,let people do their own thing and worry about you and your diet .
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    If they want to have a treat counter, fine, but it should not be next to the only source of water. Nobody is stopping them from putting their cake on their desk.

    No one is stopping you from not eating the cake. Stop trying to pawn off your personal responsibility.

    my experiences with food in the office are different. I recall the times I flat turned things down with a lot of peer pressure. I never minded the food being there but I did mind the peer pressure part.

    It's called boundaries, and knowing it is okay to say no.
  • I have some very generous colleagues who are always bringing in cakes, crisps and sweets and leaving them out for everyone. I try to balance this out by bringing in nuts, seeds and fruit so that everyone (me included!) has a slightly healthier alternative, at least by my definition, if they get an attack of the nibbles!
  • BattleTaxi
    BattleTaxi Posts: 752 Member
    If you're blaming everyone else for your failures, you're doing it wrong.
  • Have you ever consider that maybe if you don't want what they bring, you could bring a plate to share things that you feel are healthy. A bowl of fruit, veggies and dip, nuts, cheese and sausage. Be an example. You can only control yourself not the people around you. They are just trying to be nice.

    This. I was going to say the same thing. Bring healthy snacks, for you or for everyone.
    But I'm still hoping this is a joke and you're not delusional enough to think that you have a right to throw away other people's food because you're dieting. Bring your own damn water to work. If there's room for cakes on people's desks like you want then there's room for you to keep extra water. And if you lack self control so severely maybe you need to figure out a way to work a small treat into your calories. Or get a new job.
  • sugboog29
    sugboog29 Posts: 630 Member
    Oh man...I'm usually the one who brings in the treats for the office!! I try and make them as healthy as possible, but I also realize my co-workers do not eat like I do. Yes, some of them should, but then again some of them are in fine shape and don't need to worry about an occasional treat. Guess I've been doing it all wrong....next time I shall just throw it away and save them!!
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
    Clearly, it's SABOTAGE.
  • herblackwings39
    herblackwings39 Posts: 3,930 Member
    I'm one of "those" people. I love to bake, but with just me and my husband at home a cake or pie would be stale before we finished it so I take things to work and leave them in the break area. I usually include a recipe in case someone has any food allergies or is watching their weight they know just how much damage it's going to do for the day. I've never considered it shoving something in someone's face before. Most of my coworkers are not concerned with weight loss and seem to enjoy the treats. I get the joy of baking without wasting food or eating the entire thing. I can say that I would find it extremely rude if someone just tossed it into the trash. It's put there for EVERYONE, not one person. If it really bothers you cover it with a piece of aluminum foil so you don't have to see it whenever you walk by.
  • Howdoyoufeeltoday
    Howdoyoufeeltoday Posts: 481 Member
    I think you should join the "Pastry chef: immoral and unethical" thread....you and the OP seem like you would hit it off great.
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